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Well. My cousin's lass got pregnant when they were both 16. She was counselled to give it up for adoption and that's what she did. She didn't really want to raise a baby. They both felt too young and unequipped. Both had plans for their futures (she wanted to go to art college, he wanted to be a professional tennis player). The emotional impact didn't really hit her fully until a couple of years later (beyond the obvious pain of the initial moment of giving him up, which was fucking horrendous) It still hits her on a fairly regular basis. They now have three children (yes they stayed together apart from a brief hiatus in their early 20s). She still occasionally cries for her lost son. She has had to seek counselling in later life to deal with the torrent of emotion and guilt she still feels.
No, the options aren't just raise it or abort it. But the emotional impact of adoption can be massive and damaging. She now believes she was badly advised and wishes she'd kept the baby and raised him herself.
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11-04-2009, 06:50 PM
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