Why Can't Men Say the Things We Women Need to Hear?

[MsSparkie]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

What did he want?

1st and foremost: A slave. Someone to worship him. Told me to bleach my hair blonde because he loves blondes. Said my job would be to deal with his ex to get custody visits with his young daughter. Told me what my jobs would be there if I moved to S.D. to be his wife.

Planned our wedding at Sturgis this summer. He was controlling, bossy, demanding, laconic, moody, withdrawn....with an initial few weeks of being "so nice and loving" that sucked me in.

I said whoa.....we don't even like each other right now....scrap the wedding.
I said if we can't fix things....it's no good.

He never forgave me and never tried to fix it. He was just mad. He just tormented me from that day on. He is hard as nails.

He wanted love but didn't know how to get it, except for the first few weeks. Like Golden said....WTF? How can they turn it on and off like a faucet? Why do they feel once they have you hooked it's a whole new ball game?

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr......

That's the way the cookie crumbles.....unfortunately.

We still love each other in our dysfunctional way. I wish we were doing the Sturgis thing in some ways....there is a Dom/sub thing going on which I love.
But he pushed the envelope too far. It should be only like that in the bedroom. He wanted to rule over me all the time.

He told me it's partly due to his German heritage....and his sister agrees and is the same. LOL

He is a farmer, builds motorcycles, has a hunting lodge. I got my hunting licences for birds, small game and big game many years ago but had babies and didn't go. He is the idea man for business, I do accounting. He is Dom, I'm a sub.
But a fiesty sub.

We seemed like a good fit. But he didn't play the game correctly.

I was willing. He pushed too far.

He will never call me. He is too stubborn and mean. If I call him he will torture me by saying he cares then not talking and withdrawing.

Logic says forget him. I'm working on that. But the dream of us being together doing stuff we both love is a hard dream to see die. He has health problems and expects now to be alone forever, he says. He would rather punish me than be kind.

His choice.