New Chick

freshnesschronic · 03-01-2009, 06:28 PM

Hi. It's Fresh. Just wanted to pour out some stuff to random people on the Internet who's advice is very valuable for the simple fact that I do not know any of you and aren't affecting my real social life. Much love, Dwellars.

So this might sound extremely collegy--I met this chick in November. Only recently have we started texting--which is daily texting. Sorry, collegy. We hung out Friday nite at a mutual friend's birthday party. Have a good time together, but nothing more--party goers probably thought we were close, that's all. Saturday--she asks me if I'm going to a free dinner I'm like hell yess $free.99 I'm there! We meet up there and she's saved me a seat. Cool. Enjoy the free Chinese hot pot, I ask her her plans for the nite. She says she's studying and writing a paper. I ask her to go out with me (I invite her friend too for added comfort) and my boy to the bars tonite (we went to a house party after). After couple minutes of hesitation I persuade her.

So we go out that nite, pregame at my friends place and head to the bar--followed by a house party. We make out a few times, fun nite, and she even met up with 2 more friends and it seemed like (my friend confirmed with me) that her friends approved of me. The last house party we left was really close to my apartment so we went back there after. Me, her 3 friends, and my friend chill there for 30 minutes. Everyone takes safe rides (a university system to get intoxicated kids home if not on bus route) to get home, overall excellent nite.

So I've been thinking today where I'm at with this girl. Initially? I'll be really really honest. I was not thinking of her as girlfriend material in the beginning. Nope, I was not. Being completely honest, just some girl for me to hook up with. But the two times going out plus all the texting we do (collegy sorry) and oh yes! She gave me a belated birthday gift which was a shot glass and a nice card. The card had a paragraph of her own writing in it. Remember, I don't know this chick! She is super nice. She likes badminton (we're going to play soon!), and thoroughly enjoys cooking and...

baking desserts. Oh my gawd...And unlike the last chick I dated for a month in October...she GETS my humor (which is a huge thing I have learned).

Guys think of ways to score points with chicks, but actually she is scoring a lot of points on me. But I still don't even know if I'd take this chick as a girlfriend. Not because I wouldn't want to or don't like her enough--I just plain and simple don't know. Initially I wasn't thinking of that in the least. But she's turned out to be a really nice, fun, funny, great personality girl who has me very impressed. And the most amazing part of it? I was talking to my friend who said that's awesome and you have no stress or pressure. And she's completely right---there is nothing complicated about us in the least. Our basic attraction (I would say physical and personality wise) is just that---basic attraction! Nothing is complicated (yet) and it's like...amazing. I've never had to deal with something so simple and fun with no foreseeable drawbacks.
It's just a scenario I am amazed to be in, and I don't know if I should take it up and get on for the long ride or take a step back. I honestly don't know and she's doing everything right and I feel like I'm showing the same amount of interest back to her--but I still really don't know what to do.

Damn. Sorry if it was long.

zippyt · 03-01-2009, 06:32 PM

shes a Stalker Freash , RUN AWAY !!!

Just kidding , have fun

Aliantha · 03-01-2009, 06:35 PM

The only advice I have for you is to not over analyze it fresh. Seriously, just enjoy your time together and see where it goes. Sounds like a nice easy relationship to me, and that's what you want when you really should be concentrating on your studies first and foremost right?

footfootfoot · 03-01-2009, 07:10 PM

Fresh, she wants to marry you and probably have a couple of babbys. Don't break her heart and hurt her. Buy a ring and have it handy at all times.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-01-2009, 08:09 PM

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But she's turned out to be a really nice, fun, funny, great personality girl who has me very impressed.

What more do you want? Just enjoy her company and stop trying to plan the future. Because if you try planning you'll have a predetermined scenario/script in your head and if it doesn't play out that way you might discard a great relationship by mistake.

Cloud · 03-01-2009, 08:27 PM

seems like a pretty normal progression to me.

lumberjim · 03-01-2009, 08:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

What more do you want? Just enjoy her company and stop trying to plan the future. Because if you try planning you'll have a predetermined scenario/script in your head and if it doesn't play out that way you might discard a great relationship by mistake.

this

you'll just wind up with someone because you will. tell your brain to stfu.

oh and ead.

Tulip · 03-01-2009, 08:50 PM

If she's not pressuring you, why are you? Just enjoy the time together and take one day at the time.

HungLikeJesus · 03-01-2009, 08:52 PM

Where is that "Regrets" thread?

Clodfobble · 03-01-2009, 09:53 PM

You only ever find the good relationships when you're not looking. Sounds like this is one of the good ones. Don't fear it, be happy about it.

classicman · 03-01-2009, 10:01 PM

Relax and enjoy - things are going well and you needn't force anything. chilllllllllllllllllllllll ouuttttttttt.

(I would have sent that in a text, but.......)

monster · 03-01-2009, 11:27 PM

she loks a little mad if you ask me...

lumberjim · 03-03-2009, 02:47 PM

Beestie · 03-03-2009, 05:48 PM

First of all, stop calling her a chick (collegy).

Second, enjoy it and the minute you feel the urge to "turn it into something" or call it something or wonder what it all means, then quietly excuse yourself to the men's room and slap the hell out of yourself and think - my Cellar mates aren't here to do that for me so I have to do it for myself.

