How do you hide a FB friend's crazy talk on your newsfeed or timeline or whatever?

footfootfoot · 05-26-2013, 07:46 PM

A few years ago an ex GF contacted me on LinkedIn. It had been almost 20 years since we split up so I replied to her. That was about three years ago.

When I signed up for FB I wasn't careful enough when I let it scour my email addresses and it sent an invite to her. Now we are FBfriends and I get these semi- regular emails about how I was the love of her life. (I think I mentioned this elsewhere on the cellar) anyway, she's cooled out with that but is now responding to way too many of my posts.

I would like to make her invisible to other people on my newsfeed/timeline or whatever. Is there a way to do that?
I would rather not unfriend her because she'd just email me incessantly or decide that she needs to come see me.

ZenGum · 05-26-2013, 08:22 PM

Maintain YOUR boundaries. Your first duty is to yourself, not someone from decades back in your past.

a. Ask her to stop. Politely, clearly, simply.

b. If that doesn't work, Unfriend her. If she gets all stalkerish, tell her to stop. If she doesn't, call cops. But it probably won't come to that.

c. Invoke "The Woodchuck Solution". Save that as a last resort.

glatt · 05-26-2013, 09:00 PM

FB keeps changing the location of its tools around, but you can set it up so she doesn't get to see the stuff you post, so she'll never know she's missing anything. She'll just think you don't post as often as you used to.

classicman · 05-26-2013, 09:56 PM

glatt's direction would work for most people, but I get the feeling she stalks your page so it won't matter if you are in her newsfeed. She is coming to visit anyway.

Go with nice, but firm STOP or unfriend.

IMO, you are going to end up unfriending here one way or the other. Get your settings right, right now. Make sure that no one sees squat if they are not your friend. No public nothing.

footfootfoot · 05-26-2013, 10:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ZenGum

Maintain YOUR boundaries. Your first duty is to yourself, not someone from decades back in your past.

a. Ask her to stop. Politely, clearly, simply.

b. If that doesn't work, Unfriend her. If she gets all stalkerish, tell her to stop. If she doesn't, call cops. But it probably won't come to that.

c. Invoke "The Woodchuck Solution". Save that as a last resort.

That would be the smart thing to do, it's what I did 20 years ago and it worked for 20 years, so it might be a good thing to do again.

In the meantime I'll also try to find the tools that Glatt mentioned.

Glinda · 05-28-2013, 05:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

When I signed up for FB I wasn't careful enough when I let it scour my email addresses and it sent an invite to her.

Yeah, when I first checked out FB and it asked me out of the blue if I knew all these people (most of which I did know), it freaked me out so bad I wanted nothing to do with that data-mining shit.

Don't feel like I've missed a damned thing.

orthodoc · 05-28-2013, 05:32 PM

I probably have the fewest 'friends' ever on fb, but I know all of them. I hate the constant fb intrusions into personal privacy and try to fend them off. If it weren't a good way to keep in touch with nieces and nephews who would otherwise drop off my radar, I wouldn't do it. But it has its uses.

xoxoxoBruce · 05-28-2013, 06:38 PM

Oh, you're being eaten
by a Face Bookstrictor,
a Face Bookstrictor,
a Face Bookstrictor.
You're being eaten by a Face Bookstrictor,
and you won't like it... one bit.
Well, what do you know?
It's nibblin' your toe.
Oh, gee,
It's up to your knee.
Oh my,
It's up to your thigh.
Oh, fiddle,
It's up to your middle.
Oh, heck,
It's up to your neck.
Oh, dread,
It's up to your head.
Oh, you've been eaten
by a Face Bookstrictor,
a Face Bookstrictor,
a Face Bookstrictor.

glatt · 05-28-2013, 07:27 PM

You can set up what are basically mailing lists and when you post stuff you can choose the list that gets to see it. I have a list for immediate family, one for relatives, one for hometown friends growing up, one for local friends, and finally one for everyone except 3 really annoying people. There are also the defaults of all friends and public. I mostly just use the list that excludes those 3 jerks, but all the lists have seen use. I think once you post with a particular list, it becomes the new default, so that can get confusing.

