Analyse this please..... - Page 2

09-26-2006, 12:20 AM

Too many possibilities to try to speculate... but I worry about the game playing.

Madman · 09-26-2006, 08:20 AM

The chase, the baton pass, win the race and awarded the blue ribbon. Im a guy. I have chased in my younger years. Everything was built up to a high crescendo and the fat lady finished her song.

Bottom line: Use your gut. My gut tells me you were used.

xoxoxoBruce · 09-26-2006, 08:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DucksNuts

big snip~ plus I am getting pressure from my girlfriends to "fuck him off" and "don't let him treat me like shit".

aARRRRRRrraaaaaaaaaahhh!!!!!!!!!

See that Brianna, Rock steady?
Girlfriends....support group....trouble!
DuckNuts has her shit together.... reasonable, rational, cautious...smart. This guy maybe a total dickhead, maybe not.... she's on top of it.
But the "girlfriends", the support group, are pressuring in the guise of being there for her. Grrrrrrrrrr.

Pant, pant, pant......Now, where was I...breath, breath, breath.
I find it odd, he couldn't get in touch with you soon after. LJ may be right, or the guy became an emotional basket case? Steve has a point about wearing contacts should make the guy prepare for eventualities. Were I in that situation, I think I'd ask you to come with me, but that's me.

Maybe he always had the hots for the wife of the heart attackee?

Sundae · 09-26-2006, 09:09 AM

Uh-uh.
Too many things do not add up. Leave it. Not in a stroppy way, just in a been-there-tried-that way.

- If I left a date and while gone discovered a friend had had a heart attack I'd have at LEAST contacted the hotel. Blimey, even if my beloved Daddy had a heart attack I'd have the courtesy to tell the person who'd travelled miles to see me.
- As Clodfobble says - a note under a door? No.
- And as Steve says, in my contact wearing days I took supplies if there was even as much of a sniff of an overnight stay.

Bruce don't be mean, Duck's friends probably are looking out for her. In the best case scenario this is a man who loses his head in a crisis, doesn't prepare effectively, is financially unstable and has poor manners.

I mean, if he was still interested I would have expected him to try & make up for the fact he disappeared without a trace and left Ducks in a hotel room miles from home.

Madman · 09-26-2006, 09:27 AM

Heart Attack my ass. The POS is telling a story. How many of you ladies heard when you were young teens the line "I only have "X" number of months to live" or "It hurts if I don't" or "I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you."

Shit, your older and the game gets smarter. This guy is full of shit. He got laid and that is all he wanted. The dude is trash and needs to be brought out to the street.

Move on - this guy isn't worth your effort.

Trilby · 09-26-2006, 09:45 AM

The whole gotta change contacts, back in thirty min. sounds so...so...familiar...

maybe he's an addict and needed to get out to get a fix and overshot himself and was too wrecked to come back?

Probably not, though. But that is something I could see myself doing if I was dying for a shot. Any excuse to get outta there for a while.

DucksNuts · 09-26-2006, 06:32 PM

I should clarify ...we did NOT have sex, we were in foreplay mode and were still planning on going out on the town.

>>IF<< we had of had sex and he had done the ole "gotta change my contacts" routine I would of been in here doing the "OMG, I cant believe I got taken for a ride like that" thread.....that game I know and can play.

This one has thrown me because...

a) there was chemistry and he left before anything actually happened, he would of gotten laid if he had stuck around.

b) why bother making up excuses and contacting me at all, if he planned to disappear off the face of the planet?

c) we spoke yesterday and I asked him straight out...he duck, weaved and avoided saying anything to that would of totally burnt his bridges.

c said - I'm not being fooled, I'm actually interested to see where this goes for *growth* purposes now.

Undertoad · 09-26-2006, 07:21 PM

This is a single heterosexual man we're talking about here, with a hardon and a clear and present opportunity to get laid. If there is a problem with contact lenses in such a situation, the only appropriate action is to entirely remove them, throw them away, and proceed with the rest of the evening in a state of mild blindness.

