compliments and insults - Page 2

kerosene · 05-18-2005, 01:13 PM

I don't *like* insults, but I think I get more from them. If anything, they are a motivator to not be so much the way the insulter has accused me of being. Unless, of course, the insulter is full of shit.

Compliments are difficult, because I often second guess, don't understand, don't feel deserving of or become suspicious of the intent of the complimenter. Usually, i can take them well, but inside, I never allow myself enough indulgence to actually, truly believe them. Sadly, I know this very well about myself, I know why it's that way, and the truth doesn't make me feel any better. I haven't figured out how to reprogram myself the right way.

Perry Winkle · 05-18-2005, 01:24 PM

I ignore both compliments and insults. I will be my own person and take no outside input thank you very much.

Which could be why I'm alone.

So...

very...

very.....

Alone.

russotto · 05-18-2005, 03:46 PM

I don't trust compliments. I expect there's a hidden knife in any pat on the back.

hot_pastrami · 05-18-2005, 04:58 PM

I take both with a large grain of salt... but when the input is honest and unexaggerated, either one is appreciated.

elSicomoro · 05-18-2005, 07:06 PM

HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest.

hot_pastrami · 05-18-2005, 11:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sycamore

HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest.

I reserve a special collection of VERY large salt grains just for you, buddy.

warch · 05-19-2005, 12:56 PM

Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic.

So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

elSicomoro · 05-19-2005, 01:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by warch

Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic.

So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

Okay...who stole warch's login info?

lookout123 · 05-19-2005, 02:03 PM

i'm uncomfortable with compliments to my face, i'm always looking for the angle. it feels really good when you hear through the grapevine has been complimentary though.

warch · 05-19-2005, 02:16 PM

Was that an insult or a compliment? What does it mean when you're not sure? (I would attach a simple smilie, but I find that in the growing bar to the right of this text box there are 4,889 wiggly variants and emotional bullets to navigate, so I lost my will.)

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 04:42 AM

Since your question was thoughtful and intelligent, I'd have to say it was an insult... and you're right- it's friggin impossible to find the right smilie!!!

Is there a way to group the damn things??? You know- "happy", "mad", "sad", "confused", "dead/ill", etc...

by the way,
A compliment you hear behind your back is the best kind.

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 06:40 AM

Okay, That inspired me to take it upon myself to categorize every single smilie, and then I tried to post the list under "cellar comments and suggestions" and it wouldn't let me, said I tried to post too many smilies.

Yes, I have OCD tendencies when I have pms

Happy Monkey · 05-21-2005, 08:25 AM

Would it let you make one post per category?

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 12:44 PM

um, even if it let me do that, I'd have to make 24 posts...
let's see if it'll let me put in just the "happy" category:
HAPPY:

:p

staceyv · 05-21-2005, 12:45 PM

The "Disapproval/Disgust" category was much bigger...let's see:
DISAPPROVAL/DISGUST:

Yay! it worked. But would you really want me to make 22 more posts like that?

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A compliment	7	28.00%
An insult is less embarrassing	3	12.00%
It depends mainly on who is giving which	10	40.00%
depends on the topic	3	12.00%
any attention is good attention	1	4.00%
Fuck you, i'm sick of all the goddamn polls on here.	7	28.00%
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05-18-2005, 04:58 PM	#19
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	I take both with a large grain of salt... but when the input is honest and unexaggerated, either one is appreciated. __________________ Hot Pastrami!

05-19-2005, 02:03 PM	#24
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	i'm uncomfortable with compliments to my face, i'm always looking for the angle. it feels really good when you hear through the grapevine has been complimentary though. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

05-21-2005, 04:42 AM	#26
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	Since your question was thoughtful and intelligent, I'd have to say it was an insult... and you're right- it's friggin impossible to find the right smilie!!! Is there a way to group the damn things??? You know- "happy", "mad", "sad", "confused", "dead/ill", etc... by the way, A compliment you hear behind your back is the best kind. Last edited by staceyv; 05-21-2005 at 04:46 AM.

05-21-2005, 08:25 AM	#28
Happy Monkey I think this line's mostly filler. Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: DC Posts: 13,575	Would it let you make one post per category? __________________ _________________ \|...............\| We live in the nick of times. \| Len 17, Wid 3 \| \|_______________\| [pics]

05-18-2005, 01:13 PM	#16
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I don't like insults, but I think I get more from them. If anything, they are a motivator to not be so much the way the insulter has accused me of being. Unless, of course, the insulter is full of shit. Compliments are difficult, because I often second guess, don't understand, don't feel deserving of or become suspicious of the intent of the complimenter. Usually, i can take them well, but inside, I never allow myself enough indulgence to actually, truly believe them. Sadly, I know this very well about myself, I know why it's that way, and the truth doesn't make me feel any better. I haven't figured out how to reprogram myself the right way.

05-18-2005, 01:24 PM	#17
Perry Winkle Esnohplad Semaj Ton Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A little south of sanity Posts: 2,259	I ignore both compliments and insults. I will be my own person and take no outside input thank you very much. Which could be why I'm alone. So... very... very..... Alone.

05-18-2005, 03:46 PM	#18
russotto Professor Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 1,788	I don't trust compliments. I expect there's a hidden knife in any pat on the back.

05-18-2005, 07:06 PM	#20
elSicomoro Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 12,486	HP, I think you're a steaming pile of shit. I'm not one to exaggerate, and I'm being totally honest.

05-19-2005, 12:56 PM	#22
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	Both can be manipulative. Insults are generally more entertaining and comedic. So what about if they're not to your face, theyre expressed not for your direct benefit....you overhear someone complementing you to another or overhear someone bashing you. do they effect you more?

05-19-2005, 02:16 PM	#25
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	Was that an insult or a compliment? What does it mean when you're not sure? (I would attach a simple smilie, but I find that in the growing bar to the right of this text box there are 4,889 wiggly variants and emotional bullets to navigate, so I lost my will.)

05-21-2005, 06:40 AM	#27
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	Okay, That inspired me to take it upon myself to categorize every single smilie, and then I tried to post the list under "cellar comments and suggestions" and it wouldn't let me, said I tried to post too many smilies. Yes, I have OCD tendencies when I have pms

05-21-2005, 12:44 PM	#29
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	um, even if it let me do that, I'd have to make 24 posts... let's see if it'll let me put in just the "happy" category: HAPPY: :p

05-21-2005, 12:45 PM	#30
staceyv Lecturer Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 927	The "Disapproval/Disgust" category was much bigger...let's see: DISAPPROVAL/DISGUST: Yay! it worked. But would you really want me to make 22 more posts like that?

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