tired of drama

[DanaC]

*nods* that also is true of many people.

I think my point really, was that we cannot use the Mother's unwillingness to help him/love him as evidence of his being beyond help. She may be a loving mother who has finally had enough of his antics. She may be one of those women who just didn't bond with her baby and left him emotionally bereft throughout his growing up.

He may or may not be on a journey towards self realisation in which bbro can help or provide a necessary anchor, or he may be in a cycle of self-destruct and denial which will (or has) draw her in and make her part of his destruction. It's impossible to tell really, from what she has said here.

I would suggest she needs to be as self aware as she can possibly be whilst involved with this man. She may be right about him and be the one to provide him the support he's lacked thus far in his life. She may be catastrophically wrong about him in which case she needs to be ready to bail out before he has a chance to drag her too far into his destructive pattern.