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Join Date: Jan 2002
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So I would say, don't decide that you can't afford to quit until you find out exactly how much $$ you have coming to you for your unused vacation time. Also, in the situation you describe, your boss will suffer greatly from your leaving, and will have a hard time finding a replacement. These may sound like cold comfort now. But if you do it, I promise you'll derive a surprising amount of pleasure from the situation. It won't pay the bills but it'll do wonders for your morale. |
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Do-er of Deeds
Join Date: Apr 2007
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When I first read the tirade I thought maybe a job change to astronaut could be in order for Shawnee but she seems like she needs support more than sarcasm. I understand her feelings of loyality. Most of us identify with our jobs a lot more than we realize. If someone asks who we are we tend to respond in terms of what we "do" "I'm a minister" instead of "what" we are "I'm an aging, overweight, white, agnostic male". It becomes a powerful (as well as econically necessary) part of our existance.
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Join Date: May 2004
Location: Raleigh, NC
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In addition to temp agencies, you could also call up some consulting companies. I am not sure where you are, but they do pay well and have a better chance of giving you benefits right off the bat. I am not sure about Manpower, but the temp agency I used to work for only offered it after like 6 months of straight work.
Just an idea - I know how you feel, but one thing you have to keep in mind is that you cannot let the job rule your life. It isn't your life, it is just a job. No one will die if you take some time for yourself. The only one that will be hurting will be you. Hope you work it all out. |
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The Prodigal Brat Returneth
Join Date: Dec 2002
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Shawnee - I know where you're coming from, having been in a very similar place. When your job starts to affect your personal life, it's time to review where you are and where you're headed.
For me, it meant giving notice on a Monday, and when the abuse kept up on Tuesday, walking out of the office and not looking back. I understand the financial concerns, because they were huge for me as well - but I would recommend taking Clod's advice, taking a day or three off, and hitting up the local temp agencies. There are other jobs out there. There is only ONE you.
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Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya?
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Join Date: Jul 2004
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Sorry, haven't read every response here but wonder: Shawnee, do you have a doc? A GP or a Psych? Anyway, either one can fill out the papers for Medical Leave of Absence. Perhaps you could get MLA and then decompress enough to figure out what you NEED to do. If you worry about your job while on MLA there still is FMLA to protect you. You sound exactly (though, of course, way more eloquent) like me a few years ago. I was getting paranoid. Very paranoid. It was either ME or the JOB. I know (Lord, do I know) how entangled we get with JOB=ME thinking. ya know what? fuck that. I'd rather be a happy waitress with an English degree than a miserable Rn making lots of money.
FYI--I used to live on 58,000 a year. Now I live on 20,000 a year and I've only sacrificed a BIT. (well, ok. I desperately need a car and things for the house, but, hey, I needed those things when I was making money and never did follow thru with it) YOU CAN DO IT! You really can.
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YOU are more important than any job.
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Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya?
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Thanks Bri...I always enjoy your opinions because you do seem to have gone through a lot of the same things.
ON the other hand, knowing how short-staffed we are, there is NO WAY I could be off for an extended period of time without them making some arrangements. We are WAY understaffed as it is, and that loyalty kicks back in that I don't want to make everyone else miserable. Of course, I've been on the receiving end of this many times. It's funny when I hear of schools who have one person doing verifications, one person pulling in and analyzing and comparing FAFSA information, one person administering scholarships, others who counsel, someone who reports disbursements to the Dept of Ed (and reconciles those to the penny...millions of doleros.) Someone to determine state awards. I do all those things and more. My coworkers have as much on their plates. They turned down our proposal for a new staff person (bad budget, bad bad budget, they all lament.) Never mind that the number of students processed increases in leaps and bounds each year. Anyway, here I go again. I would like to stay in the public employee sector (the bennies are pretty good) and work for the state or city. I need to really look into options. But, if I don't get some relief soon, I may be taking medical leave without pre-planning it. By the way, Bri...you rock, but you don't post enough! :p
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Join Date: Jul 2004
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They are short-staffed and would need to make arrangements? Well, your manager is a Big Girl, and, if we are to believe that she deserves her exalted position and bloated pay, she should be ready to make those kinds of "arragements"---let her do her job.
An MLA is pretty much bullet-proof. PM me for more details.
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In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum |
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Join Date: Jan 2001
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It's always fun when you find out later that they replaced you with two people.
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Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Philadelphia
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It's even more fun when they don't replace you at all.
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Your Bartender
Join Date: Jan 2002
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I found out recently that the last company I worked for in Philly (Radian) was sold to one of its competitors (MGIC). While I feel bad for all the people that will lose their jobs, it brought a smile to my face. That company couldn't make up its mind what it wanted to do and didn't have the management to straighten it out.
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Faithful Companion
Join Date: Mar 2007
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I have plenty of time off coming, but if I mention taking time off my boss has not acted like she liked the idea (again, the fact that I may have a complete breakdown at any moment seems irrelevant to the fact that there is work to do.).......Shawnee123
Take it....take all of it. Screw the boss and the horse she rode in on.
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The future is unwritten
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