Humour is cruel by definition

[DanaC]

Humour is very subjective. I have friends with what I consider to be quite cruel senses of humour. They're still my friends and sometimes I find them funny. There are times however when I find their humour unpleasant. That's just how I am. Doesn't mean I think I am better than them, just means I have a tendency to relate more closely to the person/creature that has been the butt of the joke, more than I relate to the person who is carrying out the joke. Maybe it's because I spent so many years being the butt of seriously cruel humour as a child attending school with a disfiguring skin condition. Not everyone went though that so maybe they don't have an exaggerated sense empathy in those instances.

We all find different things funny. Our sense of humour is personal and grounded in our life experiences.