Well, This is Going to be a Lousy Situation

[Elspode]

Got a text from Selene tonight, asking me to run by the house. I've been staying at Tree Fae's place for the past few days at her request, so Selene could have some privacy with her boyfriend.

I walked in the front door, and everything that could not be reasonably described as belonging to me was gone.

Here's the note...


Patrick:

I'm gone. I have been planning this move for months - starting back when I gave Bridgid away. I knew I could not keep her in an apartment as it

wouldn't be fair to her. I'm glad she has found a good home with you and Leslie.

I have followed a plan that was developed by myself and my attorney for the past several months. There are some things you should be made aware

of:

1. All accounts with (our bank) have been shut down.
2. Clifton has moved as well.
3. Clifton and I have new cell phones so you can cancel our cell lines.
4. MOrtgage has not been paid since Sept.
5. Utilities have not been paid since Sept.
6. Luna is with me. Other animals are still with you.
7. Divorce papers are in the process.

None of this has been done with malice. I felt that you just wouldn't let me go. It is important to me that you understand that (her boyfriend)

came into this plan very late in the game. He is not the reason I have left and was a total surprise in my life.

I truly wish nothing but the best for you. Tell Leslie to take good care of you.

Donna

[Elspode]

At least things were fair for the dog.

[Nirvana]

Wow "Spode that sure was a kick in the nads!

[Aliantha]

Are you ok Els? Did you expect this at all in any way? Do you have enough support to get through this without totally losing the plot?

My heart goes out to you. That's a real bitch of a thing to do and a cowards way of going about it if you ask me.

xxx

[Elspode]

I am now singing soprano.

[Elspode]

I have tons of support. The most difficult things are that I'm trying to come to grips with how I in any way deserved to be treated this way, and how it is going to get rammed up my ass legally.

[Aliantha]

Well, I guess it's time to go shopping for a lawyer by the sound of things.

Have you tried calling her? You must be so angry.

[Elspode]

I can't afford a lawyer...no way.

I've tried calling and texting, but our son tells me that her lawyer advised her to have no contact with me until the divorce is final.

As the note states, she's been planning this for some time. She is smart, meticulous, and utterly ruthless when she is able to rationalize that it is okay to be so. She is the most competitive person I've ever met, and will NOT tolerate losing...will not tolerate anything but an utter scorched earth, no one left standing outcome in her favor.

She has reasons for this...I just wish I had a clue what they are.

[ZenGum]

Ouch.

Ouch for the split, and ouch for the secret surprise and the lack of confidence it implies.

I am slow to criticise anyone for how they handle a break-up. Even the telling by note etc might be reasonable under some circumstances, but leaving a bunch of unpaid bills which are now overdue is just unfair.

Man-hugs to you Els. I have a lot of trouble believing that you deserved ANY of that.

[xoxoxoBruce]

She Can't Understand Normal Thinking.













Check's in the mail.

[zippyt]

sign the papers and sue her for 1/2 the unpaid bills ,

[Elspode]

Leslie (TF) and I have long been planning to move in together. As I've said, Selene and my split is nothing new...it just never occurred to me that it might come down in this way. I figured we would part amicably, figure out the finances, and continue to be friends with a shared family.

Apparently not. So, tomorrow I"m moving my shit out of my house and down the two blocks to Leslie's. For those keeping score, my new address will be:

11412 E 78th Terrace
Raytown, MO 64138

I probably won't get a postal forward going for a few days yet as I need to deal with the physical ramifications of the move first. Her house was already full, and even though I don't have all that much crap, it is still going to be a major ordeal to combine our households.

[Elspode]

BTW, all other details remain the same. If you have my phone # or email addys, they're all still good and will be.

I apologize for being absent from this community for so long. I've made so many good friends here, and I do in fact keep in touch with many of you outside of this forum.

I still have a lot to learn about what comprises Life, Loyalty and Gratitude...but I am grateful that I can come here and share...and vent...and weep.

[skysidhe]

This is horrible, elsp. I am so sorry for you!

I am sure you didn't deserve to be treated this way. No one does. Why all the duplicity and why, I am wondering, the attorney would advise this course of action.

I'd be calling her attorney, since she laid half the nefarious plan at his/her feet, I would be asking, a great big WTF!

[limey]

Oh Els. How awful. I think Zen has hit the nail on the head - it's one thing to sneak away because she thinks you "just wouldn't let her go", but the unpaid bills are just mean and not, IMHO the actions of a person who "truly wishes nothing but the best for you".
You have my every best wish. Is Clifton your son? Has she taken him away too?