Scared seems the most likely explanation. Not necessarily over the top, but it could be that the guy is not used to this kind of sudden opportunity and was not entirely adjusted for it, or expected things to move more slowly and got freaked out. It could be that there is some additional condition involved, something that made the scene embarrassing for him. Maybe he got laughed at for his 3" unit during his last one-night stand and he was thinking there would be more romance before tickling. Maybe he's a relapsed Catholic and this brought up some guilt issue. Maybe you said something that reminded him of his dead gramma.

Maybe he thought that the over-the-topness gave him license to act weird and not typically respectfully. Like, she's so adult, she understands that guys are gonna weird out from time to time and just escape with whatever explanation occurs to them.

xoxoxoBruce · 09-26-2006, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

snip~

Bruce don't be mean, Duck's friends probably are looking out for her. In the best case scenario this is a man who loses his head in a crisis, doesn't prepare effectively, is financially unstable and has poor manners.~snip

I'm not being mean, I'm being observant. Having seen "girlfriends' ruin so many lives by being "supportive". Yeah, they support you by forcing you to do things their way or never hear the end of it. It doesn't matter what you feel or think, they cram your situation into a pigeon hole and tell you how you must react. Bah:p

That said, be very careful of this guy. His actions are not normal. He acts like he found a roach in your hair or he's a vampire and you've got poison blood.

I'm also interested to see where it goes, DN.

footfootfoot · 09-26-2006, 08:55 PM

Reminds me of the joke "Always the doubt, always the doubt..."

lumberjim · 09-26-2006, 09:08 PM

please. he totally came.

footfootfoot · 09-26-2006, 09:18 PM

DucksNuts (as mr.x is running out the door): "Hey wait! I thought you said you were kinky."

mr.x: "I am. I just fucked your cat and shit in your purse. I'm outta here baby."

Not "always the doubt", but a lot shorter.

mrnoodle · 09-26-2006, 11:11 PM

come on, get some hollywood up in heah.

his buddy was dying of a heart attack and his final wish was for the guy to take care of his wife and kids.

Or maybe his friend said "Dude, we've been friends a long time...you know how I feel about ducknuts. It would be a knife in my back, man..."

I don't watch soaps, I can't write them well

Aliantha · 09-26-2006, 11:31 PM

Hey Ducks...did you ask the mutual friend who hooked you up in the first place? Perhaps the mutual friend is also mutually friendly with the heart attack victim?

In any case, some blokes are weird. I reckon if you think he's being a dick he probably is being a dick. Also, 8 - 9 months isn't such a long time to be separated so maybe he did get freaked out or something?

The only other thing I can say is: DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR GIRLFRIENDS!!!!! Make your own decision about him. They're not the ones who are living your life and I KNOW what bloody women can be like. I am one!

Madman · 09-27-2006, 07:24 AM

DucksNuts - Be careful and I hope for the best for you.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha Sig

Don't take life too seriously. You'll never get out of it alive!

I like your sig! Side note: I'm Doomed for sure!

09-26-2006, 09:09 AM	#19
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Uh-uh. Too many things do not add up. Leave it. Not in a stroppy way, just in a been-there-tried-that way. - If I left a date and while gone discovered a friend had had a heart attack I'd have at LEAST contacted the hotel. Blimey, even if my beloved Daddy had a heart attack I'd have the courtesy to tell the person who'd travelled miles to see me. - As Clodfobble says - a note under a door? No. - And as Steve says, in my contact wearing days I took supplies if there was even as much of a sniff of an overnight stay. Bruce don't be mean, Duck's friends probably are looking out for her. In the best case scenario this is a man who loses his head in a crisis, doesn't prepare effectively, is financially unstable and has poor manners. I mean, if he was still interested I would have expected him to try & make up for the fact he disappeared without a trace and left Ducks in a hotel room miles from home. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

09-26-2006, 08:55 PM	#25
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Reminds me of the joke "Always the doubt, always the doubt..." __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

09-26-2006, 09:08 PM	#26
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	please. he totally came. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

