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[DanaC]

Ibica, regarding the lack of hips: me too!! Never had 'hips' as such. Always loved the look of hipster jeans on other girls, never able to wear them as hipsters m'self, on account of the lack of discernible hip.

And obviously, any style of clothing relying on a cleavage effect is a non-starter for me too :p

Welcome to the sisterhood, babes.

Now off you go and get yourself an eating disorder and a lifelong compulsion to please everyone around you and you're all set!

:p

Joking aside: your particular situation is obviously going to magnify the impact of some of these things in subtle ways. Drawing the line between what is gender dysmorphic and what is the ordinary day to day self criticism/loathing/consciousness that is being a woman might be difficult at times.

Though, men seem to be running up behind us on this track. The days when men could just throw on whatever was clean and consider they'd done their sartorial duty for the day are fast disappearing. And whilst being an unattractive woman is still more frowned on by society than being an unattractive man, the cracks are starting to show.