Blast from the past

squirell nutkin · 01-14-2010, 12:07 PM

Imagine you get an email from some one you hadn't heard from in 20 years, a former co-worker, social acquaintance, FOAF, or someone like that and in the email they are clear that they aren't trying to start anything but they want you to know that they had been in love with you, lo these many years ago.

What would your reaction be?

Undertoad · 01-14-2010, 12:18 PM

"I'm in a loving long-term relationship sorry"

and

This trend is caused by Facebook, from what I notice. One of my bandmates had it going on high school, and he is getting seriously Looked Up by wannabe-cougars working their second lives. Driving long distances to see him and stuff.

and

At my age now I have seen several of these attempted flingbacks, and they never go as expected, and never really go well to boot. The brain remembers the good times and throws out the bad times. Plus, we are all actually different from what we were as young uns. And we remember that we've changed, but can't believe that everyone else has.

lumberjim · 01-14-2010, 12:21 PM

i'd decline the friend request too.

Shawnee123 · 01-14-2010, 12:27 PM

Didn't you ask this same question some time ago? You must have all kinds of pining hangers-on from the past.

My reaction? "No thanks, crazy one."

Nothing wrong with contacting someone from the past to say hello, I reckon, but to start the conversation with "i've loved you for 20 years, how ya been" is pretty whacko. IMHO.

skysidhe · 01-14-2010, 12:46 PM

Change your email address, block user, ect

Pie · 01-14-2010, 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Undertoad

flingbacks

What an awesome term.

Trilby · 01-14-2010, 01:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Undertoad

"I'm in a loving long-term relationship sorry"

and

This trend is caused by Facebook, from what I notice. One of my bandmates had it going on high school, and he is getting seriously Looked Up by wannabe-cougars working their second lives. Driving long distances to see him and stuff.

and

At my age now I have seen several of these attempted flingbacks, and they never go as expected, and never really go well to boot. The brain remembers the good times and throws out the bad times. Plus, we are all actually different from what we were as young uns. And we remember that we've changed, but can't believe that everyone else has.

wise, wise human.

Glinda · 01-14-2010, 01:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by squirell nutkin

Imagine you get an email from some one you hadn't heard from in 20 years, a former co-worker, social acquaintance, FOAF, or someone like that and in the email they are clear that they aren't trying to start anything but they want you to know that they had been in love with you, lo these many years ago.

What would your reaction be?

This happened to me.

This person (about whom there were newspaper articles noting his arrests for illegal weapons and fraud during the 15 or so years since we'd last had any contact) found me through Classmates.com and sent a message saying "I want to tell you something I never was able to say."

My reaction was to contact Classmates.com immediately and ask them to remove all trace of me from their website. Which they did without hesitation.

Phew.

Griff · 01-14-2010, 05:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Undertoad

This trend is caused by Facebook, from what I notice.

Is there something good about facebook?

Undertoad · 01-14-2010, 06:11 PM

I enjoy it, not for the above reasons but because it's always interesting to find out what all your peeps are doing. Old and new.

SamIam · 01-14-2010, 06:35 PM

It would depend on who the person was. If it was the jerk from my homeroom class who always started spitball fights, forget it. If it was the student body president that I used to have a secret crush on, I'd probably send him some sort of reply.

squirell nutkin · 01-14-2010, 07:08 PM

I'm thinking quitting FB is a good idea. Of the two people with whom I've reconnected there are about 20 or 30 who I'd just as soon never see. Not that there was/is anything wrong with them it's just that I've no reason to be in touch with them.

squirell nutkin · 01-14-2010, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

Didn't you ask this same question some time ago? You must have all kinds of pining hangers-on from the past.

My reaction? "No thanks, crazy one."

Nothing wrong with contacting someone from the past to say hello, I reckon, but to start the conversation with "i've loved you for 20 years, how ya been" is pretty whacko. IMHO.

I don't recall asking it, but who knows?

Also for clarification, this person was talking in the past tense and claimed they were not wanting to reconnect, just set the record straight, so to speak.

xoxoxoBruce · 01-15-2010, 01:58 AM

Take her out for an expensive diner, go to the men's room, and slip out the back door. That'll learn her.

Sundae · 01-15-2010, 06:09 AM

I'd be all for it!
Well, depending on the person of course.
But I have no love in my life and present, I'd at least warm my hands on the memory of some. That's metaphorical. Although literally warming my hands on someone would be on the cards too.

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01-14-2010, 12:07 PM	#1
squirell nutkin has a second hand user title Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: in a Nut House Posts: 2,017	Blast from the past Imagine you get an email from some one you hadn't heard from in 20 years, a former co-worker, social acquaintance, FOAF, or someone like that and in the email they are clear that they aren't trying to start anything but they want you to know that they had been in love with you, lo these many years ago. What would your reaction be? __________________ And now I'm finished posting.

01-14-2010, 12:21 PM	#3
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	i'd decline the friend request too. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

01-14-2010, 12:27 PM	#4
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Didn't you ask this same question some time ago? You must have all kinds of pining hangers-on from the past. My reaction? "No thanks, crazy one." Nothing wrong with contacting someone from the past to say hello, I reckon, but to start the conversation with "i've loved you for 20 years, how ya been" is pretty whacko. IMHO. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

01-14-2010, 12:46 PM	#5
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	Change your email address, block user, ect Last edited by skysidhe; 01-14-2010 at 01:56 PM.

01-14-2010, 12:18 PM	#2
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	"I'm in a loving long-term relationship sorry" and This trend is caused by Facebook, from what I notice. One of my bandmates had it going on high school, and he is getting seriously Looked Up by wannabe-cougars working their second lives. Driving long distances to see him and stuff. and At my age now I have seen several of these attempted flingbacks, and they never go as expected, and never really go well to boot. The brain remembers the good times and throws out the bad times. Plus, we are all actually different from what we were as young uns. And we remember that we've changed, but can't believe that everyone else has.

01-14-2010, 06:11 PM	#10
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I enjoy it, not for the above reasons but because it's always interesting to find out what all your peeps are doing. Old and new.

01-14-2010, 06:35 PM	#11
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	It would depend on who the person was. If it was the jerk from my homeroom class who always started spitball fights, forget it. If it was the student body president that I used to have a secret crush on, I'd probably send him some sort of reply.

01-14-2010, 07:08 PM	#12
squirell nutkin has a second hand user title Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: in a Nut House Posts: 2,017	I'm thinking quitting FB is a good idea. Of the two people with whom I've reconnected there are about 20 or 30 who I'd just as soon never see. Not that there was/is anything wrong with them it's just that I've no reason to be in touch with them. __________________ And now I'm finished posting.

01-15-2010, 01:58 AM	#14
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Take her out for an expensive diner, go to the men's room, and slip out the back door. That'll learn her. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

01-15-2010, 06:09 AM	#15
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I'd be all for it! Well, depending on the person of course. But I have no love in my life and present, I'd at least warm my hands on the memory of some. That's metaphorical. Although literally warming my hands on someone would be on the cards too. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

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