How long should you wait? - Page 2

King · 05-19-2007, 12:02 PM

Thanks for the response so far. If anyone else wants to contribute I'd be grateful for every opinion.

skysidhe · 05-20-2007, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by King

During this time you realise you would like to be more than friends with her

"more than friends" I'd get scared if someone said that to me.

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Originally Posted by King

How long should you wait before doing it?

A fruedian slip?

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Originally Posted by King

Thanks for the response so far. If anyone else wants to contribute I'd be grateful for every opinion.

every opinion?

I can respect a horn dog when he just comes right out and asks.
"let's do it" Or "have sex with me"

.....'cause unless there is something about her that you want to get to know on a deep emotional level then that's all that's left anyway.

Undertoad · 05-19-2007, 12:07 PM

There's the idea of giving some clear and obvious signal, such as

"That guy was an idiot to let you go. Mmm, what I'd do to you... I mean for you..."

Then your ball's in her court. Or whatever that old phrase is. If she thinks it's time to move on, you've given her an option. If she doesn't, you've given her an option when she is ready.

xoxoxoBruce · 05-19-2007, 04:29 PM

Sit on her porch and drool.. or keep her on the phone so nobody can ask her out. You can't risk waiting till after the bounce, on a rebound.

Seriously, tell her in the time you've known her, you've discovered what a warm and wonderful person she is, and how she deserves to be treated better than Mr X did.

freshnesschronic · 05-19-2007, 04:32 PM

Best move you can make is stalk her and interrupt her if she talks to any males, and be like "Oh hey _____ you forgot your hair clip, here it is

". She'll be yours in the time it takes a delivery from Papa John's
Yup.

DucksNuts · 05-19-2007, 09:41 PM

You: "hey, wanna come to the movies?

Her: "yeah, that would be great"

You: "ohhhh, we should go to dinner before/after?"

Her answer should give you quite a few clues without you risking the friendship.

But meh, what would I know, I'm good for fucking, not dating

lumberjim · 05-20-2007, 08:39 AM

dude, strap it up and tell her how you feel.

"hey, Nancy, I know you just broke up with Bill, and I don't want to be tactless, but I want you to know that I am attracted to you, and I want to make sure you know it before you file me away as a friend forever.[/actual advice][joking] Anyway... I'd at least like to get a BJ out of this.....what? I'll reciprocate of course!"[/joking]

King · 05-20-2007, 10:08 AM

Yeah, I'm thinking about doing it on Tuesday now. It's the next time I'll see her, and while it's not ideal, I think it'll have to do. Nobody think this is absolutely, definitely too soon? (Her breakup was only on Wednesday).

xoxoxoBruce · 05-20-2007, 02:48 PM

Not too soon, after her first free weekend it's a new deal, a new ballgame.

King · 05-20-2007, 05:15 PM

Are you implying that I'm just after sex? Because that's really not it at all.

freshnesschronic · 05-20-2007, 08:39 PM

**wink wink**
**nudge nudge**
**say no more say no more**

skysidhe · 05-20-2007, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

**wink wink**
**nudge nudge**
**say no more say no more**

tee hee fresh

I can't help it.... I HAVE to!

ahem...
King ....No you are not inconsiderate by rushing in. An example of being inconsiderate would be hanging up on your girlfriend when you're with another women so personally don't think desperation is inconsiderate at all. Maybe it isn't sex. Maybe she's got money?

King · 05-21-2007, 11:05 AM

It's not about sex, or money, or being desperate, I just found someone I like and I want to be with them.

Shawnee123 · 05-21-2007, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by King

It's not about sex, or money, or being desperate, I just found someone I like and I want to be with them.

If I were her, at this point I'd say "You had me at hello."

Sounds like she'd be a lucky girl, King.

Sundae · 05-21-2007, 12:29 PM

Go out on a massive drinking session with her
Accidentally brush her breasts as you put your pint down
If she hasn't slapped you by the third time, lean in for a big slurpy snog

Or maybe that would only work on me...

