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Pete Zicato · 10-28-2011, 02:53 PM

So sorry Sundae. Peace be with you.

infinite monkey · 10-28-2011, 03:02 PM

Warm thoughts to you and your family Sundae. I'm glad he went peacefully with his loved ones with him: it's the most any of us could ask for.

Pico and ME · 10-28-2011, 03:13 PM

RIP Sundae's Grandpa

My heart goes out to your family.

Undertoad · 10-28-2011, 03:15 PM

Warm thoughts is right. Sundae. Thank you for sharing it all with us.

I am hoisting an apple juice in his honor.

Clodfobble · 10-28-2011, 03:19 PM

A good life for a good man. I'm glad you all could be there for him. If I could, I'd be there to hug both you and your mom.

classicman · 10-28-2011, 04:03 PM

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
Remember the good times. From what you have said here he certainly was a wonderful man.

DanaC · 10-28-2011, 04:45 PM

I never met him. But your posts and pics made me feel almost like I did a little. So sorry for your loss. Glad you could be there with him.

*hugs*

Griff · 10-28-2011, 05:02 PM

Peace to you and yours Sundae.

glatt · 10-28-2011, 06:41 PM

I'm sorry, Sundae.

pensive pam · 10-28-2011, 06:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

RIP James Arthur Doyle
28/02/1923 - 28/10/2011

Died peacefully in bed this evening with Mum, Dad, Laura and me in the room.

Dear Sundae: My deepest condolences. This is very sad and upsetting news. I often wonder whether it is better for people to slowly wither away; or to pass away suddenly (like in a plane crash.)

He lived a very long life...
Wishing you the best...

Pam.

footfootfoot · 10-28-2011, 06:57 PM

Sundae, my thoughts are with you.

BigV · 10-28-2011, 08:09 PM

Dear Sundae

I know this is a painful time. I don't have anything to soothe that pain but I will remind you that you have my support, and the support of everyone here. Support and care for you and for your family. Keep that in mind, please.

Yours,

monster · 10-28-2011, 09:34 PM

My condolences, C.

limey · 10-29-2011, 05:22 AM

So sorry for your loss Sundae. Hugs to you and your family.

Sundae · 10-29-2011, 09:31 AM

Thank you all.
It's tougher than I thought it would be.
Now he's no longer the shell he became in the last week I am free to remember him as he was and that means mourning him.

But he had a long life and in the end a gentle death.
He wouldn't really have planned on 17 years without my Nan, she really was the love of his life. But he was in his own place until February this year. He had as much fried chicken as he wanted up til then. And he was in a stable environment when he died, with staff constantly in attendance in the last hours until they realised the end was coming and called us.

It's not like he was in that awful hospital where he could easily have been dead for hours without anyone noticing.

The staff came in to say goodbye as I was leaving (I came home to start making phone calls) and they were in tears. It was a good place to die, with kind and respectful people. Grandad used to joke that he couldn't understand a word any of them said (the basic carers are mostly Eastern European or Filipino) but he would always smile and nod and joke and they were charmed by his passive smile and gentle demeanor.

They really cared. Even as I was leaving they were bringing in tea for Mum and me. And the Nurse on shift had elected to stay until the Doctor came to sign the death certificate, despite her shift finishing 30 minutes beforehand.

We couldn't have asked for better.

10-28-2011, 02:53 PM	#7261
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	So sorry Sundae. Peace be with you. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

10-28-2011, 03:13 PM	#7263
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	RIP Sundae's Grandpa My heart goes out to your family. __________________ Jesse LaGreca in 2012 “Seven Deadly Sins: Wealth without work, Pleasure without conscience, Science without humanity, Knowledge without character, Politics without principle, Commerce without morality, Worship without sacrifice.” – Mahatma Gandhi

10-28-2011, 03:19 PM	#7265
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	A good life for a good man. I'm glad you all could be there for him. If I could, I'd be there to hug both you and your mom. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

10-28-2011, 04:03 PM	#7266
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Remember the good times. From what you have said here he certainly was a wonderful man. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-28-2011, 05:02 PM	#7268
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Peace to you and yours Sundae. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

10-28-2011, 03:02 PM	#7262
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Warm thoughts to you and your family Sundae. I'm glad he went peacefully with his loved ones with him: it's the most any of us could ask for.

10-28-2011, 03:15 PM	#7264
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Warm thoughts is right. Sundae. Thank you for sharing it all with us. I am hoisting an apple juice in his honor.

10-28-2011, 06:41 PM	#7269
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I'm sorry, Sundae.

10-28-2011, 06:57 PM	#7271
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Sundae, my thoughts are with you. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

10-28-2011, 08:09 PM	#7272
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Dear Sundae I know this is a painful time. I don't have anything to soothe that pain but I will remind you that you have my support, and the support of everyone here. Support and care for you and for your family. Keep that in mind, please. Yours, __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

10-28-2011, 09:34 PM	#7273
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	My condolences, C. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

10-29-2011, 05:22 AM	#7274
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	So sorry for your loss Sundae. Hugs to you and your family. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

10-29-2011, 09:31 AM	#7275
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Thank you all. It's tougher than I thought it would be. Now he's no longer the shell he became in the last week I am free to remember him as he was and that means mourning him. But he had a long life and in the end a gentle death. He wouldn't really have planned on 17 years without my Nan, she really was the love of his life. But he was in his own place until February this year. He had as much fried chicken as he wanted up til then. And he was in a stable environment when he died, with staff constantly in attendance in the last hours until they realised the end was coming and called us. It's not like he was in that awful hospital where he could easily have been dead for hours without anyone noticing. The staff came in to say goodbye as I was leaving (I came home to start making phone calls) and they were in tears. It was a good place to die, with kind and respectful people. Grandad used to joke that he couldn't understand a word any of them said (the basic carers are mostly Eastern European or Filipino) but he would always smile and nod and joke and they were charmed by his passive smile and gentle demeanor. They really cared. Even as I was leaving they were bringing in tea for Mum and me. And the Nurse on shift had elected to stay until the Doctor came to sign the death certificate, despite her shift finishing 30 minutes beforehand. We couldn't have asked for better. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac Last edited by Sundae; 10-29-2011 at 09:51 AM.

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