Death/Funeral Etiquette Advice, please

[Cloud]

Thor could wear a nice pair of khakis and a dress shirt--no one is going to think anything of it if he's not in a black suit.

[monster]

Originally Posted by Cloud

Thor could wear a nice pair of khakis and a dress shirt--no one is going to think anything of it if he's not in a black suit.

Um. He doesn't even have those items. But we'll do our best. i sort of thought dress code would be more relaxed for kids -darker stuff, no logos....

[squirell nutkin]

Originally Posted by monster

Um. He doesn't even have those items. But we'll do our best. i sort of thought dress code would be more relaxed for kids -darker stuff, no logos....

Unless he has a "FUCK CANCER" t-shirt, then yes, no logos.

[richlevy]

I agree that if it's the dad of a close friend, you should go to support Thor's friend. Sometimes friends can be closer than family.

Dark or black colors are preferred. 'Business casual' is usually ok for guests. I have not had to wear suits to many funerals.

I've gone to a lot of funerals with open caskets, and generally if you sit in back, you don't have to see it. In some cases, the casket is only open for a short time. This is a combination of faith and family preference. In our case the funeral director had us view the body and make the decision.

Depending on faith or preference, there may be a lunch for family and close friends afterwards, or they may go back to someones house for a wake/shiva/gathering.

Funerals are hardest on young mourning children. Adult guests who come up to offer condolences have a hard enough time saying anything meaningful to adult mourners. If Thor is a close friend, his being there could be a big help depending on how many relatives or siblings are there who are close to the kid's age.