Sinking Feeling?

laebedahs · 10-29-2005, 06:16 PM

Have you ever had that sinking feeling in your stomach? I have never had it until now. What is that?

Edit: oops, meant to post this is Health.

Trilby · 10-29-2005, 07:41 PM

I've had it many, many times. For me, it usually means I've gotten drunk, or used, or can't remember what I did last night. The very worst, though, is when I wake up and I'm in the ICU. (Happened twice.) That's the WORST sinking feeling to me. What's up with you?

Undertoad · 10-29-2005, 08:21 PM

Moved to health.

Anxiety can show itself in gastrointestinal.

laebedahs · 10-29-2005, 09:02 PM

My wife left me and wants a divorce. I feel angry, sad, jealous (she left me for another man, though she claims she didn't), worried, lonely, and haven't vented to anyone about it.

Undertoad · 10-29-2005, 09:14 PM

Ow. Sorry to hear that...

My own heart-on-the-sleeve divorce thread is here

They did a study and found that the loss of a significant other can have the same physical reaction as a punch. You didn't need to hear some study to know that...

laebedahs · 10-29-2005, 11:18 PM

I figured out what that sinking feeling is. My pulse has been racing. What causes that? Anxiety?

Undertoad: while I haven't been with my wife as long as you were with yours, it does ring true that when they leave it's like you've had a part of yourself ripped off. We've been married 2 years, and prior to being married we were together 4.

wolf · 10-30-2005, 12:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by laebedahs

My wife left me and wants a divorce. I feel angry, sad, jealous (she left me for another man, though she claims she didn't), worried, lonely, and haven't vented to anyone about it.

Yeah, that would be the traditional cause of the sinking feelling.

Vent away. There's a wealth of experience here.

10-30-2005, 04:11 AM

You are in that fun state called betrayal by the one you loved and trusted most. You get to go through shock, disbelief, pain, rage, and all the other exciting steps of the grieving process. You'll get to isolate at home alternating with desperate nights out on the town cruising the bars. You'll have the wonderful night when you encounter her out somewhere with the new guy acting madly in love. They'll be thrilling moments with the divorce lawyers and possibly in court, as well. You'll have happy times dividing up your common property, deciding who gets what. The best part will be when she threatens to cut the cat in half with an ax - you can take the rear, she'll take the front. Her friends will treat you like you've become a serial murderer overnight. Your friends will commiserate with you and tell you to get over it and start dating again. They'll try to fix you up with their cousin Sue who weighs 300 pounds and keeps a pet boa constrictor that she sleeps with every night. Some day you look back on it all and laugh. Well, not really. But time will pass and one day you'll be out walking the boa constrictor with your new girl friend and you'll notice a bag lady going through a dumpster. After you walked three more blocks, you'll suddenly realize the bag lady was your ex and you'll chuckle evily to yourself and the sinking feeling will have vanished.

Anything else you'd like to know?

Trilby · 10-30-2005, 05:06 AM

It's the worst, isn't it? It seems like you're never going to feel better-or, even human-again. I'm sincerely sorry but I know from experience that the people here will always listen and they offer some very good advice. Keep posting and venting. As wolf said, there's a lot of us out here with similar troubles.

Undertoad · 10-30-2005, 06:29 AM

Racing pulse, a big heavy ball of nothing in your throat, the sensation that you're walking next to yourself, a gnawing in your stomach, anxiety can cause or fake almost any symptom in your body. Expect these to come and go for the next three months or so.

capnhowdy · 10-30-2005, 07:49 AM

The best way to get over the loss of a woman is.......

ANOTHER WOMAN

amazing how soon you'll feel better.

laebedahs · 10-30-2005, 08:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by capnhowdy

The best way to get over the loss of a woman is.......

ANOTHER WOMAN

amazing how soon you'll feel better.

There's a problem with that. I never really dated, so I don't really know <em>how</em> to date. As I said, my wife and I were married 2 for years, prior to that together for 4 years. I was 16, she was 14. I know, as you're probably thinking and as many already said, it was a marriage doomed to fail.

I'm also living by myself, working one job. No car payment, but all the other payments are horrific. So, I don't really have the money to go out.

