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smoothmoniker · 10-04-2009, 06:43 PM

Yeah, you definitely need to assess her ability to "hear" you if you interfere.

If you speak your mind, is there any chance at all that she will take it into consideration?

If you are wrong, and they stay together in wedded bliss, your interference will always be a dark cloud between you and your new bro-in-law. If you are right, and they are self-destructive toward each other, your interference will be an eternal silent "I told you so" between you and your sister.

I would stay out of it.

Griff · 10-04-2009, 07:13 PM

A friend of mine got to be the first wife after she left college to support him through med school and then birth his kids. He was "meant to be" with his high school sweetie who he hooked up with at their high school reunion, so I may be overly cynical about guys who find easier ways through med school. It is her life to live.

Sundae · 10-05-2009, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by smoothmoniker

If you are wrong, and they stay together in wedded bliss, your interference will always be a dark cloud between you and your new bro-in-law. If you are right, and they are self-destructive toward each other, your interference will be an eternal silent "I told you so" between you and your sister.

My open disapproval of my now BIL, when he first started dating my sister was the first big crack in our until then fairly reasonable relationship. He was an office romance, who split with his fiancee to date my sister. They were living together within a couple of months - she's a practising Catholic, but some things were quite flexible when she was 19!

They got engaged the day they moved in and started saving for the wedding immediately. She got pregnant on her honeymoon.

And they're still together. Still happy as far as I can tell. He's a wonderful father. Not my cup of tea, and I think he's made her very insular, but that's not for me to comment.

You won't change her mind MTP. No-one changed mine when I got married even though it was definitely for all the wrong reasons, and I resented those conversations. By all means speak mild caution. By be clear that you love her and want her to be happy. And if it goes tits-up, which I really hope it won't, you can be there to help her through that too.

10-04-2009, 06:43 PM	#1
smoothmoniker to live and die in LA Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 2,090	Yeah, you definitely need to assess her ability to "hear" you if you interfere. If you speak your mind, is there any chance at all that she will take it into consideration? If you are wrong, and they stay together in wedded bliss, your interference will always be a dark cloud between you and your new bro-in-law. If you are right, and they are self-destructive toward each other, your interference will be an eternal silent "I told you so" between you and your sister. I would stay out of it. __________________ to live and die in LA

10-04-2009, 07:13 PM	#2
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	A friend of mine got to be the first wife after she left college to support him through med school and then birth his kids. He was "meant to be" with his high school sweetie who he hooked up with at their high school reunion, so I may be overly cynical about guys who find easier ways through med school. It is her life to live. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

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