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All men want to keep that door open. If not now, then give it another 10 years into the relationship. It's just instinctive, and of course being civilized human beings means we choose to overcome our base instincts, but the only way to be successful in that endeavor is to admit to the urge in the first place.

There's a sex advice columnist named Dan Savage, don't know if he's got much exposure over there but he's well-known here. He once ran a column stating pretty much what I just said, and the next week he reported that he got thousands, literally thousands of angry emails from women insisting that their men didn't want to sleep with other women. Meanwhile he received not a single email from a man claiming that he didn't want to sleep with other women. Not one.



Maybe the guy thought this texting girl was gross and genuinely didn't want to keep that particular door open. But you have to be consistent in your choices, otherwise you leave room for rationalizing when the urge really is there.