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Gravdigr · 02-07-2012, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by footfootfoot

She's an attention lady of the night.

Well, the boy shits everywhere, all the time...No wonder she's a "soiled dove".

glatt · 02-07-2012, 10:59 AM

That's amazing and a little discouraging, that she can see a success story like Minifobette, and talk to an intelligent articulate person who has walked this path before her and she still isn't sure.

The only analogy I can think of is that we resisted knocking our son out and putting tubes in his ears for so long because were were a little afraid, and looking back, I wish we had done it much earlier.

footfootfoot · 02-07-2012, 12:35 PM

We've got friends whose kids are allergic to their pets. Do they get rid of the pets? No. They replace the pets when they die. The 8year old has had snot running out of her nose her entire life.

Denial; not just a river in Africa.

BigV · 02-07-2012, 03:41 PM

Thank you Clodfobble. I know so little about your situation, only what I've seen here. But Mr Clod's idea sounds plausible, stupid on her part but plausible. And I've seen, hell, I've lived the kind of fear that glatt suggests. Do they seem susceptible to the faith-healing idiocy we've all heard of? Are there other symptoms besides the shitty one you described? Maybe things just aren't bad enough to change. I know when ElderSon was much younger the prospect of having his hearing restored on a permanent basis by a cochlear implant was at once thrilling and terrifying. We ultimately decided the answer was "NO", but it was a very tough decision.

He was young, when language acquisition is in turbo mode, and he was not being immersed in language like other young children are. The idea that we would be risking permanent loss of his residual hearing, which was our small, weak bird in the hand by a failed operation (they insert a long hairlike electrode into the cochlea and the prospect of permanently breaking the cilia inside would effectively sever the physical biological chain making hearing in that ear impossible) was impossible to overcome. Not to mention the whole, "hey, let's crack open your kid's skull and stuff some cool electronics inside" was just too much.

So he kept his hearing aids, and his very limited hearing. And he's ok. But we agonized. I don't know your charge's mom's problem. Parenting is hard. I know she's fortunate to have you in her kid's life though. Good job, you.

Clodfobble · 02-07-2012, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by BigV

Are there other symptoms besides the shitty one you described?

Well, there's the whole autism thing...

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Originally Posted by BigV

Do they seem susceptible to the faith-healing idiocy we've all heard of?

Oh, most definitely. She has at various times told me that her son is a "crystal child" (aka "indigo child,") and that she wanted to save up $7,000 for a hyperbaric oxygen chamber, even though they've only had success in about 10% of kids who have tried it--pretty reasonable success when they work, admittedly, but only with that small subset of the population. Personally I think the money is better spent on things that aren't such a long shot, but at least it's better than the crystal children bullshit. But both of those phases also seem to have passed.

The truth is she's still reeling from the shock, as many parents do, but she's been reeling for 2 years now. I feel like it's time for her to quit grieving and get down to business. But at the biomed moms meeting last night, I had more than one person tell me that they were in the same position as she is, for as long as she's been, and not to give up hope that she'll get rational soon.

Griff · 02-07-2012, 05:24 PM

You can lead a horse to water but he'll probably just poop in it.

BigV · 02-07-2012, 06:13 PM

goddamn homework tantrums...

aaauuuggghh!

footfootfoot · 02-07-2012, 09:04 PM

I think there is still room on The Crystal Ship for the crystal children

monster · 02-08-2012, 09:38 PM

USPS

infinite monkey · 02-09-2012, 07:50 AM

Me too.

monster · 02-14-2012, 06:56 AM

bloody kids. kid. little shit.

zippyt · 02-14-2012, 08:52 AM

What did Thor do now ???

monster · 02-14-2012, 07:27 PM

as the last straw, i discovered that instead of using his deodorant on his pits, he made patterns in it with the lid. No wonder it isn't working! And he didn't get dressed on time. And he stuffed a balled of mixed clean and dirty clothes in his bed only days after laundrymagedon which found him in the basement doing laundry all evening and he forgot to brush his teeth and hair and put socks on and he forgot to unpack his backpack and didn't put his clean laundry away AGAIN and.............. it went on. He also left his homework at home. (Tough life sucks, maybe you won't forget next time) and the lego robot from his focus study -which meant that 4 other kids had to suffer..... so I drove over with that. It's a 20 minute trip. He's on an indefinite electronics timeout now.

