A very long post about something that's getting me down - Page 2

limey · 06-17-2006, 04:25 PM

Dana, it is a very difficult thing to become the parent to one's own parents. I think, in your situation, I'd try to get the water supply fixed, even if it means railroading your dad a bit. Tell him that it will make his life in his own home more comfortable, and that you're doing it in order for him to stay where he wants to for as long as possible. If this means shifting a roomful or junk or two for a week or two for workmen to operate, then be there to do that for/with your dad.
Mind you, I've been trying to get my mum to buy a cooker to replace her deathtrap without a thermostat for the past two years ...

xoxoxoBruce · 06-17-2006, 10:51 PM

limey, break the old one.

tw · 06-17-2006, 01:44 AM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

Why's it bothering me now? Well....it's hard to explain, so I'll give you a little bit of background on it.

I can only speculate from what was posted. Consider this as one option. Get more relevance in your own life so that what happens with your parents does not distract you so much. Eventually, your dad's situation will become your problem. But if you cannot solve it now, then better to make your life more important to you - for now - until that time you will eventually have to deal with it. Keep moving forward.

You might decide up front what the conditions will be that cause you to eventually take charge. But again, don't dwell on things you cannot fix now. Better to be distracted by your own life until time comes that you will eventually inherit this - a classic event of life.

06-17-2006, 04:25 PM	#1
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Dana, it is a very difficult thing to become the parent to one's own parents. I think, in your situation, I'd try to get the water supply fixed, even if it means railroading your dad a bit. Tell him that it will make his life in his own home more comfortable, and that you're doing it in order for him to stay where he wants to for as long as possible. If this means shifting a roomful or junk or two for a week or two for workmen to operate, then be there to do that for/with your dad. Mind you, I've been trying to get my mum to buy a cooker to replace her deathtrap without a thermostat for the past two years ... __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

06-17-2006, 10:51 PM	#2
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	limey, break the old one. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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