Am I just running in circles?

SamIam · 02-25-2011, 01:32 PM

I have never liked my town much (lived here for 2 years now), and in the last couple of months, I have felt like a prisoner plotting a prison break. I want out!

The reasons? This town is small and isolated. There seems to be no doctor here who is experienced with ADHD which I suffer from, and the treatment I get is substandard at best. Plus, there are zero cultural or any other activities here unless you count the sheep auction on Thursdays. Oh, and there's a prairie dog shoot once a year.

There are some good points to this place. The rents are low and so is the crime. I have two good friends here that I would miss. And most important, I have a part time job here with a boss who is very understanding of my ADHD, and that money is vital for my income. And I'm older and maybe I shouldn't just be running around the country like I did in my younger days. Although I'm not senile and don't need a walker - yet. Go while the goings good, I'm thinking.

I got all excited about moving to Missoula, Montana until I found out they have lots and lots of days with no sun. Sun is a priority to this Southwestern girl! Now I am considering two towns closer by. One is Durango which has a college and lots of amenities. Plus, it is only 50 miles away, and I could see my friends now and then. Durango has more jobs, too.

But would I be able to find such an understanding boss again in Durango? And the rents are pretty high.

The other town I'm looking at (Montrose) is further away, but bigger than where I am now. Everybody I've talked to online and in real life says its a nice place with moderate rents. I have driven through there a few times, and its in one of the prettier parts of Colorado. I'd have to drive two hours to get medical care in Grand Junction, but it has great medical facilities, and the two hour drive beats the four hour drive I'd have to take to get ANYWHERE from here.

I know I'm going to have the same personal problems where ever I go, and as they say, where ever I am I take me along. So do my thoughts of a move make sense or am I just running away as I have so often in the past?

Pete Zicato · 02-25-2011, 01:44 PM

We've heard what you don't like. What do you want/need that you're not getting where you are?

monster · 02-25-2011, 02:00 PM

Vacation time is all. Itchy feet. Although some people just aren't made to settle down in one place.

footfootfoot · 02-25-2011, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by SamIam

I have never liked my town much (lived here for 2 years now), and in the last couple of months, I have felt like a prisoner plotting a prison break. I want out!

In my little town
I grew up believing
God keeps his eye on us all
And he used to lean upon me
As I pledged allegiance to the wall
Lord I recall my little town
Coming home after school
Riding my bike past the gates of the factories
My mom doing the laundry
Hanging out shirts in the dirty breeze
And after it rains there's a rainbow
And all of the colors are black
It's not that the colors aren't there
It's just imagination they lack
Everything's the same back in my little town

In my little town I never meant nothing
I was just my father's son
Saving my money
Dreamin of glory
Twitching like a finger on a trigger of a gun

Leaving nothing but the dead and dying back in my little town
Leaving nothing but the dead and dying back in my little town
Leaving nothing but the dead and dying back in my little town...

Perry Winkle · 02-25-2011, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by SamIam

I got all excited about moving to Missoula, Montana until I found out they have lots and lots of days with no sun. Sun is a priority to this Southwestern girl! Now I am considering two towns closer by.

Did you consider Helena, Montana?

We have plenty of sunny days. We have theater, opera, art galleries. We have all of the outdoor stuff you'd like. Rents are low. People are nice.

Pete Zicato · 02-25-2011, 02:52 PM

BTW, my favorite place to live is in a college town. Best of both worlds.

Shawnee123 · 02-25-2011, 02:59 PM

I want to live in Delaware OH and work at Ohio Wesleyan. I was there for a seminar years ago and my then boss said "This town is so YOU."

Or, the other side of the earth might work. Or a thousand miles away would really work.

I hate my town too. I have no options right now. I just HATE. MY. TOWN. And I've been there since college, some "mumblemumble" years ago.

It feels like circles, vicious ones that you can't escape. Maybe if I found some better shoes.

Pete Zicato · 02-25-2011, 04:28 PM

We've lived in five different cities now. In many ways it's easy to move. Just interview and get a job in your target town. Get the job and you're good to go. In many cases, they will even pay to move you.

SamIam · 02-25-2011, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

We've heard what you don't like. What do you want/need that you're not getting where you are?

Well, I mentioned some of it - adequate medical care; access to cultural things like music, art, famous guest speakers who often lecture at the college. Also, people who won't think I'm from outer space because I have a college degree; people who won't think I'm a devil worshipper because I'm Buddhist; a bookstore (the only one here closed 2 years ago since no one can read); access to ANY store other than Walmart, more reasonable tax licensing, so I can start up my old business again - Cortez makes it impossible - in Durango its practically a cakewalk. Need I go on?

Liked your poem, footx3. That pretty much sums it up, except we don't have factories here - just cows and sheep.

