I Need A Man - Page 3

02-26-2009, 11:59 PM

I just got out of a six-year marriage, and suddenly have twice the bills... there's an irony in it, too, because I supported him while he built his business and only cut back to halftime in 2007 so he could work full-time. Now I'm trying to live on half my usual income, without a partner to make up the other half. I've had those thoughts... "If I just had a partner to pick up the slack..."

But I really think it's healthier right now not to, and important, on a pretty major level, to work out how to survive and thrive on our own. It might mean having a housemate (a friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with me... she can't pay anywhere close to half, but it helps) and it also might mean living in a place that's not your ideal, or even close to it. But MAKING IT is really important and knowing that you're self-sufficient and capable will heal you tremendously.

DanaC · 02-27-2009, 06:49 AM

And if you really just want the hot sex, we'll have to club together and buy you a plane ticket, because there's a queue of attractive American men forming on this board :p

Shawnee123 · 02-27-2009, 08:53 AM

I don't need a man for money; I have my own. I don't need a man to buy me things; I'll do that myself. I don't need a man I think makes me look good or increases social standing, whatever that is; I've never cared much about those kinds of things. I don't even need a man for sex; "I'm responsible for my own orgasm"--Teri Garr in Tootsie.

But a companion, a friend, someone who happens to think you're the bees knees, gets you, will be caringly honest if you're being a butthead, and gentle when your world is falling apart. Someone beside you in your darkest of times, someone you know wouldn't take advantage of your heart, or make you feel badly about yourself to make themselves feel better. Someone to talk to, laugh with, and be silent with...

I could deal with those things.

xoxoxoBruce · 02-27-2009, 09:54 AM

I think you just described a dog.

Shawnee123 · 02-27-2009, 10:15 AM

I've never had a pet tell me I need to take a step back and stop being a butthead. I've also never had a pet tell a joke, or even laugh at mine. Maybe I need a monkey?

xoxoxoBruce · 02-27-2009, 10:17 AM

No, they fling poo. I think you've had quite enough of that.

classicman · 02-27-2009, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

I've never had a pet....

Thats right - you've only got cats

Shawnee123 · 02-27-2009, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by classicman

Thats right - you've only got cats

Heh...I don't want to know the details of your more intimate relations with dogs.

Though dogs can share spaghetti with you; it's romantic...I saw it on Lady and the Tramp.

lumberjim · 02-27-2009, 08:08 PM

xoxoxoBruce · 02-28-2009, 02:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

...I saw it on Lady and the Tramp.

You haven't lived until you've shared a meat ball with a tramp.

Elspode · 02-28-2009, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

And if you really just want the hot sex, we'll have to club together and buy you a plane ticket, because there's a queue of attractive American men forming on this board :p

And there's me. Don't forget about me.

Elspode · 02-28-2009, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

IBut a companion, a friend, someone who happens to think you're the bees knees, gets you, will be caringly honest if you're being a butthead, and gentle when your world is falling apart. Someone beside you in your darkest of times, someone you know wouldn't take advantage of your heart, or make you feel badly about yourself to make themselves feel better. Someone to talk to, laugh with, and be silent with...

I could deal with those things.

And if he made you cum like an h-bomb, that wouldn't be so bad either, right?

Shawnee123 · 02-28-2009, 08:47 PM

Well, hell yes, the underlying point is that would be a great plus. But I don't have to depend on it.

Undertoad · 02-28-2009, 08:57 PM

See the difference between men's and women's perception of the relationship?

xoxoxoBruce · 02-28-2009, 09:12 PM

Yeah, I guess she's not looking for a stud, whose father owns a liquor store and has a twin brother.

02-27-2009, 08:53 AM	#33
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I don't need a man for money; I have my own. I don't need a man to buy me things; I'll do that myself. I don't need a man I think makes me look good or increases social standing, whatever that is; I've never cared much about those kinds of things. I don't even need a man for sex; "I'm responsible for my own orgasm"--Teri Garr in Tootsie. But a companion, a friend, someone who happens to think you're the bees knees, gets you, will be caringly honest if you're being a butthead, and gentle when your world is falling apart. Someone beside you in your darkest of times, someone you know wouldn't take advantage of your heart, or make you feel badly about yourself to make themselves feel better. Someone to talk to, laugh with, and be silent with... I could deal with those things. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-27-2009, 09:54 AM	#34
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I think you just described a dog. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-27-2009, 10:15 AM	#35
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I've never had a pet tell me I need to take a step back and stop being a butthead. I've also never had a pet tell a joke, or even laugh at mine. Maybe I need a monkey? __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-27-2009, 10:17 AM	#36
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	No, they fling poo. I think you've had quite enough of that. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-27-2009, 08:08 PM	#39
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	__________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

02-26-2009, 11:59 PM	#31
Tiki Guest Posts: n/a	I just got out of a six-year marriage, and suddenly have twice the bills... there's an irony in it, too, because I supported him while he built his business and only cut back to halftime in 2007 so he could work full-time. Now I'm trying to live on half my usual income, without a partner to make up the other half. I've had those thoughts... "If I just had a partner to pick up the slack..." But I really think it's healthier right now not to, and important, on a pretty major level, to work out how to survive and thrive on our own. It might mean having a housemate (a friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with me... she can't pay anywhere close to half, but it helps) and it also might mean living in a place that's not your ideal, or even close to it. But MAKING IT is really important and knowing that you're self-sufficient and capable will heal you tremendously.

02-27-2009, 06:49 AM	#32
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	And if you really just want the hot sex, we'll have to club together and buy you a plane ticket, because there's a queue of attractive American men forming on this board :p

02-28-2009, 08:47 PM	#43
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Well, hell yes, the underlying point is that would be a great plus. But I don't have to depend on it. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

02-28-2009, 08:57 PM	#44
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	See the difference between men's and women's perception of the relationship?

02-28-2009, 09:12 PM	#45
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Yeah, I guess she's not looking for a stud, whose father owns a liquor store and has a twin brother. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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