Superstitious People - Dealing With them

[xoxoxoBruce]

I ask if the sole purpose of her call is to argue with me, she said yes, I told her I had no time for that bullshit and hung up...

Re-read this. There is a problem on both ends of the line.

NO, NO, NO there is absolutely, positively no excuse for calling someone at *WORK*, to argue about anything.
I feel the same way about calling someone at work to chit chat but that's just a personal thing and not a serious transgression.

[Torrere]

Okay. You're probably right.

Nonetheless, I think that the line is still worth re-examining.

[wolf]

Originally posted by FileNotFound
So what I want to know is this: Can you "cure" superstition?

I have access to a variety of medications ...

Superstition? No, not really.

Delusion? Sometimes.

[insoluble]

i agree with the underlying issue theory. you seem to value logic as an essential trait in friends etc - so how do you expect an illogically minded girl like this to not drive you into a homicidal rampage within a few short years? are you truly in love with this person? do you really know her? it sounds more like you are basing this relationship on the fact that you have known this girl for a long time. that is no substitue for knowing her well your unwillingness to compromise and your escapist attitude of going out with friends rather than confronting the issue suggest that you may have better luck with a pet than a mate right now.

[hot_pastrami]

I have been in relationships with women who were into stuff like that... one girl was into all kinds of oddball alternative remedies. For instance, she'd put water in different colored bottles and place them in the sunlight. The water would apparently take on the color's "energy," and the water in each colored bottle became a cure for a particular set of ailments. With another girl, I learned after awhile that she talked to "angels" all the time, and had vivid memories from past lives.

I'm not outright saying that this stuff is bullshit, because I do reserve a little piece of my brain for allowing the supernatural to be possible, though forever condemned to "highly doubtful." But I am saying that such beliefs are not compatible with my logical mind.

I gotta say, I always wince when I see someone tell a story like this and people respond with "dump her!" They have so little information with which to offer such heavy advice. The only soul I can speak for is myself, but here's my relationship philosophy, for what it's worth. And it's worked very well for me.

A relationship requires five things to survive:

1. Absolute love.
2. Absolute respect.
3. Absolute honesty.
4. Mutual ackowledgement that relationships require effort (and are worth the effort).
5. Both parties put their partner's feelings first.

If any one of these aspects is missing or incomplete, I know the relationship is doomed. Everything else is just details.

These five things ensure that the parties are compatible, and are both prepared to compromise at all times. If both people put their partner's feelings first, each will get what they want from the relationship without feeling they made any great sacrifice.

Hope that helps you to organize your thoughts on the matter. If not, sorry for wasting your time.

[OnyxCougar]

I agree with HP here.

Her problem:
She firmly believes that radiation is causing her backache and you to be infertile.

Your problem:
That's nonsense.

The compromise:
Find out what she wants.
In your diatribe, you failed to mention what it is she wants. You said what she thinks, you told us that she found some small body of "evidence" to support her position.

That's Fine.
So what does she want you to do?

You said you hardly spend time on the computer at home any more. So if that's true, why is her back hurting? You're too focused on the argument and being pissed rather than ask her:

"So what do you want me to do?"

That answer should tell you much about the underlying problem.

[staceyv]

you two don't seem compatible. if you are the logical, scientific type and she is all into astrology and superstition, eventually you are going to end up hating her and in her mind, you will be the dummy (even though you are really the one who's right) and she'll end up hating you too.

[elSicomoro]

Originally posted by OnyxCougar
That answer should tell you much about the underlying problem.

Unless the answer is "I don't know."

[darclauz]

maybe your GF is jealous about all the time you spend on your 'puter and has started looking for reasons that you shouldn't spend time there....maybe you should hang up your keyboard for a few days and spend the time with her...see if she lets up. barring that, maybe only use it when she's not around.

my hubby had a puter that he spent more time with than the time we spent together...i eventually dressed it in a red satin bra, a wig, and big red lips....then blamed him for having an affair. it was a humorous event, but the angst behind it was the same.

oh...and don't mind dave.... he aint housebroke yet, but we really like him. think of him as hazing.