Attention all NJ Cellarites!

[Sundae]

I do know what you mean, Shel. And I would never suggest that all gay men or all trans* people are the same, because I damn well know that not all straight women are the same.

I just think he might benefit from talking to someone older, and to whom he could not simply throw up his arms and say "But you don't understand!"

Didn't mean to leave you out, Pam.
I just see more of Sheldon around here than I do you.

Part of the issue, I think, is that Ibs tends to protest in the high traffic threads, like Dwellar NSFW. Where it's not appropriate. So she gets the cold shoulder and doesn't get why.

[Aliantha]

I don't think Ib has really had anyone give him the cold shoulder. Even me, and I was the one that started the last issue I think.

From my own perspective I just wanted to tell ib to try and have a bit of a sense of humour about things, cause life will be pretty tough without it, especially on the path he's chosen for himself (yes I realise that maybe he feels it's just a natural path, but if you have an understanding of Buddhist doctrine, you'd know that they would say Ib chose his path before he was even born in some other plane of existence) I digress.

Anyway, I still stand by what I said in that other thread, and believe me, I hold no ill will towards Ib even if he does consider me to be some kind of Neanderthal when it comes to his issues. Maybe I am, but I think it comes down to perspective. Maybe if I knew him IRL I would handle things differently, although I doubt it. I'd still just try and be myself and treat him the same way I treat anyone else, and that's with mutual levels of respect and tolerance, understanding and compassion.

Let's flip the coin for a second. I suspect Ibram would have an incredibly difficult time understanding how I feel about my life and the challenges I face (especially at the moment), but I don't blame him for that, and I don't expect him to understand completely, but I do expect him to try, and even if he can't get his head around it, then to just be supportive and compassionate if it seemed like that might help in any way, but I definitely wouldn't see any point in preaching to him and trying to force him to see my life from my perspective, because I don't think there's any way on this earth that he ever could because he's not me.

I hope that makes sense.

[BigV]

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