I'm polyamorous and into the BDSM lifestyle as a switch and bottom.

Treasenuak · 11-11-2008, 07:46 AM

I took limey's advice and started a separate thread for this...

So here goes. I've just recently become involved with the BDSM lifestyle. I know the very basics, and I have a Sir who is mentoring me a bit and to whom I might petition for a collar down the road (when his House stabilizes and my life does the same).

I'm also polyamorous. Right now, I only have a primary, but he has a secondary, and I'm looking for a secondary. No, before anyone asks, my primary is no longer the Aussie... that relationship is on its way out the door.

So, if anyone has questions/answers/comments/whatever, this is where to put them! I know Els has a working poly relationship; I figure with the broad range of the Cellar, there should (might?) be at least one or two other people into one or the other "alt" lifestyle. Make yourselves known!

And may I use you as a sounding board if I have questions or whatever? Please?

lumberjim · 11-11-2008, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Treasenuak

And may I use you as a sounding board if I have questions or whatever? Please?

Cloud · 11-11-2008, 08:21 AM

lucky you!

(pouts)

limey · 11-11-2008, 04:40 PM

OMFG Trease!

Big Sarge · 11-11-2008, 07:02 PM

Interesting. How extreme do you dare? Display? Subjugation? Pony girl? Pain? Electro? Hmm...

Elspode · 11-11-2008, 07:39 PM

As I have mentioned here before, Selene tends sub, but it isn't really a full time lifestyle for her. Just a playtime option, for the most part. I don't really *get* BDSM on anything other than an intellectual level, so I'm really not good at it.

Strangely, I do get the *hardware*, though. We have a friend who is pretty active Dom, and he makes the most awesome floggers and such. Boys and their toys, huh?

Treas, I don't suppose a long distance secondary is gonna be of much use to you, huh? :p

Trilby · 11-12-2008, 06:57 AM

Is it me or does Big Sarge know a little too much about this lifestyle?

Actually, "Big Sarge" would be a good name for a Dom...

Treasenuak · 11-12-2008, 07:16 AM

Big Sarge, I have a past that prevents SOME things from happening, such as breath control, electro play, fireplay, and the like... I would like to train as a pony, but considering my Sir is a bit long-distance right now and I've yet to find an in into the community here, I don't see that happening right away. Display and subjugation, yes, if such things are negotiated beforehand. -shrugs- I'll do just about anything other than the aforementioned and piss/scat/vomit or bestiality. I am into edgeplay, though...

Els, you're only nine hours away, honey

Not that long distance. I'd say a long weekend vacation here and there.....

TheMercenary · 11-12-2008, 07:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Treasenuak

I would like to train as a pony, but considering my Sir is a bit long-distance right now and I've yet to find an in into the community here, I don't see that happening right away.....

And I doubt you will. That is a very small group.

Treasenuak · 11-12-2008, 09:30 AM

It is, both very small and VERY exclusive. However, HM's ex-wife knows of a BDSM club in Nashville; he's supposed to call her and get an address for it sometime this afternoon. That will be a help, I think. And I could probably pretty easily find someone using my few leads back in Atlanta; I know my Sir knows Dom/mes up here. Just haven't asked yet. I'm still in a state of upheaval right now with the kidlet leaving for Hawaii in a few weeks and the new job and such. My head's not in the right place. Soon though... very soon... I'm feeling the need to be Topped.

Big Sarge · 11-12-2008, 11:25 AM

The Mark by CPI might be what you are looking for. They provide lectures and instruction in the lifestyle. They also have a large play area.

http://www.themarkbycpi.com/

The Nashville Dungeon is more extreme and is by invitation only. Hope this helps

Treasenuak · 11-12-2008, 12:58 PM

Big Sarge, you are now my BDSM god

Thank you for the link, that's EXACTLY what I'm looking for. YOU ROCK!

thankyouthankyouthankyou

SteveDallas · 11-12-2008, 02:14 PM

I'm sure you'll find an appropriate way to express your gratitude to him.

TheMercenary · 11-12-2008, 08:11 PM

Atlanta has a few clubs as well.

Big Sarge · 11-12-2008, 08:43 PM

Which context of edgeplay? Do you mean the high risk or knife play? Pretty extreme.

