Why People Hate You...

Trilby · 05-12-2008, 09:23 PM

Have you ever wondered why someone----oh, let's just say a classmate; a much younger (20?) classmate---- might hate your guts even though you've never said or done or even given the stink eye to her?

Example #1) Asked by the prof how long such and such assignment would take we all answered different things. I said, "about two hours," and this chick goes, (complete with nasty sneer) "oh, you've GOT to be kidding! it would take me 45 min. tops!" I just looked at her kindly and said, "well, I'm slow."

Example #2) When asked if we cared to have class outdoors on a pretty day we were polled and I said, "Oh, either way is fine with me," and she piped up in a loud (she's always loud) voice, and with malice, said, "don't be such a WOMAN!"

there are more examples but the hell with them. What I don't understand is why this young woman hates me when she doesn't even know me at all. I do know she has a crush on the prof. I do not. I do know whe refuses to read her stuff in class---this is a creative writing class and she just WON'T read her stuff---too good or deep for us, i guess.

My question is this: what should I do? she really did make me kind of sad today as she yelled at me (again. and I wasn't even addressing her) and I wondered: what have I DONE? I am trying very, very hard to extend goodness, serenity, calm and compassion (I'm doing twice daily meditation tapes) and I am eating well and looking much better---all in all, feeling happy to have survived this year. So. The negativity thrown willy nilly at me with no basis bothers me.

Shall I completely ignore her? Squeeze myself down into a small marble and not share in class b/c she is a bully? (highly unlikely of me) or what?

Urbane Guerrilla · 05-12-2008, 09:29 PM

I'd step on her. She's informing you she's a bitch cockroach. Oh, and she can't write.

Aliantha · 05-12-2008, 09:38 PM

What goes around comes around. She'll get hers one day just like everyone else.

It's not going to make any difference to her if you do or don't participate, so I'd suggest not worrying about how someone with an irrational dislike treats you. I know I wouldn't.

Also, younger people are still finding their way in the world. I encountered very similar situations when I was a 30 something university student. I think most mature age students do. The younger kids feel threatened or that they know better than you how the world should work. Remember, you're encroaching on their territory. The domain of the young and beautiful. How dare you.

YUCI1004 · 05-16-2008, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

What goes around comes around. She'll get hers one day just like everyone else.

It's not going to make any difference to her if you do or don't participate, so I'd suggest not worrying about how someone with an irrational dislike treats you. I know I wouldn't.

Also, younger people are still finding their way in the world. I encountered very similar situations when I was a 30 something university student. I think most mature age students do. The younger kids feel threatened or that they know better than you how the world should work. Remember, you're encroaching on their territory. The domain of the young and beautiful. How dare you.

quite agree with you!

xoxoxoBruce · 05-17-2008, 03:34 PM

'Cause she's jealous...

jinx · 05-12-2008, 09:38 PM

That's awful Brianna. I know exactly what you mean, there is a swimming instructor at my gym that hates my guts and I have no idea why. I never had any reason to notice her at all until she started giving me the stink eye and then intentionally smashing into me whenever we were in the same pool at the same time. I don't know what to do about her either....
Girls can be so mean.

elSicomoro · 05-15-2008, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by jinx

I never had any reason to notice her at all until she started giving me the stink eye

Damn...she's mean and doesn't wipe her ass?

lookout123 · 05-15-2008, 04:34 PM

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I think you effectively extracted the nads from tw.

bots don't have nads.

zippyt · 05-12-2008, 09:57 PM

Not worth you time Bri ,
Your in a WHOLE different League ,
shes just jeullus !!!

footfootfoot · 05-12-2008, 10:06 PM

My current favorite is "Listen lady, I don't come around to where you work and slap the dick out of your mouth..."
(mr. show)

lumberjim · 05-12-2008, 10:11 PM

confront her calmly and ask her for her opinion on how you should handle the situation. If she doesn't back pedal and apologize, kick her in the cunt.

xoxoxoBruce · 05-12-2008, 10:38 PM

Maybe she has the impression you're flirting with the object of her affection. Maybe you are and don't even know it?