Oh, out of curiosity - did you finally blow that other girl off - the one who mistook your head for a speed bag?

Flint · 03-03-2009, 09:59 PM

Does she do that typical asian girl thing all cryin' like she gettin' violated by a tentacles monster?

03-01-2009, 06:28 PM	#1
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	New Chick Hi. It's Fresh. Just wanted to pour out some stuff to random people on the Internet who's advice is very valuable for the simple fact that I do not know any of you and aren't affecting my real social life. Much love, Dwellars. So this might sound extremely collegy--I met this chick in November. Only recently have we started texting--which is daily texting. Sorry, collegy. We hung out Friday nite at a mutual friend's birthday party. Have a good time together, but nothing more--party goers probably thought we were close, that's all. Saturday--she asks me if I'm going to a free dinner I'm like hell yess $free.99 I'm there! We meet up there and she's saved me a seat. Cool. Enjoy the free Chinese hot pot, I ask her her plans for the nite. She says she's studying and writing a paper. I ask her to go out with me (I invite her friend too for added comfort) and my boy to the bars tonite (we went to a house party after). After couple minutes of hesitation I persuade her. So we go out that nite, pregame at my friends place and head to the bar--followed by a house party. We make out a few times, fun nite, and she even met up with 2 more friends and it seemed like (my friend confirmed with me) that her friends approved of me. The last house party we left was really close to my apartment so we went back there after. Me, her 3 friends, and my friend chill there for 30 minutes. Everyone takes safe rides (a university system to get intoxicated kids home if not on bus route) to get home, overall excellent nite. So I've been thinking today where I'm at with this girl. Initially? I'll be really really honest. I was not thinking of her as girlfriend material in the beginning. Nope, I was not. Being completely honest, just some girl for me to hook up with. But the two times going out plus all the texting we do (collegy sorry) and oh yes! She gave me a belated birthday gift which was a shot glass and a nice card. The card had a paragraph of her own writing in it. Remember, I don't know this chick! She is super nice. She likes badminton (we're going to play soon!), and thoroughly enjoys cooking and... baking desserts. Oh my gawd...And unlike the last chick I dated for a month in October...she GETS my humor (which is a huge thing I have learned). Guys think of ways to score points with chicks, but actually she is scoring a lot of points on me. But I still don't even know if I'd take this chick as a girlfriend. Not because I wouldn't want to or don't like her enough--I just plain and simple don't know. Initially I wasn't thinking of that in the least. But she's turned out to be a really nice, fun, funny, great personality girl who has me very impressed. And the most amazing part of it? I was talking to my friend who said that's awesome and you have no stress or pressure. And she's completely right---there is nothing complicated about us in the least. Our basic attraction (I would say physical and personality wise) is just that---basic attraction! Nothing is complicated (yet) and it's like...amazing. I've never had to deal with something so simple and fun with no foreseeable drawbacks. It's just a scenario I am amazed to be in, and I don't know if I should take it up and get on for the long ride or take a step back. I honestly don't know and she's doing everything right and I feel like I'm showing the same amount of interest back to her--but I still really don't know what to do. Damn. Sorry if it was long.

03-01-2009, 06:32 PM	#2
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	shes a Stalker Freash , RUN AWAY !!! Just kidding , have fun __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

03-01-2009, 06:35 PM	#3
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	The only advice I have for you is to not over analyze it fresh. Seriously, just enjoy your time together and see where it goes. Sounds like a nice easy relationship to me, and that's what you want when you really should be concentrating on your studies first and foremost right? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

03-01-2009, 07:10 PM	#4
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Fresh, she wants to marry you and probably have a couple of babbys. Don't break her heart and hurt her. Buy a ring and have it handy at all times. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-01-2009, 08:27 PM	#6
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	seems like a pretty normal progression to me. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

03-01-2009, 08:50 PM	#8
Tulip Professor Join Date: May 2008 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 1,293	If she's not pressuring you, why are you? Just enjoy the time together and take one day at the time.

03-01-2009, 08:52 PM	#9
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	Where is that "Regrets" thread? __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

03-01-2009, 09:53 PM	#10
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	You only ever find the good relationships when you're not looking. Sounds like this is one of the good ones. Don't fear it, be happy about it. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

03-01-2009, 10:01 PM	#11
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Relax and enjoy - things are going well and you needn't force anything. chilllllllllllllllllllllll ouuttttttttt. (I would have sent that in a text, but.......) __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

03-01-2009, 11:27 PM	#12
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	she loks a little mad if you ask me... __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

03-03-2009, 02:47 PM	#13
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	__________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

03-03-2009, 05:48 PM	#14
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	First of all, stop calling her a chick (collegy). Second, enjoy it and the minute you feel the urge to "turn it into something" or call it something or wonder what it all means, then quietly excuse yourself to the men's room and slap the hell out of yourself and think - my Cellar mates aren't here to do that for me so I have to do it for myself. Oh, out of curiosity - did you finally blow that other girl off - the one who mistook your head for a speed bag? __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

03-03-2009, 09:59 PM	#15
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	Does she do that typical asian girl thing all cryin' like she gettin' violated by a tentacles monster? __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

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