11-11-2008, 07:46 AM	#1
Treasenuak Multiorgasmic and wrapped in plastic Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Central Tennessee Posts: 483	I'm polyamorous and into the BDSM lifestyle as a switch and bottom. I took limey's advice and started a separate thread for this... So here goes. I've just recently become involved with the BDSM lifestyle. I know the very basics, and I have a Sir who is mentoring me a bit and to whom I might petition for a collar down the road (when his House stabilizes and my life does the same). I'm also polyamorous. Right now, I only have a primary, but he has a secondary, and I'm looking for a secondary. No, before anyone asks, my primary is no longer the Aussie... that relationship is on its way out the door. So, if anyone has questions/answers/comments/whatever, this is where to put them! I know Els has a working poly relationship; I figure with the broad range of the Cellar, there should (might?) be at least one or two other people into one or the other "alt" lifestyle. Make yourselves known! And may I use you as a sounding board if I have questions or whatever? Please?

11-11-2008, 08:21 AM	#3
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	lucky you! (pouts) __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

11-11-2008, 04:40 PM	#4
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	OMFG Trease! __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

11-11-2008, 07:02 PM	#5
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Interesting. How extreme do you dare? Display? Subjugation? Pony girl? Pain? Electro? Hmm... __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

11-11-2008, 07:39 PM	#6
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	As I have mentioned here before, Selene tends sub, but it isn't really a full time lifestyle for her. Just a playtime option, for the most part. I don't really get BDSM on anything other than an intellectual level, so I'm really not good at it. Strangely, I do get the hardware, though. We have a friend who is pretty active Dom, and he makes the most awesome floggers and such. Boys and their toys, huh? Treas, I don't suppose a long distance secondary is gonna be of much use to you, huh? :p __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

11-12-2008, 06:57 AM	#7
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Is it me or does Big Sarge know a little too much about this lifestyle? Actually, "Big Sarge" would be a good name for a Dom... __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

11-12-2008, 07:16 AM	#8
Treasenuak Multiorgasmic and wrapped in plastic Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Central Tennessee Posts: 483	Big Sarge, I have a past that prevents SOME things from happening, such as breath control, electro play, fireplay, and the like... I would like to train as a pony, but considering my Sir is a bit long-distance right now and I've yet to find an in into the community here, I don't see that happening right away. Display and subjugation, yes, if such things are negotiated beforehand. -shrugs- I'll do just about anything other than the aforementioned and piss/scat/vomit or bestiality. I am into edgeplay, though... Els, you're only nine hours away, honey Not that long distance. I'd say a long weekend vacation here and there.....

11-12-2008, 09:30 AM	#10
Treasenuak Multiorgasmic and wrapped in plastic Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Central Tennessee Posts: 483	It is, both very small and VERY exclusive. However, HM's ex-wife knows of a BDSM club in Nashville; he's supposed to call her and get an address for it sometime this afternoon. That will be a help, I think. And I could probably pretty easily find someone using my few leads back in Atlanta; I know my Sir knows Dom/mes up here. Just haven't asked yet. I'm still in a state of upheaval right now with the kidlet leaving for Hawaii in a few weeks and the new job and such. My head's not in the right place. Soon though... very soon... I'm feeling the need to be Topped.

11-12-2008, 11:25 AM	#11
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	The Mark by CPI might be what you are looking for. They provide lectures and instruction in the lifestyle. They also have a large play area. http://www.themarkbycpi.com/ The Nashville Dungeon is more extreme and is by invitation only. Hope this helps __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

11-12-2008, 12:58 PM	#12
Treasenuak Multiorgasmic and wrapped in plastic Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Central Tennessee Posts: 483	Big Sarge, you are now my BDSM god Thank you for the link, that's EXACTLY what I'm looking for. YOU ROCK! thankyouthankyouthankyou

11-12-2008, 02:14 PM	#13
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	I'm sure you'll find an appropriate way to express your gratitude to him.

11-12-2008, 08:11 PM	#14
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	Atlanta has a few clubs as well. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

11-12-2008, 08:43 PM	#15
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Which context of edgeplay? Do you mean the high risk or knife play? Pretty extreme. __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

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