What's scorching your groove today?

[limey]

Oh Sundae, that's tough! Gotta be cruel to be kind. Big hugs to you and DizCat!


Sent by thought transference

[monster]

nasty laundry and personal odors

[ZenGum]

Sundae, would it be possible to give Diz some nice tasting treat afterwards to fight the bitterness? Maybe an anchovy, a cornflake with vegemite on it, or a shot of drambuie.

[Sundae]

I'm trying to keep his weight down. He gets cuddles and strokes to deal with it.
Although this morning my Mum was in the living room and he bolted straight into her arms. Ungrateful tinker.

I do it in the living room as my bedroom is his bedroom too, and I don't want him to lose his "bolt-hole" or associate it with nastiness.

Only two more days now.
And he is so much better.

Oh and I'd give myself the eyedrops if a shot of Drambuie was involved.
'Cepting I've only ever had it in liqueur chocolates!

[Trilby]

Dad is 83. He's an ex-engineer and, as those of you who know me, a prick who hates my guts and HAS hated my guts since I drew breath lo those many years ago.

Now he is getting paranoid along with his violence. I took my goldfish mother to a new (and better) doc on tuesday. Since dad took her credit cards/check book (control issues plus she DOES forget) she had no money for the 20.00 copay.. I didn't have 20 on me either. I took her to the credit union, took out forty bux, gave the doc 20 and gave my mom 20 for walking around money.

I tell my dad this when I get mom back from doc. Oh, by the way, dad, we took out forty dollars from checking for co pay and so mom could have a little money on her. Okay, he says.

Next day, I take her to get blood draw. I pick her up and drop her off at her house. Dad comes up to me as I'm leaving. Says, in his best Darth Vadar voice,
SOMEBODY TOOK FORTY DOLLARS OUT OF MY CHECKING YESTERDAY!!! Menacing Man.

I said, yeah, I told you. Twenty for the copay and twenty so mom wouldn't be completely without money. He says I never told him. He accused me of stealing it.

I told him "There is nothing between us. We are done. You can hire someone to look after you two. I will never step foot on your property again."

He says that's' fine with him.

this may sound harsh but more things were said and insinuated than I care to go in to.
Bon chance, motherfkkers. He had a PERFECT set up. I am an RN who was completely at their disposal, I had case managed 3500 people in a steel mill and I know my shit. When they tried to cancel my mom's MRI I got it done THAT DAY.

But, as they say in the funny papers, that's all folks. I'm done.

[Trilby]

addendum: I have called a lawyer to see if we can compel him to take a neurological exam as he feels he is perfectly ok and he clearly is NOT.

He drove down the middle of the road OVER A HILL and did 60 mph in the hammer down lane and was nearly run off the highway by an irate driver who then honked and flipped him off. He also weaves as he drives and goes thru red lights or stops at green lights. but he says, "I'd put my driving record up against yours any day!" well, he's got me there. I DO have a 'failure to control' on my record. He thinks he's fine. He's NOT. He's a menace and will kill someone.. I don't care if he kills himself driving but I DO care if he kills someone else.

I'm so mad I could spit. He always has been an abusive nightmare and now he is worse.

[glatt]

I'm sorry, Brianna.

You need to take care of yourself. If he treats you like shit, it's for the best that you cut him out of your life.

[Trilby]

Originally Posted by glatt

I'm sorry, Brianna.

You need to take care of yourself. If he treats you like shit, it's for the best that you cut him out of your life.

thanks, glatt.

Cut him out: this is done.

Today.

[monster]

Originally Posted by Brianna

thanks, glatt.

Cut him out: this is done.

Today.

where is the like button for this post?

[footfootfoot]

That is really a drag and a bad combo. There must be some agency that can take away his driving privileges or something.

It's hard to stay away from the parents but sometimes it's what you have to do.

[Clodfobble]

I think all seniors should have to retake their driving test at 65, 70, 75, and every two years after that. So sayeth Queen Clodfobble.

[orthodoc]

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

I think all seniors should have to retake their driving test at 65, 70, 75, and every two years after that. So sayeth Queen Clodfobble.

Lady Ortho agrees. And, Bri - call his PCP and tell them your concerns, ask them to get him in for something or other - they can cobble up a reason to ask him to come in. Then they can give him a mental status exam, book him some tests, and ... send in a form to the state Dept of Transportation outlining the problems. The state will then pull his license. At least, that's how it's supposed to work.

Sorry this is happening. It sounds like your father has serious medical issues going on, BUT those don't excuse or explain his treatment of you all these years. Going no contact is sometimes the only way to deal. Glad you're taking steps to protect yourself.

[Pico and ME]

Yeah Bri, breaking off all contact is seriously hard no matter how important it is to do. You mind fuck yourself worse than anyone else could do, no shit, but be strong. Good luck on this.

[Lola Bunny]

I'm so sorry to hear how your dad treats you. It's sad when a parent treats his/her child badly.

[BigV]

all hail the Queen!