Kids and the Internet

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by bluecuracao

Is looking at porn (gay, straight, whatever) online different from the days of yore, when kids looked at porn magazines?

Hell yes. Because the possibilities are unlimited. Your daddies playboy under the bed ain't nothing like it. And everyone of you knows that.

[SadistSecret]

You know, Merc, I was hoping to actually NOT attack you in my last drawn out post...

And it SICKENS me how you can just throw out something like that...As I said, I may not have biologically fathered any children, but I was stuck raising the little ones, and often. These children are turning out just fine. You can't give my argument no merit whatsover without sounding like a total dick, which after that, I believe you are little more than that.

I'd call you a man, but you need to grow the fuck up first.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by SadistSecret

You know, Merc, I was hoping to actually NOT attack you in my last drawn out post...

And it SICKENS me how you can just throw out something like that...As I said, I may not have biologically fathered any children, but I was stuck raising the little ones, and often. These children are turning out just fine. You can't give my argument no merit whatsover without sounding like a total dick, which after that, I believe you are little more than that.

I'd call you a man, but you need to grow the fuck up first.

ROTFLMAO!!!

[piercehawkeye45]

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

ROTFLMAO!!!

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I don't have a response so I will use this as a filler.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by piercehawkeye45

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I don't have a response so I will use this as a filler.

Or that it was just a bull shit response and statement that I found it quite funny.

Or I guess I could have just come back with another insult and we can start another insult exchange...

All those folks with such vast parenting experience..... Heh.

What the hell does gay porn have to do with anything?

[Aliantha]

Ibram, in answer to your question about porn online. I don't think there's a whole lot of difference other than that it costs more if the person trying to view it happens to click one of those dial-in thingies that charge buckets of money.

The interenet is the new medium and carries with it all the risks associated with any new medium.

The important thing to me is the same as it's always been. Educate your children so they know the difference between right and wrong and can critically analyse what they're doing or looking at and give a reasonable explanation for it if questioned.

Men don't buy porn mags as much as they used to thanks to the interenet. What are little boys (or girls) supposed to giggle over with their mates now?

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Ibram, in answer to your question about porn online. I don't think there's a whole lot of difference other than that it costs more if the person trying to view it happens to click one of those dial-in thingies that charge buckets of money.

The interenet is the new medium and carries with it all the risks associated with any new medium.

The important thing to me is the same as it's always been. Educate your children so they know the difference between right and wrong and can critically analyse what they're doing or looking at and give a reasonable explanation for it if questioned.

Men don't buy porn mags as much as they used to thanks to the interenet. What are little boys (or girls) supposed to giggle over with their mates now?

Would you approve of your teen boy checking out gay porn on the internet? Let's for the sake of argument that he starts checking this stuff out at the age of 14, now he is 16 and it is all ok? I wonder if Ib's parents know what kind of porn he is checking out on the internet? Hmmmm....

[Happy Monkey]

"What kind of porn?" What, you think that you can catch "gay" from porn?

[Aliantha]

Porn is porn. If a person is gay then they're likely to be turned on by gay porn I suppose, in which case that's an entirely different thread.

I don't happen to be of the belief that someone is going to 'turn gay' by looking at gay porn for example.

To answer your question though, I would expect my kids to look at porn, if in fact they haven't already done so. To believe otherwise would make me incredibly naive.

As I've said, my aim as a parent is to give them the tools to make the right decisions, not make all their decisions for them.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Porn is porn. If a person is gay then they're likely to be turned on by gay porn I suppose, in which case that's an entirely different thread.

I don't happen to be of the belief that someone is going to 'turn gay' by looking at gay porn for example.

To answer your question though, I would expect my kids to look at porn, if in fact they haven't already done so. To believe otherwise would make me incredibly naive.

As I've said, my aim as a parent is to give them the tools to make the right decisions, not make all their decisions for them.

Well I certainly agree with your statement that looking at gay porn is in someway going to turn them into a gay person, because I don't believe that is true, but that was not the question. The question was would you approve and allow your teen to do so?

[Aliantha]

I don't think it matters if I approve or not. They will find a way to do it if they want to, and quite frankly, I don't think porn is a big deal.

I like looking at it. I see no reason that my kids wouldn't. I don't believe porn to be evil and honestly, I think most of the people who post porn pics on 'free porn' sites are doing it because they like it, so I don't buy the arguments about degredation etc.

Of course I don't want my kids to 'get into' porn when they're young, but I do expect them to look at it. It's going to happen regardless of what I do or say, so as I said, give them the tools, let them make the right decisions.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Of course I don't want my kids to 'get into' porn when they're young, but I do expect them to look at it. It's going to happen regardless of what I do or say, so as I said, give them the tools, let them make the right decisions.

I don't want to misunderstand you... tool = internet. tool = how you bring them up. your teen looking at porn is ok because they are going to do it anyway. No?

[Aliantha]

The tools I'm refering to are knowing right from wrong, social conscience, good judgement etc.

Yes, they're going to do it and yes it's ok provided they have the 'tools' to recognise why they're doing it and what the possible consequences and or outcomes are likely to be.

As a note, I'd probably prefer that they didn't look at porn till they're a bit older, but as I said earlier, I think it'd be naive of me to believe they wont. History tells us all that kids will do these types of things for many different reasons, but one of the big reasons is the fact that they're taboo.

If I take those sorts of taboos out of the equation, I hope that they recognise porn for what it is instead of doing it because they think what they're doing is wrong.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Yes, they're going to do it and yes it's ok provided they have the 'tools' to recognise why they're doing it and what the possible consequences and or outcomes are likely to be.

As much as a teen wants you to believe that they have this capacity I am not sure that they do... But if you ask them, they are the smartest mofo's on the earth.