jimhelm · 05-28-2013, 10:30 PM

You want I should have a word with her?[/fat tony]

classicman · 05-29-2013, 12:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt

You can set up what are basically mailing lists and when you post stuff you can choose the list that gets to see it. I have a list for immediate family, one for relatives, one for hometown friends growing up, one for local friends, and finally one for everyone except 3 really annoying people (like classic). There are also the defaults of all friends and public. I mostly just use the list that excludes those 3 jerks, but all the lists have seen use. I think once you post with a particular list, it becomes the new default, so that can get confusing.

05-26-2013, 07:46 PM	#1
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	How do you hide a FB friend's crazy talk on your newsfeed or timeline or whatever? A few years ago an ex GF contacted me on LinkedIn. It had been almost 20 years since we split up so I replied to her. That was about three years ago. When I signed up for FB I wasn't careful enough when I let it scour my email addresses and it sent an invite to her. Now we are FBfriends and I get these semi- regular emails about how I was the love of her life. (I think I mentioned this elsewhere on the cellar) anyway, she's cooled out with that but is now responding to way too many of my posts. I would like to make her invisible to other people on my newsfeed/timeline or whatever. Is there a way to do that? I would rather not unfriend her because she'd just email me incessantly or decide that she needs to come see me. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

05-26-2013, 08:22 PM	#2
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Maintain YOUR boundaries. Your first duty is to yourself, not someone from decades back in your past. a. Ask her to stop. Politely, clearly, simply. b. If that doesn't work, Unfriend her. If she gets all stalkerish, tell her to stop. If she doesn't, call cops. But it probably won't come to that. c. Invoke "The Woodchuck Solution". Save that as a last resort. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

05-26-2013, 09:56 PM	#4
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	glatt's direction would work for most people, but I get the feeling she stalks your page so it won't matter if you are in her newsfeed. She is coming to visit anyway. Go with nice, but firm STOP or unfriend. IMO, you are going to end up unfriending here one way or the other. Get your settings right, right now. Make sure that no one sees squat if they are not your friend. No public nothing. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

05-28-2013, 05:32 PM	#7
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	I probably have the fewest 'friends' ever on fb, but I know all of them. I hate the constant fb intrusions into personal privacy and try to fend them off. If it weren't a good way to keep in touch with nieces and nephews who would otherwise drop off my radar, I wouldn't do it. But it has its uses. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

05-28-2013, 06:38 PM	#8
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Oh, you're being eaten by a Face Bookstrictor, a Face Bookstrictor, a Face Bookstrictor. You're being eaten by a Face Bookstrictor, and you won't like it... one bit. Well, what do you know? It's nibblin' your toe. Oh, gee, It's up to your knee. Oh my, It's up to your thigh. Oh, fiddle, It's up to your middle. Oh, heck, It's up to your neck. Oh, dread, It's up to your head. Oh, you've been eaten by a Face Bookstrictor, a Face Bookstrictor, a Face Bookstrictor. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-26-2013, 09:00 PM	#3
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	FB keeps changing the location of its tools around, but you can set it up so she doesn't get to see the stuff you post, so she'll never know she's missing anything. She'll just think you don't post as often as you used to.

05-28-2013, 07:27 PM	#9
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	You can set up what are basically mailing lists and when you post stuff you can choose the list that gets to see it. I have a list for immediate family, one for relatives, one for hometown friends growing up, one for local friends, and finally one for everyone except 3 really annoying people. There are also the defaults of all friends and public. I mostly just use the list that excludes those 3 jerks, but all the lists have seen use. I think once you post with a particular list, it becomes the new default, so that can get confusing.

05-28-2013, 10:30 PM	#10
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	You want I should have a word with her?[/fat tony] __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

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