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07-31-2006, 08:53 AM | #1 |
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Fear of Loss
I don't mean like you might leave me, I mean like you might die. Not in an abstract sense, but in a very immediate sense. You might die today. Or some other terrible thing, beyond our ability to predict or control, may happen. This has always bothered me. Like a persistant movie reel in the back of my thoughts, reminding me of the dangers of the world. The closer I get to someone, the worse it gets. I don't let it run my life, but there it is, always there.
What does this say about me? Why am I like this?
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07-31-2006, 09:04 AM | #2 |
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Could be dysthymia--chronic, low-level depression.
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07-31-2006, 10:12 AM | #3 |
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For me it's fear of change. I'm scared she'll be a completely different person tomorrow... or, more realistically, a completely different person three years from now when we're old enough to get married. Or just as bad, I'll be completely different and she'll dump me anyway.
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07-31-2006, 10:51 AM | #4 |
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I don't know. It would depend upon who you are worried about or just worried in general. There is alot of info on the web about conquering fear. Meditaion or mind control ( self ) can quiet run amok thoughts. Something to focus on like a tailsman. Well you know we are biologically set up to believe in something. There may or may not be any power in an object or symbol but it helps focus the mind. ie: a special rock in the pocket , a cross or a pentagram ect.
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07-31-2006, 11:01 AM | #6 | |
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What I would say is that I am accutely aware that "bad things" such as fatal traffic accidents could likely occur at any given moment. I don't dwell on it, and I don't need help dealing with it. I'm just curious about the origin of this persistent thought pattern.
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07-31-2006, 11:05 AM | #7 |
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O.C.D
you see brilliant minds sometimes are quirky like that. I am a dullard so I don't have any OVER thinking problems so I really can't relate. |
07-31-2006, 11:58 AM | #8 |
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I was just about to say OCD too. I used to be completely unable to go down a flight of stairs without picturing myself tumbling down it in the back of my mind, or drive a car without seeing myself veering off the road at every turn. Over the last few years, I have gotten over many of my compulsive symptoms (lining shit up for no reason, folding the laundry precisely the right way...) and the constant awareness of terrible posibilities has diminished as well.
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07-31-2006, 12:02 PM | #9 | |
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07-31-2006, 12:13 PM | #10 |
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Sure, I like the way I am, too. I wasn't actively trying to get over the symptoms, I've just noticed they've faded over a period of about 4-5 years.
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07-31-2006, 12:20 PM | #11 |
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I sometimes think I have a touch of OCD too, I fixate on things and cant stop thinking/cant shut up about them for long periods of time... and I have a thing about symmetry, I always have to have anything that is at all organized to be symmetrical.
And since no-one else made the comment on my post, I must... "Wefearchange"
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07-31-2006, 01:16 PM | #12 | |
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07-31-2006, 01:28 PM | #13 | |
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In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum |
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07-31-2006, 01:37 PM | #14 |
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There was a time in my life that I would negatively ruminate. That is not what I am describing here. I am describing the frequent occurance of a particular theme in my thoughts, which is an unpleasant one, but also realistic. And, I have my own perfectly effective methods for dealing with this situation. I guess my only queston is: does anyone have any suggestions as to the origin of this theme? I have my own theories, but I am curious.
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07-31-2006, 01:46 PM | #15 | |
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I think I would strive to have the love continue in whatever form it takes. Maybe it will or will not be in the way you imagine but to be open for whatever course it takes means you get to keep the love. The love remains whatever it becomes. I have to 'kapish' that alot myself. |
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