Dwellar Secrets

[BrianR]

Originally Posted by monster

I hate foundation. 2005? You still look young for your age in that shot. It must agree with you

I hate foundation too. Unfortunately, I need it to cover the beard shadow.

Originally Posted by plthijinx

2005? just before salt grass then. that was what? 2006?

Salt grass? The restaurant chain or Distichlis spicata?

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Brian, I don't know if this is PC or not. I'll be buggered if I can figure it out, but I just wanted to say that you make a pretty attractive woman. I've never seen you as a man, so I can't comment on that.

I'm definitely not a PC-person so go ahead. Thank you very much. For a man pic, try my profile. Just click on my name.

Originally Posted by ZenGum

If you thought announcing your new identity was going to distract me from the fact that you're a plagiarist, you've got another think coming!



Actually I'm more amused that nobody noticed you plagiarised LotR. Which poem was it?

I forget now. It was one of the very short ones taken from just after Gandalf fell in the Mines of Moria. I'd have to get the books out to see the exact one. It all goes to show that no one really read those poems or "songs" except us LotR geeks.

Originally Posted by casimendocina

That's a great dress or is it a feather boa?

It is only a boa.

Originally Posted by wolf

Brian, Thanks for trusting everyone here.

As always, I am curious about several things ...

- why on earth would you CHOOSE to wear pantyhose and high heels (yes, I know that flats are more likely for you, but that spoils my question)?

I choose NOT to wear those! I prefer stockings and garters for the sexy feelings on the unusual occasions that I wear them at all. I'm a leggings or skirt kind of gurl.

(I do have a pair of F*** me heels tho )

- will you lose the ability to parallel park and repair automobiles?

no, but I will gain the ability to get someone else to do it for me!
I'm practicing my "helpless female" image for flat tires!

- nice glamor shot.

Thank you.

Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Pamela, you have the most gorgeous hair.

Thanks, but that's a wig, not my real hair. My real hair is much thinner and finer. I hail from Scotland mind.

Originally Posted by glatt

BrianR is your user title. Do you want us to call you Brian, BrianR, or Pamela? Or Pam?

Are you going to change your profile picture and ask for a changed user name?

Well, you can call me Ray, or you can call me Jay.... as long as you don't call me late for supper! [/obscure joke] Seriously, I will answer to both until I get my official name change sometime next year. Until then, whatever makes you comfortable. I prefer Pamela (or just Pam to my friends) but no pressure. And I wouldn't be even a little upset if UT were to change my user name to Pamela.

Each day, do you dress as a woman? Have you thrown away your men's clothes? I'm curious how it works, this transition. Is it gradual, where you go back and forth between identities as the mood strikes you, or have you said goodbye to Brian and you're now Pam?

I tend to dress male still, partly because clothes cost more for women, it's tougher to find things that fit me (either too tight/small or too large and FORGET shoes!). Also, remember that I live in Redneck, Texas. The land of pick em up trucks, guns and beer. Some people know about me and most have been accepting (surprisingly). Of course, that acceptance only goes so far.

The changes are gradual, I won't sprout boobage overnight (darn!) nor will I suddenly dress in full drag queen mode (ever!) And no, my sexual preference won't change!

The transition is different for each of us. Some just change overnight and others barely change at all. It's mostly a comfort thing. I know of gurls who planned their coming out as if it were a debutante ball, complete with guests, a gown and a buffet, strolled in, made the announcement that they will henceforth be known as XXXXX etc etc. And never look back. Others stay in stealth mode, perhaps in fear for their lives (murder happens) or jobs (it's legal to fire us in 38 states) or other reasons.

I am playing this by ear, adding clothes to my wardrobe as I find them (and like them). There will be many ups and downs on this roller coaster ride and this is only the beginning. Please bear with me.

I welcome any and all respectful questions. One may wish to look up Calpernia Addam's YouTube video "Bad questions to ask a Transsexual" (Director's Cut is the better of them). So far, no one has insulted or offended me and I don't expect anyone to do so. I know you all pretty well and I understand that your questions are posited in the desire to understand, not to offend.

Thank you all for your patience!

Pam