BigV · 02-14-2012, 09:26 PM

the calm before the teenage storm... you don't know how good you have it now.

HungLikeJesus · 02-14-2012, 09:50 PM

Is this about Brianna again?

02-07-2012, 12:35 PM	#738
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	We've got friends whose kids are allergic to their pets. Do they get rid of the pets? No. They replace the pets when they die. The 8year old has had snot running out of her nose her entire life. Denial; not just a river in Africa. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-07-2012, 03:41 PM	#739
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Thank you Clodfobble. I know so little about your situation, only what I've seen here. But Mr Clod's idea sounds plausible, stupid on her part but plausible. And I've seen, hell, I've lived the kind of fear that glatt suggests. Do they seem susceptible to the faith-healing idiocy we've all heard of? Are there other symptoms besides the shitty one you described? Maybe things just aren't bad enough to change. I know when ElderSon was much younger the prospect of having his hearing restored on a permanent basis by a cochlear implant was at once thrilling and terrifying. We ultimately decided the answer was "NO", but it was a very tough decision. He was young, when language acquisition is in turbo mode, and he was not being immersed in language like other young children are. The idea that we would be risking permanent loss of his residual hearing, which was our small, weak bird in the hand by a failed operation (they insert a long hairlike electrode into the cochlea and the prospect of permanently breaking the cilia inside would effectively sever the physical biological chain making hearing in that ear impossible) was impossible to overcome. Not to mention the whole, "hey, let's crack open your kid's skull and stuff some cool electronics inside" was just too much. So he kept his hearing aids, and his very limited hearing. And he's ok. But we agonized. I don't know your charge's mom's problem. Parenting is hard. I know she's fortunate to have you in her kid's life though. Good job, you. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

02-07-2012, 05:24 PM	#741
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	You can lead a horse to water but he'll probably just poop in it. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

02-07-2012, 06:13 PM	#742
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	goddamn homework tantrums... aaauuuggghh! __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

02-07-2012, 09:04 PM	#743
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	I think there is still room on The Crystal Ship for the crystal children __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-07-2012, 10:59 AM	#737
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	That's amazing and a little discouraging, that she can see a success story like Minifobette, and talk to an intelligent articulate person who has walked this path before her and she still isn't sure. The only analogy I can think of is that we resisted knocking our son out and putting tubes in his ears for so long because were were a little afraid, and looking back, I wish we had done it much earlier.

02-08-2012, 09:38 PM	#744
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	USPS __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-09-2012, 07:50 AM	#745
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Me too.

02-14-2012, 06:56 AM	#746
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	bloody kids. kid. little shit. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-14-2012, 08:52 AM	#747
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	What did Thor do now ??? __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

02-14-2012, 07:27 PM	#748
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	as the last straw, i discovered that instead of using his deodorant on his pits, he made patterns in it with the lid. No wonder it isn't working! And he didn't get dressed on time. And he stuffed a balled of mixed clean and dirty clothes in his bed only days after laundrymagedon which found him in the basement doing laundry all evening and he forgot to brush his teeth and hair and put socks on and he forgot to unpack his backpack and didn't put his clean laundry away AGAIN and.............. it went on. He also left his homework at home. (Tough life sucks, maybe you won't forget next time) and the lego robot from his focus study -which meant that 4 other kids had to suffer..... so I drove over with that. It's a 20 minute trip. He's on an indefinite electronics timeout now. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-14-2012, 09:26 PM	#749
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	the calm before the teenage storm... you don't know how good you have it now. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

02-14-2012, 09:50 PM	#750
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	Is this about Brianna again? __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

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