Community Etiquette

DucksNuts · 08-21-2009, 06:49 PM

So say your a member of an online community, much like this one I guess

Two people of the opposite (or same) sex hook up, whether its in the emotional or physical sense, when that connection finishes - does the *standard* friends etiquette apply?

By friend etiquette, I mean like, where you dont go out with your friends exes, other friends dont lie in wait for the connection to end before pouncing, not shitting where you eat....that kinda stuff?

Meh, coming from a girl who's best friend married her ex (and Im mates with both of them) and a circle of friends where there is no such thing as sloppy seconds......my moral radar has always been a little off.

Thoughts?

Clodfobble · 08-21-2009, 07:09 PM

In my experience the "standard" friends etiquette is anything but standard, and varies widely from person to person. I think you should just ask the online friend what she thinks about you hooking up with her ex-fuck-buddy.

DucksNuts · 08-22-2009, 06:58 PM

Weird conversation even with an online buddy......"so, ahhh, Im thinking your ex is hot and I was gonna give him a test drive...you OK with that?

j/k actually...its not my situation, but one that interests me

xoxoxoBruce · 08-22-2009, 07:04 PM

You can ask the friend why it didn't work out and find out his flaw. Then casually mention that wouldn't bother you and maybe she'll suggest you go for it. Maybe.

casimendocina · 08-31-2009, 02:09 PM

I'd say that if the person in question is considering it, then it's fairly likely to happen anyway at some point (no matter how sensible one thinks one should be or how the ex might feel about it...guess one has to go about these things in the least antagnostic way possible).

lookout123 · 08-31-2009, 06:43 PM

I think I may have to visit Vegas before Ducks gets there. I've got a sneaking suspicion that town just isn't ready for her.

richlevy · 08-31-2009, 09:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lookout123

I think I may have to visit Vegas before Ducks gets there. I've got a sneaking suspicion that town just isn't ready for her.

So, should I sell my timeshare?

Hey Ducks, let me know when you plan to go to Vegas.

lookout123 · 09-01-2009, 01:58 AM

Mrs L is down (or up depending on the hemisphere) for just about anything but I don't think even she is prepared for the whirlwind that is the ducksnuts.

DucksNuts · 09-01-2009, 04:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lookout123

I think I may have to visit Vegas before Ducks gets there. I've got a sneaking suspicion that town just isn't ready for her.

Awwww, I thought you would of been coming to play with me, not running away!!

Madman · 09-01-2009, 12:08 PM

I don't date people I know.

I'm just saying...

lookout123 · 09-01-2009, 01:27 PM

Ah, Ducks. The wife leaves me a lot of slack in the leash, but not that much.

08-21-2009, 06:49 PM	#1
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Community Etiquette So say your a member of an online community, much like this one I guess Two people of the opposite (or same) sex hook up, whether its in the emotional or physical sense, when that connection finishes - does the standard friends etiquette apply? By friend etiquette, I mean like, where you dont go out with your friends exes, other friends dont lie in wait for the connection to end before pouncing, not shitting where you eat....that kinda stuff? Meh, coming from a girl who's best friend married her ex (and Im mates with both of them) and a circle of friends where there is no such thing as sloppy seconds......my moral radar has always been a little off. Thoughts?

08-21-2009, 07:09 PM	#2
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	In my experience the "standard" friends etiquette is anything but standard, and varies widely from person to person. I think you should just ask the online friend what she thinks about you hooking up with her ex-fuck-buddy. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

08-22-2009, 07:04 PM	#4
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	You can ask the friend why it didn't work out and find out his flaw. Then casually mention that wouldn't bother you and maybe she'll suggest you go for it. Maybe. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

08-31-2009, 06:43 PM	#6
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	I think I may have to visit Vegas before Ducks gets there. I've got a sneaking suspicion that town just isn't ready for her. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

09-01-2009, 01:58 AM	#8
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	Mrs L is down (or up depending on the hemisphere) for just about anything but I don't think even she is prepared for the whirlwind that is the ducksnuts. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

08-22-2009, 06:58 PM	#3
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Weird conversation even with an online buddy......"so, ahhh, Im thinking your ex is hot and I was gonna give him a test drive...you OK with that? j/k actually...its not my situation, but one that interests me

08-31-2009, 02:09 PM	#5
casimendocina Professor Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,622	I'd say that if the person in question is considering it, then it's fairly likely to happen anyway at some point (no matter how sensible one thinks one should be or how the ex might feel about it...guess one has to go about these things in the least antagnostic way possible).

09-01-2009, 12:08 PM	#10
Madman has left the building. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 455	I don't date people I know. I'm just saying...

09-01-2009, 01:27 PM	#11
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	Ah, Ducks. The wife leaves me a lot of slack in the leash, but not that much. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

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