What's upsetting you today? - Page 211

Pooka · 01-14-2009, 09:53 AM

The Poo Poo Pee Pee Puppies... and by that I mean the boy child who has angry butt and is teathing which combined makes him ever so plesant to be around and the girl child who is potty training all over my floor.

Trilby · 01-14-2009, 10:02 AM

Oh no, oh no, oh no!!!

I was on the phone with the wife telling her not to throw away her marriage and while I was talking to her, HE beeped in and said, "If I get divorced, can I move in with you? Some crazy shit is going on," and I'm like, OMG.

This guy CANNOT move in with me. WHAT should I do? Tell the wife he called me just now? Or hope nothing happens and they make up? (I told the wife nothing except he had called me...) Hoyboy.

I talked to my sponsor. I'm cool.

classicman · 01-14-2009, 11:07 AM

Wow - I'm having mixed feelings about this. I feel sad for you that you are dealing with such a negative effed up situation. I also have the "You gotta sleep in the bed you made" sort of feeling and I feel sad for the wife.
IIRC though, you knew he was married and your attitude about the whole situation was very different when it was all fun & games. Now that its real and "in your face" it sucks bigtime.

What do you do? I got no idea - Apparently you were "just having fun" - then tell him to go away, delete/block his #'s from your phones, apologize profusely to the wife & move to Budapest.

Are there kids involved? How long have you been seeing him? Does any of this matter, really? - I dunno - just trying to get a better overall picture of the situation.

Trilby · 01-14-2009, 12:45 PM

@classicman.

This is not the professor guy, just in case you are mixed up.

This is a man I've known for about 10 years. I was dating him when he cheated on me and I was done with him. He then got married. We worked at the same place (tho far, far away from each other--like MILES away) but he could still (and did) come in to see me from time to time.

I moved. He found me. He called, he came over. I had no feelings for him and I still don't. Yeah, I had sex with him. Yeah, I shouldn't have. I didn't mean/want or intend the wife to find out but she did...NO KIDS involved.

I told her I will not see him again and I mean it. That doesn't mean he isn't seeing "girlfriends" all over the place, though. He's like that.

Undertoad · 01-14-2009, 12:48 PM

Quote:

"If I get divorced, can I move in with you? Some crazy shit is going on that I'm the cause of, yet do not accept responsibility for."

fixed that for him

serial cheater, loves chaos, loves danger in his relationships, doesn't care who it hurts...

Trilby · 01-14-2009, 01:58 PM

yeah, but I'm to blame for it just as much as him.

my sponsor said to write this down: DO NOT BOTHER ME AGAIN and then stick by it and try not to be such a chaotic woman myself. she's right.

Undertoad · 01-14-2009, 02:18 PM

If it hadn't been you, it would have been some other woman.

Pie · 01-14-2009, 02:50 PM

You should let the wife move in with you, and both of you tell him to get lost.

DanaC · 01-14-2009, 03:02 PM

That's a point, is his wife hawt? Imagine how freaked he'd be? lol

DanaC · 01-14-2009, 03:10 PM

Ok, levity aside... I have a poorly Pilau. I spent the first 45 minutes of my morning disinfecting large chunks of living room and kitchen.

It cannot possibly still smell of sick. It can't. I have liberally bathed swathes of house in strong disinfectant, handwashed covers, Febreze-sprayed furniture, opened doors and windows etc etc. Two other people have been to my house and they say they can't smell anything. Me? I can't get rid of the smell.

Anyway...more important than odours and disinfectants and clean-ups, is the Poorly Pilau. He's not a happy pup. He's clearly feeling better now than he was earlier because he's scouting for food. But he was pretty laissez-faire about the whole dinner thing until I brought out the chicken and rice about half an hour ago (poorly dog food). He had a tiny portion and he's been angling for more since.

Poor babes. He must have felt really rough last night. He'd been sick like six or seven times. Worst thing is, I heard him digging the carpet and generally mooching about the place in an unsettled fashion and I ignored him because I was half asleep. It's entirely possible at some point he's scratched on the front door and I've missed it.

Not an earth shattering level of upset I realise, but there we go.

Shawnee123 · 01-14-2009, 03:12 PM

Awwww, poor Pilau. Hug him for me.

glatt · 01-14-2009, 03:16 PM

but not too tightly. Poor guy.

Trilby · 01-14-2009, 03:23 PM

for Pilau

Hope he is feeling better soon

Cicero · 01-14-2009, 03:50 PM

Well it upsets me Dana...oooh!

Get Better Soon Pilau! Poor Buddy!!

You'll be back into your snausages soon my friend...

classicman · 01-14-2009, 06:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brianna

yeah, but I'm to blame for it just as much as him.

my sponsor said to write this down: DO NOT BOTHER ME AGAIN and then stick by it and try not to be such a chaotic woman myself. she's right.

