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Gravdigr · 08-03-2011, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

I have never been to any of my HS reunions.

Got my 25th HS reunion invitation a few weeks ago.

$35/person, cash bar, to hang out with people who wouldn't speak to me in HS. Yeah, right.

BigV · 08-10-2011, 06:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gravdigr

Got my 25th HS reunion invitation a few weeks ago.

$35/person, cash bar, to hang out with people who wouldn't speak to me in HS. Yeah, right.

I know, right? pfft--you got that right here!

that will be $35 please.

TheMercenary · 08-10-2011, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

Does everyone at one time in their life search out classmates after 20-30-40 years?

No. It is a waste of time and energy. No one is the same as you remember them.

Big Sarge · 08-10-2011, 10:53 PM

At my 20th reunion, I saw some old friends and talked a couple of times but never reconnected. My 30th reunion, I was deployed. I recently reconnected with with a friend from the 1st grade till we were college room mates. He is a producer with Turner Classic Movies and even starred in the series TCM Roughcut. He was good friends with Tony Curtis and still is with Nicholas Cage. He even has an Emmy nomination. It is nice to talk to him, but our lives are vastly different.

To tell the truth, I'm jealous and this only reinforced my feelings that I'm pretty much of a failure. Sigh, just being honest

monster · 08-10-2011, 11:37 PM

um, uh-huh. no failure. just totally different. success is relative.

infinite monkey · 08-11-2011, 08:01 AM

I don't search them out, and we don't keep up on HS reunions, but when we HAVE had them we've had a complete blast. Fuck the people who don't want to come and have a good time. I got along with most everyone in my class, and at reunions I still see the faces of so long ago and I remember the times we've had...times that certainly shaped who I am...for good or bad.

Those who snort and sniff about "I didn't like them then why should I go now" are in the same boat they were in back then for the same reason: bad social skills and giant shoulder chips.

I mean, my GAWD, get over it already. I was comfy with the jocks and the nerds and the brains and the punkass punks!

Or take your ball and go home. I'll just sit here and drink beer with Shelley and right-hook Jay when he flips my bra strap and wait for someone to ask me what our HS song was, knowing I'd remember.

I don't keep in touch with anyone...but I sure do like to see them now and again.

Bitter lives...I don't get it.

limey · 08-11-2011, 09:33 AM

Not necessarily bitter, infi, some of us are just disinterested.
When I've bumped into a few school chums by chance with whom I've not kept in touch it has swiftly become apparent why we did not keep in touch - nothing in common.
I don't think I went to any school reunions - or if I did it was within a very few years of leaving school. I wouldn't go to one now, but I am going to a schools' orchestra reunion soon.
I have reconnected with an old school friend on FB and we are playing word games. This is fun, and it'd be nice to have a beer/wine together at some point, I think. We may meet at the orchestra thing.

Oh, and Sarge! Some of the people who went to my high school are now HOllywood, Oscar winning actors etc. That doesn't make me a failure any more than your old chum's career makes you one. Monster is right - our paths are different.

infinite monkey · 08-11-2011, 09:37 AM

Oh well, I don't expect to reconnect and go swimming and sailing with them. Hanging out for a few hours, seeing what they've been up to, swapping old stories: none of these things require having everything in common.

I just find people from the past interesting, whether they share my love of killing hobos or if they've moved on to family and children, or spent 20 years in prison, or are the Top Dawg of Millionaires, Inc. I'm not planning to marry them all.

Undertoad · 08-11-2011, 09:40 AM

I am forever pursued in FB chat by a guy from school who remembers me very fondly... and I do not remember him AT ALL. I want to be nice to the guy but it's getting weird.

But I have also recently friended a guy from school I remember fondly, and he hardly remembers me at all. So this is just what 30 years of time will do.

It all seemed so important at the time...

08-10-2011, 10:53 PM	#19
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	At my 20th reunion, I saw some old friends and talked a couple of times but never reconnected. My 30th reunion, I was deployed. I recently reconnected with with a friend from the 1st grade till we were college room mates. He is a producer with Turner Classic Movies and even starred in the series TCM Roughcut. He was good friends with Tony Curtis and still is with Nicholas Cage. He even has an Emmy nomination. It is nice to talk to him, but our lives are vastly different. To tell the truth, I'm jealous and this only reinforced my feelings that I'm pretty much of a failure. Sigh, just being honest __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

08-10-2011, 11:37 PM	#20
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	um, uh-huh. no failure. just totally different. success is relative. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

08-11-2011, 09:33 AM	#22
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Not necessarily bitter, infi, some of us are just disinterested. When I've bumped into a few school chums by chance with whom I've not kept in touch it has swiftly become apparent why we did not keep in touch - nothing in common. I don't think I went to any school reunions - or if I did it was within a very few years of leaving school. I wouldn't go to one now, but I am going to a schools' orchestra reunion soon. I have reconnected with an old school friend on FB and we are playing word games. This is fun, and it'd be nice to have a beer/wine together at some point, I think. We may meet at the orchestra thing. Oh, and Sarge! Some of the people who went to my high school are now HOllywood, Oscar winning actors etc. That doesn't make me a failure any more than your old chum's career makes you one. Monster is right - our paths are different. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

08-11-2011, 08:01 AM	#21
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	I don't search them out, and we don't keep up on HS reunions, but when we HAVE had them we've had a complete blast. Fuck the people who don't want to come and have a good time. I got along with most everyone in my class, and at reunions I still see the faces of so long ago and I remember the times we've had...times that certainly shaped who I am...for good or bad. Those who snort and sniff about "I didn't like them then why should I go now" are in the same boat they were in back then for the same reason: bad social skills and giant shoulder chips. I mean, my GAWD, get over it already. I was comfy with the jocks and the nerds and the brains and the punkass punks! Or take your ball and go home. I'll just sit here and drink beer with Shelley and right-hook Jay when he flips my bra strap and wait for someone to ask me what our HS song was, knowing I'd remember. I don't keep in touch with anyone...but I sure do like to see them now and again. Bitter lives...I don't get it.

08-11-2011, 09:37 AM	#23
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Oh well, I don't expect to reconnect and go swimming and sailing with them. Hanging out for a few hours, seeing what they've been up to, swapping old stories: none of these things require having everything in common. I just find people from the past interesting, whether they share my love of killing hobos or if they've moved on to family and children, or spent 20 years in prison, or are the Top Dawg of Millionaires, Inc. I'm not planning to marry them all.

08-11-2011, 09:40 AM	#24
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I am forever pursued in FB chat by a guy from school who remembers me very fondly... and I do not remember him AT ALL. I want to be nice to the guy but it's getting weird. But I have also recently friended a guy from school I remember fondly, and he hardly remembers me at all. So this is just what 30 years of time will do. It all seemed so important at the time...

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