Trilby · 10-30-2005, 09:24 AM

So, no children?

laebedahs · 10-30-2005, 09:59 AM

We have a 16 month-old daughter; my wife became pregnant shortly after we married.

Trilby · 10-30-2005, 10:13 AM

Having children together does make it harder, but if you two can commit to what is best for your daughter, she will be so much better off. Is that going to be possible? Or have the "games just begun", as they say?

10-29-2005, 06:16 PM	#1
laebedahs Abecedarian Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 172	Sinking Feeling? Have you ever had that sinking feeling in your stomach? I have never had it until now. What is that? Edit: oops, meant to post this is Health. Last edited by laebedahs; 10-29-2005 at 06:56 PM.

10-29-2005, 07:41 PM	#2
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I've had it many, many times. For me, it usually means I've gotten drunk, or used, or can't remember what I did last night. The very worst, though, is when I wake up and I'm in the ICU. (Happened twice.) That's the WORST sinking feeling to me. What's up with you? __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-30-2005, 05:06 AM	#9
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	It's the worst, isn't it? It seems like you're never going to feel better-or, even human-again. I'm sincerely sorry but I know from experience that the people here will always listen and they offer some very good advice. Keep posting and venting. As wolf said, there's a lot of us out here with similar troubles. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-30-2005, 07:49 AM	#11
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	The best way to get over the loss of a woman is....... ANOTHER WOMAN amazing how soon you'll feel better. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

10-30-2005, 09:24 AM	#13
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	So, no children? __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-29-2005, 08:21 PM	#3
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Moved to health. Anxiety can show itself in gastrointestinal.

10-29-2005, 09:02 PM	#4
laebedahs Abecedarian Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 172	My wife left me and wants a divorce. I feel angry, sad, jealous (she left me for another man, though she claims she didn't), worried, lonely, and haven't vented to anyone about it.

10-29-2005, 09:14 PM	#5
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Ow. Sorry to hear that... My own heart-on-the-sleeve divorce thread is here They did a study and found that the loss of a significant other can have the same physical reaction as a punch. You didn't need to hear some study to know that...

10-29-2005, 11:18 PM	#6
laebedahs Abecedarian Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 172	I figured out what that sinking feeling is. My pulse has been racing. What causes that? Anxiety? Undertoad: while I haven't been with my wife as long as you were with yours, it does ring true that when they leave it's like you've had a part of yourself ripped off. We've been married 2 years, and prior to being married we were together 4.

10-30-2005, 04:11 AM	#8
marichiko Guest Posts: n/a	You are in that fun state called betrayal by the one you loved and trusted most. You get to go through shock, disbelief, pain, rage, and all the other exciting steps of the grieving process. You'll get to isolate at home alternating with desperate nights out on the town cruising the bars. You'll have the wonderful night when you encounter her out somewhere with the new guy acting madly in love. They'll be thrilling moments with the divorce lawyers and possibly in court, as well. You'll have happy times dividing up your common property, deciding who gets what. The best part will be when she threatens to cut the cat in half with an ax - you can take the rear, she'll take the front. Her friends will treat you like you've become a serial murderer overnight. Your friends will commiserate with you and tell you to get over it and start dating again. They'll try to fix you up with their cousin Sue who weighs 300 pounds and keeps a pet boa constrictor that she sleeps with every night. Some day you look back on it all and laugh. Well, not really. But time will pass and one day you'll be out walking the boa constrictor with your new girl friend and you'll notice a bag lady going through a dumpster. After you walked three more blocks, you'll suddenly realize the bag lady was your ex and you'll chuckle evily to yourself and the sinking feeling will have vanished. Anything else you'd like to know?

10-30-2005, 06:29 AM	#10
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Racing pulse, a big heavy ball of nothing in your throat, the sensation that you're walking next to yourself, a gnawing in your stomach, anxiety can cause or fake almost any symptom in your body. Expect these to come and go for the next three months or so.

10-30-2005, 09:59 AM	#14
laebedahs Abecedarian Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 172	We have a 16 month-old daughter; my wife became pregnant shortly after we married.

10-30-2005, 10:13 AM	#15
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Having children together does make it harder, but if you two can commit to what is best for your daughter, she will be so much better off. Is that going to be possible? Or have the "games just begun", as they say? __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

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