Well, This is Going to be a Lousy Situation - Page 2

limey · 11-28-2011, 02:01 AM

Oh Els. How awful. I think Zen has hit the nail on the head - it's one thing to sneak away because she thinks you "just wouldn't let her go", but the unpaid bills are just mean and not, IMHO the actions of a person who "truly wishes nothing but the best for you".
You have my every best wish. Is Clifton your son? Has she taken him away too?

Elspode · 11-28-2011, 02:19 AM

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Originally Posted by limey

You have my every best wish. Is Clifton your son? Has she taken him away too?

Clifton is my eldest stepson, who was living with us. He is 24, and of course must be supportive of his mother. If he wasn't, I'd smack him. By the same token, I doubt seriously if he wishes me any ill. I've already talked to his brother, our youngest stepson, who is livid over how this has been done, even though he understands her need to be apart from me.

Elspode · 11-28-2011, 02:21 AM

Posting this because it is beautiful, truthful as only great music can be, and because it applies...to both Selene and myself.

Elspode · 11-28-2011, 02:29 AM

It is probably worth noting that none of this is about another partner, really...but the concept of "running scared" certainly applies.

Trilby · 11-28-2011, 05:00 AM

You must be in shock, Els.

After you get over the shock, you need to do what you can do to protect yourself. The unpaid bills thing is, as others have pointed out, just plain mean and stupid.

Sounds like Selene is acting out some Teenage Angsty Dream. I've seen this movie before. She may rue the day that she acted like such a bitch and garnered such bad karma for herself.

I've seen it - I've seen it many, many times. Hold your head up, Elspode.

More willl be revealed.

DucksNuts · 11-28-2011, 05:31 AM

Oh ,'spode, im so sorry you and TF are going through this. I understand that it had to happen, but the way it was carried out was unnecessary.

I hope the financials sort themselves out, I can't see how she isn't liable for 50% of those bils?

Do you have a legal aid option over there? They say everyone is entitled to legal representation.

Hugs and supportive thoughts your way

xxx

footfootfoot · 11-28-2011, 07:32 AM

Holy CRAP Patrick.

Just damn and WTF?

lolz at xoBruce

glatt · 11-28-2011, 07:39 AM

Wow! Elspode, I'm so sorry.

I never could wrap my mind around your arrangement, but it seemed to work for you both so well. You were both so open about what you were doing with other partners, and didn't hide anything. That's why this really shocks me. It's so incredibly malicious!

Spexxvet · 11-28-2011, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by glatt

Wow! Elspode, I'm so sorry.

I never could wrap my mind around your arrangement, but it seemed to work for you both so well. You were both so open about what you were doing with other partners, and didn't hide anything. That's why this really shocks me. It's so incredibly malicious!

My thoughts, exactly.

monster · 11-28-2011, 07:44 AM

THe mortgage and untilities unpaid are the thing. Are you walking away from the house too and letting the bank reclaim it? Whose name are they in? I take it she was the one actually writing the checks or this would not have been news she had to share with you?

Griff · 11-28-2011, 08:00 AM

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Originally Posted by monster

THe mortgage and untilities unpaid are the thing. Are you walking away from the house too and letting the bank reclaim it? Whose name are they in? I take it she was the one actually writing the checks or this would not have been news she had to share with you?

These are good questions.

I'm sorry for your pain man.

glatt · 11-28-2011, 08:31 AM

The other big question was the closing of all the joint bank accounts. Did she walk away with all the joint money and leave a few months of bills unpaid?

Lola Bunny · 11-28-2011, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by glatt

The other big question was the closing of all the joint bank accounts. Did she walk away with all the joint money and leave a few months of bills unpaid?

I had a joint account with my mom. I went to the bank and closed it by myself. They gave me all the money that was in the account. So, I'm guessing that depends on the state or bank, it's possible.

SamIam · 11-28-2011, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Lola Bunny

So, I'm guessing that depends on the state or bank, it's possible.

I think it all comes down to the wording on the account. If it said "Els AND Biatch," both their signatures would be required. If it said "Els OR Biatch," she can probably get away with closing the account on her own.

footfootfoot · 11-28-2011, 07:49 AM

Really, WTF doesn't cover it. It's more like
WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK?

11-28-2011, 02:01 AM	#1
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Oh Els. How awful. I think Zen has hit the nail on the head - it's one thing to sneak away because she thinks you "just wouldn't let her go", but the unpaid bills are just mean and not, IMHO the actions of a person who "truly wishes nothing but the best for you". You have my every best wish. Is Clifton your son? Has she taken him away too? __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

11-28-2011, 02:21 AM	#3
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	Posting this because it is beautiful, truthful as only great music can be, and because it applies...to both Selene and myself. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

11-28-2011, 02:29 AM	#4
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	It is probably worth noting that none of this is about another partner, really...but the concept of "running scared" certainly applies. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

11-28-2011, 05:00 AM	#5
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	You must be in shock, Els. After you get over the shock, you need to do what you can do to protect yourself. The unpaid bills thing is, as others have pointed out, just plain mean and stupid. Sounds like Selene is acting out some Teenage Angsty Dream. I've seen this movie before. She may rue the day that she acted like such a bitch and garnered such bad karma for herself. I've seen it - I've seen it many, many times. Hold your head up, Elspode. More willl be revealed. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

11-28-2011, 07:32 AM	#7
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Holy CRAP Patrick. Just damn and WTF? lolz at xoBruce __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

11-28-2011, 05:31 AM	#6
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Oh ,'spode, im so sorry you and TF are going through this. I understand that it had to happen, but the way it was carried out was unnecessary. I hope the financials sort themselves out, I can't see how she isn't liable for 50% of those bils? Do you have a legal aid option over there? They say everyone is entitled to legal representation. Hugs and supportive thoughts your way xxx

11-28-2011, 07:39 AM	#8
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Wow! Elspode, I'm so sorry. I never could wrap my mind around your arrangement, but it seemed to work for you both so well. You were both so open about what you were doing with other partners, and didn't hide anything. That's why this really shocks me. It's so incredibly malicious!

11-28-2011, 07:44 AM	#10
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	THe mortgage and untilities unpaid are the thing. Are you walking away from the house too and letting the bank reclaim it? Whose name are they in? I take it she was the one actually writing the checks or this would not have been news she had to share with you? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

11-28-2011, 08:31 AM	#12
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	The other big question was the closing of all the joint bank accounts. Did she walk away with all the joint money and leave a few months of bills unpaid?

11-28-2011, 07:49 AM	#15
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Really, WTF doesn't cover it. It's more like WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK? __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

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