Just laugh at her, and say, "Kids say the darnedest things".
Kicking her in the cunt is optional.

spudcon · 05-12-2008, 10:55 PM

LJ always amazes me with his subtle philosophy.

smoothmoniker · 05-12-2008, 10:59 PM

holy crap, LJ, that's ... fantastic.

classicman · 05-13-2008, 12:10 AM

I agree with UG and LJ both!! - good lord - I better go now
::runs out of thread::

05-12-2008, 09:38 PM	#3
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	What goes around comes around. She'll get hers one day just like everyone else. It's not going to make any difference to her if you do or don't participate, so I'd suggest not worrying about how someone with an irrational dislike treats you. I know I wouldn't. Also, younger people are still finding their way in the world. I encountered very similar situations when I was a 30 something university student. I think most mature age students do. The younger kids feel threatened or that they know better than you how the world should work. Remember, you're encroaching on their territory. The domain of the young and beautiful. How dare you. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

05-17-2008, 03:34 PM	#5
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	'Cause she's jealous... __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-12-2008, 09:38 PM	#6
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	That's awful Brianna. I know exactly what you mean, there is a swimming instructor at my gym that hates my guts and I have no idea why. I never had any reason to notice her at all until she started giving me the stink eye and then intentionally smashing into me whenever we were in the same pool at the same time. I don't know what to do about her either.... Girls can be so mean. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

05-12-2008, 09:57 PM	#9
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Not worth you time Bri , Your in a WHOLE different League , shes just jeullus !!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

05-12-2008, 10:06 PM	#10
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	My current favorite is "Listen lady, I don't come around to where you work and slap the dick out of your mouth..." (mr. show) __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

05-12-2008, 09:23 PM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Why People Hate You... Have you ever wondered why someone----oh, let's just say a classmate; a much younger (20?) classmate---- might hate your guts even though you've never said or done or even given the stink eye to her? Example #1) Asked by the prof how long such and such assignment would take we all answered different things. I said, "about two hours," and this chick goes, (complete with nasty sneer) "oh, you've GOT to be kidding! it would take me 45 min. tops!" I just looked at her kindly and said, "well, I'm slow." Example #2) When asked if we cared to have class outdoors on a pretty day we were polled and I said, "Oh, either way is fine with me," and she piped up in a loud (she's always loud) voice, and with malice, said, "don't be such a WOMAN!" there are more examples but the hell with them. What I don't understand is why this young woman hates me when she doesn't even know me at all. I do know she has a crush on the prof. I do not. I do know whe refuses to read her stuff in class---this is a creative writing class and she just WON'T read her stuff---too good or deep for us, i guess. My question is this: what should I do? she really did make me kind of sad today as she yelled at me (again. and I wasn't even addressing her) and I wondered: what have I DONE? I am trying very, very hard to extend goodness, serenity, calm and compassion (I'm doing twice daily meditation tapes) and I am eating well and looking much better---all in all, feeling happy to have survived this year. So. The negativity thrown willy nilly at me with no basis bothers me. Shall I completely ignore her? Squeeze myself down into a small marble and not share in class b/c she is a bully? (highly unlikely of me) or what? __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

05-12-2008, 09:29 PM	#2
Urbane Guerrilla Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Southern California Posts: 6,674	I'd step on her. She's informing you she's a bitch cockroach. Oh, and she can't write. __________________ Wanna stop school shootings? End Gun-Free Zones, of course.

05-12-2008, 10:11 PM	#11
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	confront her calmly and ask her for her opinion on how you should handle the situation. If she doesn't back pedal and apologize, kick her in the cunt. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

05-12-2008, 10:38 PM	#12
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Maybe she has the impression you're flirting with the object of her affection. Maybe you are and don't even know it? Just laugh at her, and say, "Kids say the darnedest things". Kicking her in the cunt is optional. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-12-2008, 10:55 PM	#13
spudcon Beware of potatoes Join Date: May 2007 Location: Upstate NY, USA Posts: 2,078	LJ always amazes me with his subtle philosophy.

05-12-2008, 10:59 PM	#14
smoothmoniker to live and die in LA Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 2,090	holy crap, LJ, that's ... fantastic. __________________ to live and die in LA

05-13-2008, 12:10 AM	#15
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I agree with UG and LJ both!! - good lord - I better go now ::runs out of thread:: __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

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