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Old 07-19-2006, 11:08 AM   #16
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Great article Bruce.


I think mutual respect and compatibility should replace love at first. Love should grow out respect and compatibility and not the other way around.
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Old 07-19-2006, 12:26 PM   #17
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I think mutual respect and compatibility should replace love at first.
Nah, they should just ban all use of carrots.
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Old 07-19-2006, 01:02 PM   #18
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If it were me, I'd ban all use of Brussel Sprouts for being stinky. But that's probably another topic.
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Old 07-19-2006, 01:10 PM   #19
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Nah, they should just ban all use of carrots.

Ok have it your way. I am agreeable.

First, Carrots should stay out of eyes .


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If it were me, I'd ban all use of Brussel Sprouts for being stinky. But that's probably another topic.
no not another topic at all. If you can't stab them in the eye with a carrot then one should most definatly cook brussel sprouts on that first bad date.
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Old 07-20-2006, 07:51 AM   #20
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Bad boys/girls can make your life exciting in the short run, but that "image" typically wears off rather quickly, only to be replaced by the realization of how shallow a person they really are. It is then that the cycle begins to repeat itself with a new "bad boy/girl". Once one matures and desires a more meaningful lasting relationship, the desire for the bad boy/girl subsides a great deal. Its difficult to picture one with a career and a nice house with a garage and the kids playing with the dog in the backyard. just a thought.
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Old 07-20-2006, 07:52 AM   #21
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Oh and how does cabbage fit into all of tis, cuz if we can eliminate a vegetable, it would definitely be on my list.
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Old 07-22-2006, 06:06 PM   #22
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First, Carrots should stay out of eyes .
Absolutely, no carrots above the waist.
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Old 07-22-2006, 06:11 PM   #23
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But I thought carrots were supposed to be good for your eyes?

I checked some carrots in the house, and not one of them is marked "For internal use only."
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Old 07-22-2006, 06:39 PM   #24
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Old 07-23-2006, 09:09 PM   #25
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Old 07-26-2006, 12:46 AM   #26
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On the idea of having asshole fathers, and how that affects what type of man a girl will fall for... while my own father was not abusive (either emotionally or physically), he definitely was not Mr. Brady, either. For most of my life, all I remember is him being argumentative, disagreeable, and flat-out jerkish. Because of that, I promised myself that I would never fall for the kind of guy my father was/sometimes still is. I learned what kind of warning signs to avoid, and if I saw those traits in a partner, it was time to move on. Granted, I'm young yet and probably have not seen as much of the world as some people think I should, I've found a guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, and am going to marry in less than a year. He's probably the most opposite from my dad as a person can get, and I couldn't be happier with him.

I can see how many girls would get comfortable in the familiar feelings of what they grew up with, but there is the other side to take into consideration. Having a jerk father can definitely drive a girl to look for the good guys out there.
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Old 07-26-2006, 11:15 AM   #27
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Congratulations, Brooke. Step one is complete.

Step two is making sure YOU don't become the one in the relationship who is like your father.
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Old 07-26-2006, 11:27 AM   #28
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Step two is making sure YOU don't become the one in the relationship who is like your father.
What happens when you turn out like your mother?
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Old 07-26-2006, 11:35 AM   #29
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I'm just gonna put this out there for whatever it's worth and I'm not making any sort of comparison, etc. so don't jump on me. that said, I was POSITIVE that I'd found the solar opposite to my father when I married bachelor number two. Turns out, he was my father in a very clever disguise. I have always, always fallen for the Ultra Controlling Type--even if I found them dancing and 'shrooming at a Dead concert. I'm like a heat-seeking missle when it comes to finding the Most Controlling Jerk in a Crowd of Thousands. Let the buyer beware.
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Old 07-26-2006, 12:12 PM   #30
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I knew I didn't want a mate like my mother OR my father and thought for sure I'd made the right choice when I married the first time. Turns out he was just like dear old daddy, only much worse. He simply hid it better during the courtship.

Eight years after our divorce, I made the same mistake again ...but thats another story. Evidently I didn't learn the lessons life offered me the first time around.

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