This Day I'm History

classicman · 10-14-2016, 07:06 PM

So after working for a "friend" for a year, the grand experiment ended swiftly today. He came to me and said "I gotta let you go. I can't afford you." Then he wanted to talk about how much I meant to him and what a great job I did for the company etc etc. He kept talking about how hard it was going to be without me and he had to do it and how much it was going to affect HIM and and and and ...
Note that at no point did he mention how it would affect me. I hate being over 50 and again unemployed... again. Fuck!
I'm hurt, embarrassed and pissed.
This really sucks. I gave this guy everything I had including answering the phones 24/7 the entire time except for a week or two. I put in 50-60 hours a week even though I was paid a salary.
Lastly there was no warning. He just let me go without any discussion, warning... nothing. Dick.

fargon · 10-14-2016, 08:34 PM

What an asshole.

glatt · 10-14-2016, 09:39 PM

Damn. I'm sorry classic. What a tool.

infinite monkey · 10-14-2016, 10:12 PM

Yep, tool.

Sorry man. I know how hard it is to be in your 50s and looking for a job. I've been looking for jobs that come up in my field...one full time to replace my two part times...for so long now. It's tough out there. They want young and malleable or else my experience at the college from hell that I left has left visible scars or (even trying to go way way back to my experience in QC) I've been out of the field too long. Wreaks havoc on what little self-confidence I had left.

I hope you get back on your feet soon. Do you have any ideas what you might do next?

BigV · 10-15-2016, 01:57 AM

WTF

limey · 10-15-2016, 02:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by classicman

So after working for a "friend" for a year, the grand experiment ended swiftly today. He came to me and said "I gotta let you go. I can't afford you." Then he wanted to talk about how much I meant to him and what a great job I did for the company etc etc. He kept talking about how hard it was going to be without me and he had to do it and how much it was going to affect HIM and and and and ...
Note that at no point did he mention how it would affect me. I hate being over 50 and again unemployed... again. Fuck!
I'm hurt, embarrassed and pissed.
This really sucks. I gave this guy everything I had including answering the phones 24/7 the entire time except for a week or two. I put in 50-60 hours a week even though I was paid a salary.
Lastly there was no warning. He just let me go without any discussion, warning... nothing. Dick.

What a bastard.

Sent by thought transference

Clodfobble · 10-15-2016, 06:50 AM

Sorry, man. You have savings or severance or something that will get you through until you find something else?

Griff · 10-15-2016, 08:10 AM

Damn it, sorry man.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-15-2016, 08:42 AM

Undertoad · 10-15-2016, 08:58 AM

Bad times sir.

Gravdigr · 10-15-2016, 12:14 PM

It'll suck, but that suck will be momentary.

You'll come outta this smelling like a rose.

Yes you will , too.

This is an opportunity.

classicman · 10-17-2016, 08:17 AM

Thanks all. I have enough to manage for a few months. No real plan. Just feeling defeated, sad, angry... stupid - all that grief shit. Gonna take a few days/week and try to get a grip on moving forward.
Part of me thinks this is due to what happened with my son - as irrational as that might be. I had two jobs in 46 years. Since then I've had 5 in 5. I'm beginning to realize/think its me.

Damn shot to the gut.

Undertoad · 10-17-2016, 08:44 AM

That kind of self-doubt can be paralyzing - don't fall too deeply into it

The entire world is changing very rapidly and employers can't change quickly enough to keep up with it; that you must not allow to affect your own confidence, because it says nothing about who you are.

Gravdigr · 10-17-2016, 12:41 PM

Well put, Toad.

lumberjim · 10-17-2016, 01:52 PM

Take the week, get your head right, then start letting friends know that you need a gig. you've got a lot of contacts. You'll find something quickly. Just don't jump at the first thing unless it's perfect.

Sorry it went that way, btw. That's lame of him

10-14-2016, 07:06 PM	#1
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	This Day I'm History So after working for a "friend" for a year, the grand experiment ended swiftly today. He came to me and said "I gotta let you go. I can't afford you." Then he wanted to talk about how much I meant to him and what a great job I did for the company etc etc. He kept talking about how hard it was going to be without me and he had to do it and how much it was going to affect HIM and and and and ... Note that at no point did he mention how it would affect me. I hate being over 50 and again unemployed... again. Fuck! I'm hurt, embarrassed and pissed. This really sucks. I gave this guy everything I had including answering the phones 24/7 the entire time except for a week or two. I put in 50-60 hours a week even though I was paid a salary. Lastly there was no warning. He just let me go without any discussion, warning... nothing. Dick. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-14-2016, 08:34 PM	#2
fargon Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: La Crosse, WI Posts: 8,924	What an asshole. __________________ Annoy the ones that ignore you!!! I live a blessed life I Love my Country, I Fear the Government!!! Heavily medicated for the good of mankind.

10-15-2016, 01:57 AM	#5
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	WTF __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

10-15-2016, 06:50 AM	#7
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Sorry, man. You have savings or severance or something that will get you through until you find something else? __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

10-15-2016, 08:10 AM	#8
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Damn it, sorry man. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

10-14-2016, 09:39 PM	#3
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Damn. I'm sorry classic. What a tool.

10-14-2016, 10:12 PM	#4
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Yep, tool. Sorry man. I know how hard it is to be in your 50s and looking for a job. I've been looking for jobs that come up in my field...one full time to replace my two part times...for so long now. It's tough out there. They want young and malleable or else my experience at the college from hell that I left has left visible scars or (even trying to go way way back to my experience in QC) I've been out of the field too long. Wreaks havoc on what little self-confidence I had left. I hope you get back on your feet soon. Do you have any ideas what you might do next?

10-15-2016, 08:42 AM	#9
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	__________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-15-2016, 08:58 AM	#10
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Bad times sir.

10-15-2016, 12:14 PM	#11
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	It'll suck, but that suck will be momentary. You'll come outta this smelling like a rose. Yes you will , too. This is an opportunity. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

10-17-2016, 08:17 AM	#12
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Thanks all. I have enough to manage for a few months. No real plan. Just feeling defeated, sad, angry... stupid - all that grief shit. Gonna take a few days/week and try to get a grip on moving forward. Part of me thinks this is due to what happened with my son - as irrational as that might be. I had two jobs in 46 years. Since then I've had 5 in 5. I'm beginning to realize/think its me. Damn shot to the gut. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-17-2016, 08:44 AM	#13
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	That kind of self-doubt can be paralyzing - don't fall too deeply into it The entire world is changing very rapidly and employers can't change quickly enough to keep up with it; that you must not allow to affect your own confidence, because it says nothing about who you are.

10-17-2016, 12:41 PM	#14
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Well put, Toad. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

10-17-2016, 01:52 PM	#15
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	Take the week, get your head right, then start letting friends know that you need a gig. you've got a lot of contacts. You'll find something quickly. Just don't jump at the first thing unless it's perfect. Sorry it went that way, btw. That's lame of him __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

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