Loneliness is about twice as dangerous as obesity - Page 5

sexobon · 06-03-2014, 09:05 PM

That's what she said ...

Clodfobble · 06-04-2014, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Flint

Six months later, explaining this to the Cellar, I feel exactly the same. I feel 100% as hurt, betrayed, and rejected. I can't imagine what could change so that this isn't an injury I never fully recover from, and in some part of me, carry to my grave. On dark nights, years from now, won't I remember this? Part of me has died.

I think your living situation is keeping the wound fresh. Yes, some part of you will always remember the hurt, but it will get better to a large degree. That process can't start until you actually get out from under the knife, though. Now that you have money, what's the plan for one or the other of you moving out?

glatt · 06-04-2014, 08:20 AM

If I were in that situation, I would be very torn. I wouldn't want to leave the kids by moving out. That would kill me. But I also wouldn't be able to stay.

I think what I would do is figure out some custody arrangements and get a nearby apartment. And probably a divorce.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do Flint. But I think that now that you have some money, you have some options. It sounds like she is the weak one who won't make a decision, so you have to.

Undertoad · 06-04-2014, 08:41 AM

What's newguy's salary?

Flint · 06-05-2014, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

What's newguy's salary?

Somewhere in the antisocial, tattooed, fedora-wearing hipster range. He couldn't get a job in Texas--we rescued him from being homeless. He is doing temp jobs up here.

Spexxvet · 06-05-2014, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Flint

Somewhere in the antisocial, tattooed, fedora-wearing hipster range. He couldn't get a job in Texas--we rescued him from being homeless. He is doing temp jobs up here.

And that the thanks you get.

I feel for you, Flint

Undertoad · 06-05-2014, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Flint

He couldn't get a job in Texas--we rescued him from being homeless.

two years is a pretty long game just for some tail.

You own the Portland place or rent?

limey · 06-04-2014, 09:02 AM

What Clod said, what Glatt said.

Sent by thought transference

footfootfoot · 06-04-2014, 10:09 AM

Flint-
Sorry to hear you got fucked over in what I consider a wormy kind of way, but I won't cast stones as much as I'd like to. As a friend once said more than once, "There's what he says, there's what she says, and there's what really happened."

The upshot is that you are in a sucky situation.

I hope you can keep your mojo until things improve, in the meantime here are two thoughts to ponder:

1) Living well is the best revenge.

2) WTF?

Aliantha · 06-05-2014, 06:58 PM

If you can afford to, move out. Get the new life happening. Believe me, it will be better for the kids in the long run if everyone can be real about the situation. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for most of the time. Living in the same house and not being yourself has got to be worse than living alone with the kids and being real about things.

Is there any other reason besides the kids that you're staying for?

Flint · 06-06-2014, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

Is there any other reason besides the kids that you're staying for?

Yes, I've been unemployed since I moved up here. I was doing contract work prior to making the final move up here (wife and kids were already here in the house I was paying for, so the kids could get acclimated to Portland before the start of their first school year here). I've just now found a new full time job, making a lot of money like I always had before. I start my new job next week--this is literally the first time in six months I haven't been trapped in a shitty situation with no options.

glatt · 06-06-2014, 03:15 PM

Ah, next week. I was under the impression you had already started the new job.

So do you have plans for what you intend to do next? Have you glanced at the real estate section of the paper to see the apartments? Or however you find apartments these days?

Big Sarge · 06-05-2014, 08:54 PM

you are a far, far stronger man than me. I wouldn't have been able to handle the stuff going on downstairs while I sat alone in my little room/prison cell.

sexobon · 06-05-2014, 09:23 PM

Some guys are cut out to be cuckolds and some aren't.

Clodfobble · 06-05-2014, 11:48 PM

That sounded a little cunty...

06-04-2014, 09:02 AM	#8
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	What Clod said, what Glatt said. Sent by thought transference __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-04-2014, 10:09 AM	#9
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Flint- Sorry to hear you got fucked over in what I consider a wormy kind of way, but I won't cast stones as much as I'd like to. As a friend once said more than once, "There's what he says, there's what she says, and there's what really happened." The upshot is that you are in a sucky situation. I hope you can keep your mojo until things improve, in the meantime here are two thoughts to ponder: 1) Living well is the best revenge. 2) WTF? __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

06-05-2014, 06:58 PM	#10
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	If you can afford to, move out. Get the new life happening. Believe me, it will be better for the kids in the long run if everyone can be real about the situation. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for most of the time. Living in the same house and not being yourself has got to be worse than living alone with the kids and being real about things. Is there any other reason besides the kids that you're staying for? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

06-05-2014, 08:54 PM	#13
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	you are a far, far stronger man than me. I wouldn't have been able to handle the stuff going on downstairs while I sat alone in my little room/prison cell. __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

06-05-2014, 11:48 PM	#15
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	That sounded a little cunty... __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

06-03-2014, 09:05 PM	#1
sexobon I love it when a plan comes together. Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 9,793	That's what she said ...

06-04-2014, 08:20 AM	#3
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	If I were in that situation, I would be very torn. I wouldn't want to leave the kids by moving out. That would kill me. But I also wouldn't be able to stay. I think what I would do is figure out some custody arrangements and get a nearby apartment. And probably a divorce. Good luck with whatever you decide to do Flint. But I think that now that you have some money, you have some options. It sounds like she is the weak one who won't make a decision, so you have to.

06-04-2014, 08:41 AM	#4
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	What's newguy's salary?

06-06-2014, 03:15 PM	#12
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Ah, next week. I was under the impression you had already started the new job. So do you have plans for what you intend to do next? Have you glanced at the real estate section of the paper to see the apartments? Or however you find apartments these days?

06-05-2014, 09:23 PM	#14
sexobon I love it when a plan comes together. Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 9,793	Some guys are cut out to be cuckolds and some aren't.

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