What makes a father

Sheldonrs · 01-09-2012, 09:52 AM

The brother is more of a father than the father will ever be.:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kriste...b_1190690.html

Clodfobble · 01-09-2012, 09:59 AM

Shit man, that made me cry. Thank god for good big brothers.

it · 01-09-2012, 10:23 AM

i laughed.

at best the father believes he is protecting the child from the social consequances of a stereotype because in his days it was a lot worst then it is today, at worst he actually believes he is protecting him from things that he believes would change the child's sexuality and thus prevent the child's assention into whatever the father counts as heaven.

either way he is being stupid, but the heart is probably in the right place. the brother gets the advantage of being more in touch with the current state of society. but that's about it.

classicman · 01-09-2012, 11:57 AM

Worth quoting for thos who don't click on links ...

Quote:

You thought I didn't really notice. But I did. I wanted to high-five you.

Yesterday I had a pair of brothers in my store. One was maybe between 15 and 17. He was a wrestler at the local high school. Kind of tall, stocky and handsome. He had a younger brother, who was maybe about 10 to 12 years old. The only way to describe him was scrawny, neat, and very clean for a boy his age. They were talking about finding a game for the younger one, and he was absolutely insisting it be one with a female character. I don't know how many of y'all play games, but that isn't exactly easy. Eventually, I helped the brothers pick a game called "Mirror's Edge." The youngest was pretty excited about the game, and then he specifically asked me, "Do you have any girl color controllers?" I directed him to the only colored controllers we have, which include pink and purple ones. He grabbed the purple one, and informed me purple was his FAVORITE.

The boys had been taking awhile, so their father eventually came in. He saw the game, and the controller, and started in on the youngest about how he needs to pick something different. Something more manly. Something with guns and fighting, and certainly not a purple controller. He tried to convince him to get the new Zombie game "Dead Island" and the little boy just stood there repeating, "Dad, this is what I want, OK?" Eventually it turned into a full-blown argument complete with Dad threatening to whoop his son if he didn't choose different items.

That's when big brother stepped in. He said to his dad, "It's my money, it's my gift to him. If it's what he wants, I'm getting it for him, and if you're going to hit anyone for it, it's going to be me." Dad just gave his oldest son a strong stern stare-down, and then left the store. Little brother was crying quietly. I walked over and ruffled his hair (yes, this happened all in front of me). I said, "I'm a girl, and I like the color blue, and I like shooting games. There's nothing wrong with what you like. Even if it's different than what people think you should." I smiled, he smiled back (my heart melted!). Big brother then leaned down, kissed little brother on the head, and said, "Don't worry, dude."

They checked out and left, and all I can think is how awesome big brother is, how sweet little brother is, and how Dad ought to be ashamed for trying to make his son any other way.

The older brother deserves mega credit for being as mature and protective of his lil broth despite having an asshole for a father.

Clodfobble · 01-09-2012, 12:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by traceur

either way he is being stupid, but the heart is probably in the right place.

He was willing to hit the child over it. His heart is not in the right place.

And lest you brush it off as an empty threat, it's clear to me that the dad has hit before, for the older brother to react the way he did, effectively threatening the dad right back.

it · 01-09-2012, 12:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

He was willing to hit the child over it. His heart is not in the right place.

And lest you brush it off as an empty threat, it's clear to me that the dad has hit before, for the older brother to react the way he did, effectively threatening the dad right back.

i didn't even see that line.

infinite monkey · 01-09-2012, 01:08 PM

Brothers are awesome. (I mean the good ones.)

ZenGum · 01-09-2012, 08:54 PM

Once more, for the sake of the awesome excelentness:

Quote:

"It's my money, it's my gift to him. If it's what he wants, I'm getting it for him, and if you're going to hit anyone for it, it's going to be me."

classicman · 01-09-2012, 10:43 PM

Somebody put that boy in the HOF thread.

Griff · 01-10-2012, 05:26 AM

Truly. Nice find Shel.

HungLikeJesus · 01-10-2012, 07:59 AM

That father must be doing something right to raise such a good son.

Clodfobble · 01-10-2012, 08:01 AM

infinite monkey · 01-10-2012, 08:50 AM

ftw, HLJ, ftw

classicman · 01-10-2012, 10:55 AM

@ HLJ

TheMercenary · 01-12-2012, 09:45 AM

The dad probably just had the kids for his monthly weekend visit.

01-09-2012, 09:52 AM	#1
Sheldonrs Master Dwellar Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 4,412	What makes a father The brother is more of a father than the father will ever be.:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kriste...b_1190690.html __________________ Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and the world laughs AT you.

01-09-2012, 09:59 AM	#2
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Shit man, that made me cry. Thank god for good big brothers. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

01-09-2012, 10:43 PM	#9
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Somebody put that boy in the HOF thread. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

01-10-2012, 05:26 AM	#10
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Truly. Nice find Shel. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

01-10-2012, 07:59 AM	#11
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	That father must be doing something right to raise such a good son. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

01-09-2012, 10:23 AM	#3
it Banned Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 772	i laughed. at best the father believes he is protecting the child from the social consequances of a stereotype because in his days it was a lot worst then it is today, at worst he actually believes he is protecting him from things that he believes would change the child's sexuality and thus prevent the child's assention into whatever the father counts as heaven. either way he is being stupid, but the heart is probably in the right place. the brother gets the advantage of being more in touch with the current state of society. but that's about it.

01-09-2012, 01:08 PM	#7
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Brothers are awesome. (I mean the good ones.)

01-10-2012, 08:01 AM	#12
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	__________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

01-10-2012, 08:50 AM	#13
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	ftw, HLJ, ftw

01-10-2012, 10:55 AM	#14
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	@ HLJ __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

01-12-2012, 09:45 AM	#15
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	The dad probably just had the kids for his monthly weekend visit. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)