I Need A Man

I just got out of a six-year marriage, and suddenly have twice the bills... there's an irony in it, too, because I supported him while he built his business and only cut back to halftime in 2007 so he could work full-time. Now I'm trying to live on half my usual income, without a partner to make up the other half. I've had those thoughts... "If I just had a partner to pick up the slack..."

But I really think it's healthier right now not to, and important, on a pretty major level, to work out how to survive and thrive on our own. It might mean having a housemate (a friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with me... she can't pay anywhere close to half, but it helps) and it also might mean living in a place that's not your ideal, or even close to it. But MAKING IT is really important and knowing that you're self-sufficient and capable will heal you tremendously.