I agree. Quite effective. No real behaivor problems per se, more like bad decision making.

Help me out here folks...

Is it ok for your teen to look at porn on your computer? and in the case of IB, gay porn. ????

Is that a rag in that gasoline bottle?

Is looking at porn (gay, straight, whatever) online different from the days of yore, when kids looked at porn magazines?

Please can I coat it with superglue then light it while he's still holding it? What a troll. No wonder he has to exert such excessive parental control -his short-tempered paranoid name-calling aggression must have his kids hiding everything from him for fear of reprisals.

Why wouldn't it be? What will happen to them if they do? Or is it just BAD, no rationale required? Do share your wisdom. What will it do to them? Will it turm them into rapists or -worse still- make them gay?

I think when I have kids, when they get to be 13-14 I'll talk to them about porn -- not to say that they can't ever look at it, just that lots of people do but it has problems, some of the performers are exploited, and that it's REALLY REALLY not representative of real life. I think it's fine for them to look, as long as the first time my son sees a real-live vagina he won't be grossed out because it doesn't look like something he saw on fleshbot, and my daughter doesn't confuse actual gay people with yaoi characters.

I really think that my parents went about it wrong -- when they talked to my brother about porn, it was like "are you looking at this disgusting stuff?" Which sort of gets a reaction of "whoa, you'd really be happier not knowing, wouldn't you?" I don't want my kids to feel like they have to hide and lie to me. I'd rather that they understand that if they see something online that disturbs them, like child porn or pro-ana sites, that they'll be able to talk to me about it and understand that that's not what most people see as healthy.

All disclaimers apply, I do not have kids and am not planning to for at least four years, I don't even have a dog, etc.

You know, Merc, I was hoping to actually NOT attack you in my last drawn out post...

And it SICKENS me how you can just throw out something like that...As I said, I may not have biologically fathered any children, but I was stuck raising the little ones, and often. These children are turning out just fine. You can't give my argument no merit whatsover without sounding like a total dick, which after that, I believe you are little more than that.

I'd call you a man, but you need to grow the fuck up first.

Hell yes. Because the possibilities are unlimited. Your daddies playboy under the bed ain't nothing like it. And everyone of you knows that.:rolleyes:

ROTFLMAO!!!

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I don't have a response so I will use this as a filler.

What the hell does gay porn have to do with anything?

Or that it was just a bull shit response and statement that I found it quite funny. :D :D :D

Or I guess I could have just come back with another insult and we can start another insult exchange... :)

All those folks with such vast parenting experience..... Heh.:eyebrow:

Ibram, in answer to your question about porn online. I don't think there's a whole lot of difference other than that it costs more if the person trying to view it happens to click one of those dial-in thingies that charge buckets of money.

The interenet is the new medium and carries with it all the risks associated with any new medium.

The important thing to me is the same as it's always been. Educate your children so they know the difference between right and wrong and can critically analyse what they're doing or looking at and give a reasonable explanation for it if questioned.

Men don't buy porn mags as much as they used to thanks to the interenet. What are little boys (or girls) supposed to giggle over with their mates now?

Would you approve of your teen boy checking out gay porn on the internet? Let's for the sake of argument that he starts checking this stuff out at the age of 14, now he is 16 and it is all ok? I wonder if Ib's parents know what kind of porn he is checking out on the internet? Hmmmm....