Wedding day coming up...

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Originally posted by perth
i guess all im saying is that if it were me, i would send the invitations to my grandparents myself. then, tell my parents i did so, and then let them decide whether they want to miss out on my marriage or grow up and be a part of it.

again, i dont really know. a lot of that is speculation based on my familys relationships.

Well, I am approaching the situation cautiously because this is atypical behavior from my parents. Usually they are laid back and understanding, so I suspect there may be something else precipitating the problem, therefore I'm being careful in case there's a landmine waiting to be stepped on.

My mother sent me an e-mail about it earlier today, and I offered a hypothetical situation... I asked her to imagine that in the future, when Britt and I have a kid who is getting married, that the kid wants to invite her to the wedding, but I take action to prevent them from inviting her. I asked her if she thought that would be selfish of me and/or out of line. We'll see what she says. Ideally, my parents will realize they're being asses and just make the small sacrifice of taking care of my grandparents for a day.

Details aside, the plain truth of it is that though I love and respect my parents, I'm marrying the woman I love and want to spend the rest of my life with... and if my parents have any problem with that, they can just deal with it, or they can stop being a part of my life. I think that's the way it should be, and if I felt otherwise, then I'd have to re-examine my choices.

I appreciate the advice and well-wishing though. Thanks guys!