I'm torn on the blame part, I guess so, but HE is the married one, not you. Then again, you knew he was married...

Stick to the plan - He certainly isn't worth it. There are plenty of "free" fish in the sea for ya.

01-14-2009, 10:02 AM	#3152
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Oh no, oh no, oh no!!! I was on the phone with the wife telling her not to throw away her marriage and while I was talking to her, HE beeped in and said, "If I get divorced, can I move in with you? Some crazy shit is going on," and I'm like, OMG. This guy CANNOT move in with me. WHAT should I do? Tell the wife he called me just now? Or hope nothing happens and they make up? (I told the wife nothing except he had called me...) Hoyboy. I talked to my sponsor. I'm cool. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum Last edited by Trilby; 01-14-2009 at 10:39 AM.

01-14-2009, 11:07 AM	#3153
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Wow - I'm having mixed feelings about this. I feel sad for you that you are dealing with such a negative effed up situation. I also have the "You gotta sleep in the bed you made" sort of feeling and I feel sad for the wife. IIRC though, you knew he was married and your attitude about the whole situation was very different when it was all fun & games. Now that its real and "in your face" it sucks bigtime. What do you do? I got no idea - Apparently you were "just having fun" - then tell him to go away, delete/block his #'s from your phones, apologize profusely to the wife & move to Budapest. Are there kids involved? How long have you been seeing him? Does any of this matter, really? - I dunno - just trying to get a better overall picture of the situation. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

01-14-2009, 12:45 PM	#3154
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	@classicman. This is not the professor guy, just in case you are mixed up. This is a man I've known for about 10 years. I was dating him when he cheated on me and I was done with him. He then got married. We worked at the same place (tho far, far away from each other--like MILES away) but he could still (and did) come in to see me from time to time. I moved. He found me. He called, he came over. I had no feelings for him and I still don't. Yeah, I had sex with him. Yeah, I shouldn't have. I didn't mean/want or intend the wife to find out but she did...NO KIDS involved. I told her I will not see him again and I mean it. That doesn't mean he isn't seeing "girlfriends" all over the place, though. He's like that. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-14-2009, 01:58 PM	#3156
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	yeah, but I'm to blame for it just as much as him. my sponsor said to write this down: DO NOT BOTHER ME AGAIN and then stick by it and try not to be such a chaotic woman myself. she's right. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-14-2009, 02:50 PM	#3158
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	You should let the wife move in with you, and both of you tell him to get lost. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

01-14-2009, 09:53 AM	#3151
Pooka Your Invisible Rabbit Friend Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Betwixt and Between Posts: 528	The Poo Poo Pee Pee Puppies... and by that I mean the boy child who has angry butt and is teathing which combined makes him ever so plesant to be around and the girl child who is potty training all over my floor.

01-14-2009, 02:18 PM	#3157
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	If it hadn't been you, it would have been some other woman.

01-14-2009, 03:02 PM	#3159
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	That's a point, is his wife hawt? Imagine how freaked he'd be? lol

01-14-2009, 03:10 PM	#3160
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Ok, levity aside... I have a poorly Pilau. I spent the first 45 minutes of my morning disinfecting large chunks of living room and kitchen. It cannot possibly still smell of sick. It can't. I have liberally bathed swathes of house in strong disinfectant, handwashed covers, Febreze-sprayed furniture, opened doors and windows etc etc. Two other people have been to my house and they say they can't smell anything. Me? I can't get rid of the smell. Anyway...more important than odours and disinfectants and clean-ups, is the Poorly Pilau. He's not a happy pup. He's clearly feeling better now than he was earlier because he's scouting for food. But he was pretty laissez-faire about the whole dinner thing until I brought out the chicken and rice about half an hour ago (poorly dog food). He had a tiny portion and he's been angling for more since. Poor babes. He must have felt really rough last night. He'd been sick like six or seven times. Worst thing is, I heard him digging the carpet and generally mooching about the place in an unsettled fashion and I ignored him because I was half asleep. It's entirely possible at some point he's scratched on the front door and I've missed it. Not an earth shattering level of upset I realise, but there we go.

01-14-2009, 03:12 PM	#3161
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Awwww, poor Pilau. Hug him for me. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

01-14-2009, 03:16 PM	#3162
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	but not too tightly. Poor guy.

01-14-2009, 03:23 PM	#3163
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	for Pilau Hope he is feeling better soon __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

01-14-2009, 03:50 PM	#3164
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Well it upsets me Dana...oooh! Get Better Soon Pilau! Poor Buddy!! You'll be back into your snausages soon my friend... __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

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