Do guys really care about a girls sexual history?

Trilby · 10-02-2006, 05:49 AM

In the interest of full disclosure--my own 15 year old is driving me batty. Batty, I tell you!

10-02-2006, 08:53 AM

Brianna, I’ll make this to your point.
The idea that sex in and of itself is isolated in a person psychology is self-delusional. As much as we would like to compartmentalize our life experiences our mental and emotion present is a tapestry of our past. You are no more than what has come before.

If sexual intimacy was so irrelevant then why is its exclusivity so prized? Why get married at all if sex is insignificant. Without sexual intimacy and exclusivity your partner is merely a friend. Would we think of marriage the same if our sexual choices didn’t matter?

Do you think soldiers that come back from the battlefield don’t suffer from post-traumatic stress? No matter what you do in life it stays with you and how you deal with it defines you. Things that have the greatest impact stay with you through out your life. Imagine if you will your future mate being materially and family wise great but as a lover poor. You will fantasies about some past lover and in doing so cheapen your bond with your current mate. Essentially, betraying them.

If you believe in marriage then you believe in sexual chastity. If you believe in sexual chastity then you are admitting that promiscuity is detrimental. I not saying that millions of promiscuous men and women can't eke out a relationship and marriage but look underneath and you will find bad relationships and broken families.

At first glance my position looks anti-female but it really isn’t. My point has been that women have a greater responsibility based on there biology. Women have been and continue to be the gatekeepers. I think every women who could choose (all things being equal) between a man that is a virgin and one that’s sleep around would rather take the virgin. Its called emotional investment. Are you all in or do you save some chips for another hand.

I’ll tell you from my own experience. I can tell if a girl has sleep around. The way she looks at you. The way she talks to you. The things she talks about and her body language. Most guys on the “prowl” can spot a slut in a bar from a mile away. You will never convince me that being a slut doesn’t carry over into any relationship they have.

Elspode · 10-02-2006, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by bmwmcaw

I can tell if a girl has sleep around. The way she looks at you. The way she talks to you. The things she talks about and her body language. Most guys on the “prowl” can spot a slut in a bar from a mile away. You will never convince me that being a slut doesn’t carry over into any relationship they have.

I assume that this applies to frequently fucked males as well, right? Or is it only women who can be sluts?

10-02-2006, 05:49 AM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	In the interest of full disclosure--my own 15 year old is driving me batty. Batty, I tell you! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-02-2006, 08:53 AM	#2
bmwmcaw Guest Posts: n/a	Brianna, I’ll make this to your point. The idea that sex in and of itself is isolated in a person psychology is self-delusional. As much as we would like to compartmentalize our life experiences our mental and emotion present is a tapestry of our past. You are no more than what has come before. If sexual intimacy was so irrelevant then why is its exclusivity so prized? Why get married at all if sex is insignificant. Without sexual intimacy and exclusivity your partner is merely a friend. Would we think of marriage the same if our sexual choices didn’t matter? Do you think soldiers that come back from the battlefield don’t suffer from post-traumatic stress? No matter what you do in life it stays with you and how you deal with it defines you. Things that have the greatest impact stay with you through out your life. Imagine if you will your future mate being materially and family wise great but as a lover poor. You will fantasies about some past lover and in doing so cheapen your bond with your current mate. Essentially, betraying them. If you believe in marriage then you believe in sexual chastity. If you believe in sexual chastity then you are admitting that promiscuity is detrimental. I not saying that millions of promiscuous men and women can't eke out a relationship and marriage but look underneath and you will find bad relationships and broken families. At first glance my position looks anti-female but it really isn’t. My point has been that women have a greater responsibility based on there biology. Women have been and continue to be the gatekeepers. I think every women who could choose (all things being equal) between a man that is a virgin and one that’s sleep around would rather take the virgin. Its called emotional investment. Are you all in or do you save some chips for another hand. I’ll tell you from my own experience. I can tell if a girl has sleep around. The way she looks at you. The way she talks to you. The things she talks about and her body language. Most guys on the “prowl” can spot a slut in a bar from a mile away. You will never convince me that being a slut doesn’t carry over into any relationship they have. Last edited by bmwmcaw; 10-02-2006 at 10:17 AM.

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