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05-12-2009, 12:57 PM | #16 |
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Me four. Though I have snuck the occasional look into the nsfw thread (morbid curiosity?)
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05-12-2009, 12:59 PM | #17 |
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I go tot he WTF NSFW thread, cuz they're strangers. My SO and I are okay with looking at other people naked, as long as we don't knwo them. Is that strange?
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05-12-2009, 01:42 PM | #18 |
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I should probably stay out of this as people have lost a lot a respect towards me but I would like two put my 2 cents in on this matter.
I do respect the women that do post in the nsfw forum as they have worked very hard on their bodies and they should have the right to post them with there significant other or spouse knowing about it. Usually if they are doing that boundaries are set and they should be respected. |
05-12-2009, 05:04 PM | #19 |
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You're fat!
See, that was too far. /thread
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05-12-2009, 06:05 PM | #20 |
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So, it would seem that from the responses here, most people consider how their partner will feel about what they're doing and act accordingly, even though some of us have more relaxed views about nudity and publicly sharing it.
I'm actually surprised that no one has said they'd do it or would if they wanted to, and bugger what their partner thinks because it's their body and their partner should have to learn how to deal with it. Is there no one here that feels that way???
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05-12-2009, 06:10 PM | #21 | |
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05-12-2009, 06:31 PM | #22 |
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well, aren't you just Mr Perfect Husband Pants?
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05-12-2009, 06:53 PM | #23 |
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I'm not going to go into too much detail, because this is a public forum, but I've been in shoes similar to Labrat's. Quite a few years ago, I was on some risque forums along with my partner, and we posted NSF pics of us individually and together. We did not communicate the boundaries clearly enough, I suppose, or maybe I deliberately misinterpreted them (in a pickled brain sort of way).
Interactions were had one-on-one in cyberspace that should never have happened. It nearly ended our relationship, but I swore not to interact privately anymore, or post NSF pictures. I unjoined all of the communities involved. I also quit drinking, as my judgment had clearly been impaired. I've never broken the promises I made them, including not touching another drop of alcohol. He made similar promises. That was 6 years ago. I am not a prude and there are some very NSF pics of me (and us) floating around cyberspace, but I do believe that my relationship is more important that posting pics to strangers. I can say that a simple photo, text, IM, or chat has the potential to evolve into something that might hurt ones partner unless you're careful and communicate clearly with one another.
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05-12-2009, 07:22 PM | #24 |
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05-12-2009, 07:28 PM | #25 |
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I agree... best to have clearly defined boundries... well communicated and not leave your partner in the dark about what is going on... I think thats where the problem occurs... it becomes a secret thing and that can destroy trust... as long as it is all out in the open whats the big deal.
Personally- Flint and I have no secrets... so its all cool. I know about Pretty Much everything and so does he... so its all cool |
05-12-2009, 08:17 PM | #26 |
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I've mostly been in monogamous relationships, and I've also been poly. IMO the most important things in any type of relationship are honesty and communication.
That said, I've never thought twice about posting NSFW pics of myself and I've never discussed it with my partners. I would, honestly, have been stunned if, in my monogamous relationships, my SO had found out and objected. By "stunned" I don't mean I would think they were wrong... it's just never occurred to me that they might have a proprietary sense about images of my body. That stands for publicly posted, non-sexually-graphic images... simple nudes or other provocative photos. Private messages are another topic. That opens a one-on-one relationship with the recipient that, for me, would require discussion and disclosure with the SO. In my own relationships, deception has been the most painful and destructive thing I've encountered. It's often really tempting to tell your partner what you know they want to hear, and then do what you want to do under the "what they don't know won't hurt them" theory. Unfortunately, that theory is deeply flawed; what they don't know hurts the relationship, and both people in it. |
05-12-2009, 09:55 PM | #27 | |
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To me personal NSFW is all about context.....my partner is fine with a random picture of my arse or boobs, but a full length picture of me with a face and doing bad things.....thats personal |
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05-13-2009, 12:22 AM | #28 |
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I'd like to stay away, but it's part of the job.
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05-13-2009, 04:20 PM | #29 |
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That was good, Bruce. Very good.
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05-14-2009, 11:48 AM | #30 |
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It's a dirty job, but someone's gotta do it.........
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