I Need A Man

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

SG, why don't you put your details up on a couple of dating sites? You don't have to actually go on any dates, but you could, and you might just have some fun.

Do it safely and be honest with those men you choose to date.

It's how I met Dazza, and look where I am now.

Barefoot and pregnant and in the kitchen? j/k a jest

SG, what Clod said is true, most men when they are ready to get serious don't want the drama associated with skinny crazy girls. Or fat crazy girls either. We really do have a hard time fathoming women on the best of days so it is to your advantage that you sort out your emotional landscape first.

I personally think anti depressants rewl, esp. SSRIs but not as a forever kind of thing, more as a reset button. It helps you get your act together and climb out of the mental rut you've dug. I'm feeling like I could use a few handfuls of zoloft these days, myself.

Bri, I've got a bunch of oxycodone I'd be willing to swap for soe zoloft.

Again, kidding. I kid.

(pm me)

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

Barefoot and pregnant and in the kitchen? j/k a jest

Hey...I'm in the loungeroom at the moment. You did get the first two right though.

Of course, I really just meant that I met Dazza when I was at one of the lowest points in my life (as SG knows), but these days (aside from my bitching about being pregnant) I'm really as happy as a pig in shit, and I never thought I would be.

Sometimes it's hard to get a good perspective on things when you're feeling low, and it takes a big effort to put yourself out there again, but it can be worth it. You might just have a bit of fun, but on the other hand, you might just find yourself a diamond in the rough.

I don't think I was even close to mentally stable when I met Dazza. I was all over the shop, and I know people say you shouldn't wait for someone else to fix you or that it's even possible for it to happen, but being with him created the environment I needed to work on myself. I have him to thank for just listening to my shit mostly...and letting me get it out.

Maybe it doesn't or even shouldn't be that way, but the fact is, that's how it happened for me. Maybe the same could be true for SG, or anyone else. All I can do is tell what happened to me and give her some hope. There's always hope.

[ZenGum]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Hey...I'm in the loungeroom at the moment. You did get the first two right though.

Looks like Dazza made the chain too long, then.

I'm really as happy as a pig in shit, and I never thought I would be.

I love Australian idioms.

Sundae, be nice to yourself. Wot Dana said, in fact.

Also, you want (not need) a housemate, not necessarily a man. Could you share with a woman?

Aside: this reminds me of a T-shirt one of my (teenage female) students wears. Now we all know that Pinocchio's wish was "I want to be a real boy". This T-shirt has a picture of Pinocchio with quite a long nose and the caption, "I want a real man". I don't think she quite understands, but I am not going to be the one to explain it to her.