Women With Short Hair

Juniper · 03-30-2009, 02:54 AM

Warning: I am going to post something personal and it might get whiny. So stop reading now if personal and whiny offends you.

I am 41. This does not bother me, necessarily, so I'm not gonna hide it. But see, I had been growing my hair long because my hubby liked it and I thought it made me look good. Really, my hair is rather on the bushy side and curls exactly the wrong way. Unless it's freshly trimmed, it always looks unkempt and ratty. I'm not very good at styling it, or maybe I just don't like taking much time to do it. So I thought it might be time to chop it off and enjoy a nice simple, elegant short 'do.

I tried all weekend to get hubby to take a good photo of me, he refused. Because he HATES it. This is the best I've got, a somewhat blurry snapshot my daughter took of me and my son:

I like it. It's sort of...well, elfin! I'm short. Maybe I'm not the prettiest little elf, but I like my hair this way. I think I'll get some highlights, maybe just run my fingers through it with some Sun-In. With a little gel, damn it's cute!

Well, he came home on Thurs. after I got it cut and started making comments about how he was now married to a BOY. 'Scuse me? I did not get a breast reduction too. He says he was only teasing but ever since then he's been treating me like I'm leftover meatloaf.

I am pissed off.

I am REALLY pissed off.

Thanks for listening to me vent!

Sundae · 03-30-2009, 03:38 AM

My Mum has a thing about no women past her twenties should have long hair.
She even considers my jaw length bob slightly borderline.
The two times I have had hair extensions (which made me feel like a glamourous shampoo model) she has hated it and damned me with faint praise.

Takes all sorts I spose.

Oh and FTR - I came home in a new pair of glasses that I thought made me look ultra chic and sexy.
My (ex) husband hated them.
To the extent that he actually said they made me look UGLY.
He came round to them in the end, and even liked them.

I think short suits you.
He'll get over it. Men have a problem with change sometimes, being such visual creatures.
My sympathy anyway.

xoxoxoBruce · 03-30-2009, 03:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Juniper

I am REALLY pissed off.

Oooh, your so cute when you're angry.

DanaC · 03-30-2009, 05:52 AM

Juni, you look bloody marvellous.

Oh what are they like when they don't like sommat? I used to dread showing J a new outfit. Like if I'd decided to just really go for it and be a little outrageous (my usual tendency in clothing) and come back with somethng I really like, that really seems to speak of who I am...he'd hate it. I'd put it on and he'd get 'the face'. It was not good enough that he not like it, he had to hate it and it had to make me look awful!

*smiles*

He just likes what you had. He'll get used to this. At the end of the day it's your hair. You don't just look good for your husband you look good for yourself. He doesn't own your look, and frankly, sulking about it and refusing to take photos is just a little bit childish and selfish.

glatt · 03-30-2009, 07:35 AM

I like your haircut. Your husband is being a bit of a jerk, but he'll come around.

TheMercenary · 03-30-2009, 08:19 AM

I think it looks great. Give him time to get use to it.

I hope he didn't marry you for your hair.

dar512 · 03-30-2009, 09:26 AM

+1

Looks attractive to me, Juni.

Juniper · 03-30-2009, 09:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

I think it looks great. Give him time to get use to it.

I hope he didn't marry you for your hair.

No, but I married him for his hair. He used to have beautiful light-red hair down to his butt. He cut it off in 1997. I suppose he would look pretty silly with it now though!

Thanks everyone for the compliments.

I wanted so bad to get a good photo so I could share it with all my online friends! Whenever I try taking it myself I end up with some weird expression; I always look like I'm in pain or something!

morethanpretty · 03-30-2009, 10:40 AM

You go Juni! Its your hair and your confidence. He'll probably come around, he just needs time. From what I can tell it looks great, you have plenty of time to get a good pic for us. We'll wait.

lumberjim · 03-30-2009, 10:41 AM

can i use it in the collage?

Sheldonrs · 03-30-2009, 10:55 AM

On the bright side, being treated like "left-over meatloaf" isn't so bad so long as someone eats you before you go bad.

Pie · 03-30-2009, 10:58 AM

Left-over meatloaf's especially good in a sandwich.

...What?

Juniper · 03-30-2009, 11:03 AM

Sure LJ, why not?

Yeah, I thought about that analogy after I'd posted it. I *like* leftover meatloaf. Unfortunately in our house I'm the one that usually eats up all the leftovers.

DanaC · 03-30-2009, 11:04 AM

I reckon, your hubby just thought it was White Boy Day.

It ain't White Boy Day is it?

