Desperately seeking my senior cowboy!

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Originally Posted by morethanpretty

One thing that makes being young and single difficult, is being told by my elders that one day I'll change my views on marriage/long-term relationships, and about having kids.

I don't dismiss your views, and I'm certainly not trying to convince you that one way is better than the other. In my experience most people don't end up changing their overall views about marriage, in the long run. Those who crave independence end up in marriages that give each other a lot of room, if they do end up with someone. However, do remember that your views about having kids are determined in large part by hormones over which you have no control. On your 36th birthday you may wake up thinking "Holy shit I have to have a baby, gotta make that happen now!" and it will have nothing to do with your philosophical or logical views on the subject. You also may not. But biology is working against you on that one.