I'm going insane!

Cloud · 03-06-2008, 08:48 PM

I had such a rotten day yesterday--stressed to the point of hysteria. To wit:

Daughter No. 2 split from her husband of a year and a half. So, now she's alone--again--with two kids this time. She's now in Portland.

So, I'm trying to decide if I should move up there. This not the first time I've contemplated this. It's not that daughter needs me so bad, I'm looking at a move for me, my career, etc.

But trying to decide such a major life change is making me crazy! Such a major change-- this level of stress is telling me something, but whether it's telling me I'm dumb for even considering it; or whether it means it's past time to make a change, I can't figure out yet.

Clodfobble · 03-06-2008, 09:47 PM

You say it would be a move for your career... what's the job market actually like up there? Maybe send out some resumes, get a feel for the possibilities, and then you'll have a better idea of whether this is something you really want (and are able) to do.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-06-2008, 10:09 PM

Does she want you there?

Drax · 03-06-2008, 11:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cloud

I'm going insane!

JTC

Cloud · 03-07-2008, 08:37 AM

she wants me there bad and the job market is better than here.

I'm at the top of my salary range for my profession here in town. I'll have to get another job eventually--my boss is 64 and isn't talking about retiring yet, but I have to look at the long term. My town has very few economic opportunities, and I figure I have another 15 years to work and save.

If I stay here, there's a chance--just a chance--that I'll be able to buy a house, which has been a life-long dream of mine. If I move, I'll lose that chance more than likely.

The thing is, I can go. I've lived here for 20 years, and I have no man in my life, no close friends. My lease is up next month, and I've saved a l ittle bit--enough for a move. But should I?

I kind of feel I owe it to myself to make a change, shake up my life a little, and go on an adventure. It would be risk--and if I don't take that risk, will I feel like a coward? If I'm going to do it, I should do it now, while I'm still young enough to get a good job and enjoy things.

ack!

xoxoxoBruce · 03-07-2008, 10:18 AM

Damn the torpedos....

binky · 03-07-2008, 10:48 AM

I would do it in a heartbeat, its beautiful there, and housing is very reasonable. The area about 20 miles NW of Portland is our retirement destination

Cicero · 03-07-2008, 11:36 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cloud

she wants me there bad and the job market is better than here.

I'm at the top of my salary range for my profession here in town. I'll have to get another job eventually--my boss is 64 and isn't talking about retiring yet, but I have to look at the long term. My town has very few economic opportunities, and I figure I have another 15 years to work and save.

If I stay here, there's a chance--just a chance--that I'll be able to buy a house, which has been a life-long dream of mine. If I move, I'll lose that chance more than likely.

The thing is, I can go. I've lived here for 20 years, and I have no man in my life, no close friends. My lease is up next month, and I've saved a l ittle bit--enough for a move. But should I?

I kind of feel I owe it to myself to make a change, shake up my life a little, and go on an adventure. It would be risk--and if I don't take that risk, will I feel like a coward? If I'm going to do it, I should do it now, while I'm still young enough to get a good job and enjoy things.

ack!

When I was contemplating moving down here, I didn't think I was ready...I stressed out, panicked, moved.....and god I'm happy I left that hell hole. Remember that hind-sight is 20/20 and you may not know how much a place is a drain on you until after the change, and you have a different perspective to view from.

I was worried about the move etc.....I thought I was getting too old for lots of upheaval...Turns out..the quality of my life is at least 35 percent better just for taking the risk and moving. I'm pretty happy with it, though the move was rough, and it was difficult finding a good job...It's just really nice not living where I was...The more I think back the more I am elated that my husband made me leave. I was actually over-worrying and everything turned out better than I dreamed...I was actually pretty stupid for staying there for so long...Like I said hindsight is 20/20.

That's actually the other place that we were going to move(Portland)...and we still may at some point.

I've always heard good stuff about it.

Shawnee123 · 03-07-2008, 12:01 PM

"Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing."
--Helen Keller

Go for it Cloud. Then you can post all about your new surroundings!

dar512 · 03-07-2008, 01:48 PM

Do you own a house now? Is it paid off?

Speaking from experience, it can be quite a shock when you realize that your 30yr loan won't be paid off until you're 78.

Cloud · 03-07-2008, 02:44 PM

no house, no.

where were you before, Cicero?

Cicero · 03-07-2008, 03:01 PM

I already told you that in a pm Clouder!! Remember? Anyhoo- I was in a lame town called colo. spgs. Why do you ask?

Cloud · 03-07-2008, 03:02 PM

oh, yeah, sorry. Just wondered.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-07-2008, 10:20 PM

GRANDBABIES!!!

Griff · 03-08-2008, 06:10 AM

It sounds like a good time for an adventure.

03-06-2008, 08:48 PM	#1
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	I'm going insane! I had such a rotten day yesterday--stressed to the point of hysteria. To wit: Daughter No. 2 split from her husband of a year and a half. So, now she's alone--again--with two kids this time. She's now in Portland. So, I'm trying to decide if I should move up there. This not the first time I've contemplated this. It's not that daughter needs me so bad, I'm looking at a move for me, my career, etc. But trying to decide such a major life change is making me crazy! Such a major change-- this level of stress is telling me something, but whether it's telling me I'm dumb for even considering it; or whether it means it's past time to make a change, I can't figure out yet. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

03-06-2008, 10:09 PM	#3
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Does she want you there? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

03-07-2008, 08:37 AM	#5
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	she wants me there bad and the job market is better than here. I'm at the top of my salary range for my profession here in town. I'll have to get another job eventually--my boss is 64 and isn't talking about retiring yet, but I have to look at the long term. My town has very few economic opportunities, and I figure I have another 15 years to work and save. If I stay here, there's a chance--just a chance--that I'll be able to buy a house, which has been a life-long dream of mine. If I move, I'll lose that chance more than likely. The thing is, I can go. I've lived here for 20 years, and I have no man in my life, no close friends. My lease is up next month, and I've saved a l ittle bit--enough for a move. But should I? I kind of feel I owe it to myself to make a change, shake up my life a little, and go on an adventure. It would be risk--and if I don't take that risk, will I feel like a coward? If I'm going to do it, I should do it now, while I'm still young enough to get a good job and enjoy things. ack! __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

03-07-2008, 10:18 AM	#6
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Damn the torpedos.... __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

03-07-2008, 10:48 AM	#7
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	I would do it in a heartbeat, its beautiful there, and housing is very reasonable. The area about 20 miles NW of Portland is our retirement destination __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

03-06-2008, 09:47 PM	#2
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	You say it would be a move for your career... what's the job market actually like up there? Maybe send out some resumes, get a feel for the possibilities, and then you'll have a better idea of whether this is something you really want (and are able) to do.

03-07-2008, 12:01 PM	#9
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	"Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing." --Helen Keller Go for it Cloud. Then you can post all about your new surroundings! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

03-07-2008, 01:48 PM	#10
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	Do you own a house now? Is it paid off? Speaking from experience, it can be quite a shock when you realize that your 30yr loan won't be paid off until you're 78. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

03-07-2008, 02:44 PM	#11
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	no house, no. where were you before, Cicero? __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

03-07-2008, 03:01 PM	#12
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	I already told you that in a pm Clouder!! Remember? Anyhoo- I was in a lame town called colo. spgs. Why do you ask? __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung

03-07-2008, 03:02 PM	#13
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	oh, yeah, sorry. Just wondered. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

03-07-2008, 10:20 PM	#14
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	GRANDBABIES!!! __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

03-08-2008, 06:10 AM	#15
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	It sounds like a good time for an adventure. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

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