this is Mr. StaceyV

[Beestie]

he posted this on a marriage message board:

We aren't therapists, Stacey. We all want to help but I don't think its a good idea to ask us to psychoanalyse your husband.

I'm just getting the feeling that you want us to tell you what to do so you don't have to take responsibility for the decision. I mean, at what point do you say: ok, I have shared some info about my marraige, I have gotten some opinions, I have thought about things and here is my decision.

I am not sensing that you are moving towards a resolution as much as you are relishing the agony of the situation. There are 149 posts in this never-ending thread and you are no closer to a decision then when the thread started.

The only person who can make your life not suck is you. We have all been there Stacey and we have all somehow summoned the energy to do what needed to be done to preserve our emotional health.

Its your marraige, its your life. Your instinct is telling you what to do so quit asking questions and get on with it.