What's the bare minimum (rephrased)

[Sundae]

If I had children I'd want them to be confident to the point of being obnoxious.
I'd want them to get everything they wanted, whether by hard work, negotion or subterfuge. I'd be proudest if it was a mixture of the three.
They wouldn't care what strangers thought about them, or ever doubt that they were loved.
And I would descend like an avenging angel if they were ever out-maneuvered; we would stand as a family against the world if necessary.

Oh and we would know how to argue passionately without spite or (metaphorical) internal bleeding.

I borrow the Addams Family motto - Sic gorgiamus allos subjectatos nunc.

I'm not saying I believe the above is how children should be raised.
I'm just saying that is what I want for mine.

Be grateful that I decided to remain barren.