Undertoad · 03-30-2009, 11:20 AM

Meatloaf's better the next day.

Most men are extremely driven by visual, and some utterly so, which is why this can be a big shock to the relationship. Your best bet? Go down on him a few times and let him see your new cut doing that. I'm absolutely serious. He'll get a new visual to put into his mental hard drive.

03-30-2009, 02:54 AM	#1
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Women With Short Hair Warning: I am going to post something personal and it might get whiny. So stop reading now if personal and whiny offends you. I am 41. This does not bother me, necessarily, so I'm not gonna hide it. But see, I had been growing my hair long because my hubby liked it and I thought it made me look good. Really, my hair is rather on the bushy side and curls exactly the wrong way. Unless it's freshly trimmed, it always looks unkempt and ratty. I'm not very good at styling it, or maybe I just don't like taking much time to do it. So I thought it might be time to chop it off and enjoy a nice simple, elegant short 'do. I tried all weekend to get hubby to take a good photo of me, he refused. Because he HATES it. This is the best I've got, a somewhat blurry snapshot my daughter took of me and my son: I like it. It's sort of...well, elfin! I'm short. Maybe I'm not the prettiest little elf, but I like my hair this way. I think I'll get some highlights, maybe just run my fingers through it with some Sun-In. With a little gel, damn it's cute! Well, he came home on Thurs. after I got it cut and started making comments about how he was now married to a BOY. 'Scuse me? I did not get a breast reduction too. He says he was only teasing but ever since then he's been treating me like I'm leftover meatloaf. I am pissed off. I am REALLY pissed off. Thanks for listening to me vent!

03-30-2009, 03:38 AM	#2
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	My Mum has a thing about no women past her twenties should have long hair. She even considers my jaw length bob slightly borderline. The two times I have had hair extensions (which made me feel like a glamourous shampoo model) she has hated it and damned me with faint praise. Takes all sorts I spose. Oh and FTR - I came home in a new pair of glasses that I thought made me look ultra chic and sexy. My (ex) husband hated them. To the extent that he actually said they made me look UGLY. He came round to them in the end, and even liked them. I think short suits you. He'll get over it. Men have a problem with change sometimes, being such visual creatures. My sympathy anyway. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

03-30-2009, 08:19 AM	#6
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	I think it looks great. Give him time to get use to it. I hope he didn't marry you for your hair. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

03-30-2009, 09:26 AM	#7
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	+1 Looks attractive to me, Juni. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

03-30-2009, 10:40 AM	#9
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	You go Juni! Its your hair and your confidence. He'll probably come around, he just needs time. From what I can tell it looks great, you have plenty of time to get a good pic for us. We'll wait. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

03-30-2009, 05:52 AM	#4
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Juni, you look bloody marvellous. Oh what are they like when they don't like sommat? I used to dread showing J a new outfit. Like if I'd decided to just really go for it and be a little outrageous (my usual tendency in clothing) and come back with somethng I really like, that really seems to speak of who I am...he'd hate it. I'd put it on and he'd get 'the face'. It was not good enough that he not like it, he had to hate it and it had to make me look awful! smiles He just likes what you had. He'll get used to this. At the end of the day it's your hair. You don't just look good for your husband you look good for yourself. He doesn't own your look, and frankly, sulking about it and refusing to take photos is just a little bit childish and selfish.

03-30-2009, 07:35 AM	#5
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I like your haircut. Your husband is being a bit of a jerk, but he'll come around.

03-30-2009, 10:41 AM	#10
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	can i use it in the collage? __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

03-30-2009, 10:55 AM	#11
Sheldonrs Master Dwellar Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 4,412	On the bright side, being treated like "left-over meatloaf" isn't so bad so long as someone eats you before you go bad. __________________ Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and the world laughs AT you.

03-30-2009, 10:58 AM	#12
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	Left-over meatloaf's especially good in a sandwich. ...What? __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

03-30-2009, 11:03 AM	#13
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Sure LJ, why not? Yeah, I thought about that analogy after I'd posted it. I like leftover meatloaf. Unfortunately in our house I'm the one that usually eats up all the leftovers.

03-30-2009, 11:04 AM	#14
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	I reckon, your hubby just thought it was White Boy Day. It ain't White Boy Day is it?

03-30-2009, 11:20 AM	#15
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Meatloaf's better the next day. Most men are extremely driven by visual, and some utterly so, which is why this can be a big shock to the relationship. Your best bet? Go down on him a few times and let him see your new cut doing that. I'm absolutely serious. He'll get a new visual to put into his mental hard drive.

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