Well, This is Going to be a Lousy Situation

[Elspode]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

My diatribe has nothing to do with 'Spode, it was at Donna Bin Laden.
Everyone who's been around here for some time knows Elspode makes Ghandi look like an SS Stormtrooper. (No Godwin) They both were aware the marriage was petering out, so the divorce was not a surprise. He was also aware she could be ruthless to those that deserved it.

But the way she blindsided him, making the exit as smooth as possible for herself, leaving him debts, a fucked credit rating, and virtually no chance to recover any equity from the house, is lower than whale shit.

I know he will forgive her, that's our 'Spode.
But I'll be God Damned if I will... no way, no how, not ever.

Bruce, this is all true. And you're right...I've already forgiven her. She's aching from this. It doesn't score her any points with me, but yeah, she's fucked in the head over all of this. As well she should be.

[xoxoxoBruce]

I still love ya, remind me to give you a reach around next time I'm out that way.

[Elspode]

Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

I think she's got some bad Karma coming.

She does, and I'm sure she knows it. For my part, I've been trying to feed my positive karma in the wake of all this, but part of feeding the Positivity Beast is making sure that you spread it around.

I wish her well. When the inevitable day comes that the only person who can absolve her, comfort her, tell her she'll be okay...when that day comes, I'll be there, I'll provide it, she'll take it...and walk away.

It's what is required. It's what I do.

[Elspode]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

I still love ya, remind me to give you a reach around next time I'm out that way.

I have your picture stenciled on my underwear.

[xoxoxoBruce]

If it helps you, directly or indirectly, then surely you must. No one can condemn you for following your heart.

[jimhelm]

Im insane?

Thats a hell of a thing to say.

[sexobon]

Insane can also mean extravagant/excessive. Perhaps Elspode simply felt that you overanalyzed; or, over identified with his situation for your limited exposure.

[jimhelm]

What


Ever

[footfootfoot]

[plthijinx]

damnitalltohell bro! FAWK! tough process to go through as we all know. but things get better and work out. positive thoughts for ya man!

[Elspode]

[quote=jimhelm;777362]Im insane?

Thats a hell of a thing to say.[/QUOTEJ

Just illustrating the breadth of your POV. What is insane to me is perfectly suited to Jim. Don't be offended.

[Elspode]

So, here I am, a week and two hours post-discovery of the hard left turn my life has taken. Thanks to the support of a whole lot of friends, most of my stuff is now moved (although most of it is packed away in Leslie's garage and basement). She and I are pretty much acting like newlyweds - okay, 50-something newlyweds, so we aren't keeping the neighbors up at night - and squeezing our households together, cleaning and culling as we go.

There are a lot of issues to be surmounted. I still haven't been served with divorce papers yet, so I don't really know what terms Selene is going to be asking for. We have no assets whatsoever. By that I mean that we are upside down on the house, we each own our own ancient cars, and the stuff she took vs the stuff she left me probably balances the scale pretty evenly. I expect the basic outcome to be that I have to pay all the outstanding utility bills (a considerable sum), some portion of the legal costs of the divorce, and any associated costs of short selling the house...as well as having to deal with the sale and presale cleanup of the place.

Overall, with the exception of the house, this is all going down a whole lot less painfully than my first separation and divorce, and for that, I am grateful, because I very nearly took myself out that time. I wish that was hyperbole, but it isn't.

I hate it when terrible things happen, and the victim survives, and people say "Wow, you were really lucky"...because how can walking out of a train wreck broken and bloodied be luck? But I *am* lucky. I have the love of my partner of four years, the respect and support of the community that I have served for the last fifteen years, and an ex wife who seems to not be trying to eviscerate me on the battlefield of divorce.

It could be worse. It could most certainly be worse.

[sexobon]

Do you still have a motorcycle?

[Elspode]

I do, yes indeed. If it weren't Winter, it would be my primary transportation.

[Pete Zicato]

Originally Posted by Elspode

I wish her well. When the inevitable day comes that the only person who can absolve her, comfort her, tell her she'll be okay...when that day comes, I'll be there, I'll provide it, she'll take it...and walk away.

It's what is required. It's what I do.

I refuse to believe that God/The Universe/Nature wants you to be a doormat.