Pete Zicato · 02-25-2011, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by SamIam

Well, I mentioned some of it - adequate medical care; access to cultural things like music, art, famous guest speakers who often lecture at the college. Also, people who won't think I'm from outer space because I have a college degree; people who won't think I'm a devil worshipper because I'm Buddhist; a bookstore (the only one here closed 2 years ago since no one can read); access to ANY store other than Walmart, more reasonable tax licensing, so I can start up my old business again - Cortez makes it impossible - in Durango its practically a cakewalk. Need I go on?

Liked your poem, footx3. That pretty much sums it up, except we don't have factories here - just cows and sheep.

Excellent. Now can you quantify how much happier you will be if/when you have those things?

footfootfoot · 02-25-2011, 04:43 PM

It's actually Simon and Garfunkel

monster · 02-25-2011, 04:59 PM

How did you end up where you are now?

SamIam · 02-25-2011, 08:16 PM

The short version is that I like the West Slope in general, plus I got a deal on housing I couldn't refuse. And I had a horrific break-up back home with a guy I had been involved with for 6 years. I decided a fresh start was in order.

The long version I'm saving for my novel!

monster · 02-25-2011, 10:35 PM

So go.

ZenGum · 02-25-2011, 11:27 PM

No bookshop?
Well, with amazon, you've always got a bookshop, but I get the point. The town is (a) small and (b) not into reading.

Is there a library, at least?

02-25-2011, 01:32 PM	#1
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	Am I just running in circles? I have never liked my town much (lived here for 2 years now), and in the last couple of months, I have felt like a prisoner plotting a prison break. I want out! The reasons? This town is small and isolated. There seems to be no doctor here who is experienced with ADHD which I suffer from, and the treatment I get is substandard at best. Plus, there are zero cultural or any other activities here unless you count the sheep auction on Thursdays. Oh, and there's a prairie dog shoot once a year. There are some good points to this place. The rents are low and so is the crime. I have two good friends here that I would miss. And most important, I have a part time job here with a boss who is very understanding of my ADHD, and that money is vital for my income. And I'm older and maybe I shouldn't just be running around the country like I did in my younger days. Although I'm not senile and don't need a walker - yet. Go while the goings good, I'm thinking. I got all excited about moving to Missoula, Montana until I found out they have lots and lots of days with no sun. Sun is a priority to this Southwestern girl! Now I am considering two towns closer by. One is Durango which has a college and lots of amenities. Plus, it is only 50 miles away, and I could see my friends now and then. Durango has more jobs, too. But would I be able to find such an understanding boss again in Durango? And the rents are pretty high. The other town I'm looking at (Montrose) is further away, but bigger than where I am now. Everybody I've talked to online and in real life says its a nice place with moderate rents. I have driven through there a few times, and its in one of the prettier parts of Colorado. I'd have to drive two hours to get medical care in Grand Junction, but it has great medical facilities, and the two hour drive beats the four hour drive I'd have to take to get ANYWHERE from here. I know I'm going to have the same personal problems where ever I go, and as they say, where ever I am I take me along. So do my thoughts of a move make sense or am I just running away as I have so often in the past?

02-25-2011, 01:44 PM	#2
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	We've heard what you don't like. What do you want/need that you're not getting where you are? __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

02-25-2011, 02:00 PM	#3
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Vacation time is all. Itchy feet. Although some people just aren't made to settle down in one place. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-25-2011, 02:52 PM	#6
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	BTW, my favorite place to live is in a college town. Best of both worlds. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

02-25-2011, 02:59 PM	#7
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I want to live in Delaware OH and work at Ohio Wesleyan. I was there for a seminar years ago and my then boss said "This town is so YOU." Or, the other side of the earth might work. Or a thousand miles away would really work. I hate my town too. I have no options right now. I just HATE. MY. TOWN. And I've been there since college, some "mumblemumble" years ago. It feels like circles, vicious ones that you can't escape. Maybe if I found some better shoes. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-25-2011, 04:28 PM	#8
Pete Zicato Turns out my CRS is a symptom of TMB. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago suburbs Posts: 2,916	We've lived in five different cities now. In many ways it's easy to move. Just interview and get a job in your target town. Get the job and you're good to go. In many cases, they will even pay to move you. __________________ Talk nerdy to me.

02-25-2011, 04:43 PM	#11
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	It's actually Simon and Garfunkel __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-25-2011, 04:59 PM	#12
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	How did you end up where you are now? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-25-2011, 08:16 PM	#13
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	The short version is that I like the West Slope in general, plus I got a deal on housing I couldn't refuse. And I had a horrific break-up back home with a guy I had been involved with for 6 years. I decided a fresh start was in order. The long version I'm saving for my novel!

02-25-2011, 10:35 PM	#14
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	So go. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-25-2011, 11:27 PM	#15
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	No bookshop? Well, with amazon, you've always got a bookshop, but I get the point. The town is (a) small and (b) not into reading. Is there a library, at least? __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

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