09-26-2006, 09:18 PM	#27
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	DucksNuts (as mr.x is running out the door): "Hey wait! I thought you said you were kinky." mr.x: "I am. I just fucked your cat and shit in your purse. I'm outta here baby." Not "always the doubt", but a lot shorter. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

09-26-2006, 11:11 PM	#28
mrnoodle bent Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: under the weather Posts: 2,656	come on, get some hollywood up in heah. his buddy was dying of a heart attack and his final wish was for the guy to take care of his wife and kids. Or maybe his friend said "Dude, we've been friends a long time...you know how I feel about ducknuts. It would be a knife in my back, man..." I don't watch soaps, I can't write them well __________________ Sìn a nall na cuaranan sin. -- Cha mhór is fheairrde thu iad, tha iad coltach ri cat air a dhathadh

09-26-2006, 12:20 AM	#16
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	Too many possibilities to try to speculate... but I worry about the game playing.

09-26-2006, 08:20 AM	#17
Madman has left the building. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 455	The chase, the baton pass, win the race and awarded the blue ribbon. Im a guy. I have chased in my younger years. Everything was built up to a high crescendo and the fat lady finished her song. Bottom line: Use your gut. My gut tells me you were used.

09-26-2006, 09:27 AM	#20
Madman has left the building. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 455	Heart Attack my ass. The POS is telling a story. How many of you ladies heard when you were young teens the line "I only have "X" number of months to live" or "It hurts if I don't" or "I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you." Shit, your older and the game gets smarter. This guy is full of shit. He got laid and that is all he wanted. The dude is trash and needs to be brought out to the street. Move on - this guy isn't worth your effort.

09-26-2006, 09:45 AM	#21
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	The whole gotta change contacts, back in thirty min. sounds so...so...familiar... maybe he's an addict and needed to get out to get a fix and overshot himself and was too wrecked to come back? Probably not, though. But that is something I could see myself doing if I was dying for a shot. Any excuse to get outta there for a while.

09-26-2006, 06:32 PM	#22
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	I should clarify ...we did NOT have sex, we were in foreplay mode and were still planning on going out on the town. >>IF<< we had of had sex and he had done the ole "gotta change my contacts" routine I would of been in here doing the "OMG, I cant believe I got taken for a ride like that" thread.....that game I know and can play. This one has thrown me because... a) there was chemistry and he left before anything actually happened, he would of gotten laid if he had stuck around. b) why bother making up excuses and contacting me at all, if he planned to disappear off the face of the planet? c) we spoke yesterday and I asked him straight out...he duck, weaved and avoided saying anything to that would of totally burnt his bridges. c said - I'm not being fooled, I'm actually interested to see where this goes for growth purposes now.

09-26-2006, 07:21 PM	#23
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	This is a single heterosexual man we're talking about here, with a hardon and a clear and present opportunity to get laid. If there is a problem with contact lenses in such a situation, the only appropriate action is to entirely remove them, throw them away, and proceed with the rest of the evening in a state of mild blindness. Scared seems the most likely explanation. Not necessarily over the top, but it could be that the guy is not used to this kind of sudden opportunity and was not entirely adjusted for it, or expected things to move more slowly and got freaked out. It could be that there is some additional condition involved, something that made the scene embarrassing for him. Maybe he got laughed at for his 3" unit during his last one-night stand and he was thinking there would be more romance before tickling. Maybe he's a relapsed Catholic and this brought up some guilt issue. Maybe you said something that reminded him of his dead gramma. Maybe he thought that the over-the-topness gave him license to act weird and not typically respectfully. Like, she's so adult, she understands that guys are gonna weird out from time to time and just escape with whatever explanation occurs to them.

09-26-2006, 11:31 PM	#29
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Hey Ducks...did you ask the mutual friend who hooked you up in the first place? Perhaps the mutual friend is also mutually friendly with the heart attack victim? In any case, some blokes are weird. I reckon if you think he's being a dick he probably is being a dick. Also, 8 - 9 months isn't such a long time to be separated so maybe he did get freaked out or something? The only other thing I can say is: DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR GIRLFRIENDS!!!!! Make your own decision about him. They're not the ones who are living your life and I KNOW what bloody women can be like. I am one! __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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