Seriously, go out with her - there are plenty of (subtle) physical clues that will show you whether she is interested in you. It's not so much a time issue, it's a person issue. In other words if she's always had a sly interest in you she could be ready after a week. If the idea of you as a bona fide male (with a penis and all that) has to grow on her it could take a few months.

05-19-2007, 12:02 PM	#1
King Conquistador Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Everywhere Posts: 259	Thanks for the response so far. If anyone else wants to contribute I'd be grateful for every opinion. __________________ "I've shot you, Jeff. With a bullet made of Scottish finance regulations."

05-19-2007, 04:29 PM	#4
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Sit on her porch and drool.. or keep her on the phone so nobody can ask her out. You can't risk waiting till after the bounce, on a rebound. Seriously, tell her in the time you've known her, you've discovered what a warm and wonderful person she is, and how she deserves to be treated better than Mr X did. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-20-2007, 08:39 AM	#7
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	dude, strap it up and tell her how you feel. "hey, Nancy, I know you just broke up with Bill, and I don't want to be tactless, but I want you to know that I am attracted to you, and I want to make sure you know it before you file me away as a friend forever.[/actual advice][joking] Anyway... I'd at least like to get a BJ out of this.....what? I'll reciprocate of course!"[/joking] __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

05-20-2007, 10:08 AM	#8
King Conquistador Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Everywhere Posts: 259	Yeah, I'm thinking about doing it on Tuesday now. It's the next time I'll see her, and while it's not ideal, I think it'll have to do. Nobody think this is absolutely, definitely too soon? (Her breakup was only on Wednesday). __________________ "I've shot you, Jeff. With a bullet made of Scottish finance regulations."

05-20-2007, 02:48 PM	#9
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Not too soon, after her first free weekend it's a new deal, a new ballgame. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-19-2007, 12:07 PM	#3
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	There's the idea of giving some clear and obvious signal, such as "That guy was an idiot to let you go. Mmm, what I'd do to you... I mean for you..." Then your ball's in her court. Or whatever that old phrase is. If she thinks it's time to move on, you've given her an option. If she doesn't, you've given her an option when she is ready.

05-19-2007, 04:32 PM	#5
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	Best move you can make is stalk her and interrupt her if she talks to any males, and be like "Oh hey _____ you forgot your hair clip, here it is ". She'll be yours in the time it takes a delivery from Papa John's Yup.

05-19-2007, 09:41 PM	#6
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	You: "hey, wanna come to the movies? Her: "yeah, that would be great" You: "ohhhh, we should go to dinner before/after?" Her answer should give you quite a few clues without you risking the friendship. But meh, what would I know, I'm good for fucking, not dating

05-20-2007, 05:15 PM	#10
King Conquistador Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Everywhere Posts: 259	Are you implying that I'm just after sex? Because that's really not it at all. __________________ "I've shot you, Jeff. With a bullet made of Scottish finance regulations."

05-20-2007, 08:39 PM	#11
freshnesschronic Professor Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 1,555	wink wink nudge nudge say no more say no more

05-21-2007, 11:05 AM	#13
King Conquistador Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Everywhere Posts: 259	It's not about sex, or money, or being desperate, I just found someone I like and I want to be with them. __________________ "I've shot you, Jeff. With a bullet made of Scottish finance regulations."

05-21-2007, 12:29 PM	#15
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Go out on a massive drinking session with her Accidentally brush her breasts as you put your pint down If she hasn't slapped you by the third time, lean in for a big slurpy snog Or maybe that would only work on me... Seriously, go out with her - there are plenty of (subtle) physical clues that will show you whether she is interested in you. It's not so much a time issue, it's a person issue. In other words if she's always had a sly interest in you she could be ready after a week. If the idea of you as a bona fide male (with a penis and all that) has to grow on her it could take a few months. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

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